Disclaimer: I’m not asking you to believe in law of attraction. The only way to know if you can actually swim is to get in the water. The only way to know if your crush will date you is to court them and see. Similarly, the only way to know if law of attraction is real, is to experiment with it. No one can prove it to you except yourself. Approach law of attraction with sincere, open-minded experiments, and the results may surprise you.
My homeless years were cold and desperate.
And although I’d studied Law Of Attraction for years beforehand, it didn’t seem to be helping me very much.
I slept on frozen ground, benches, and (later on,) upright in chairs at Internet Cafes. I learned to clean myself with tea tree oil in mall bathrooms. I ran my business --barely making ends meet-- on an old beat-up laptop … until it got stolen.
‘Law of attraction is bullshit’ was a tempting thought.
Because the only thing I could see myself attracting was misery and failure. I had studied Neale Donald Walsch’s Conversations With God and Mike Dooley’s Notes From The Universe. I'd read Gabby Bernstein, Joe Dispenza, and more. And most importantly I’d read, listened to, and watched countless Abraham Hicks books, quotes, mp3s, and videos. I’d used their General Well-Being Mediations, their Money & The Law Of Attraction Meditations, and more.
So why was I still struggling, broke, and homeless?
I discovered later that it was because…
My law of attraction skills weren’t as great as I thought.
They were straight up bad. The thing is, like most people, I refused to admit I wasn’t as good at something as I thought I was. After all, I’d studied the law of attraction more than many experts, so I couldn’t possibly be bad at it, right?
Wrong.
I was terrible at it.
Because the law of attraction works on 3 key principles.
Each principle is basically a foundation, or a pillar, of making the law of attraction work. And none of them can be faked or glossed over. In fact, each one must be rock-solid and reasonably well-practiced. And during my homeless years, I only had one of the pillars covered.
So, from what I’ve written so far, can you spot which law of attraction principle I’d actually gotten a handle on?
Yes? No? Maybe? Well, I’ll tell you.
The first principle is our beliefs.
Or our thoughts you might say. We each have about 60,000 thoughts a day, and if the bulk of them aren’t positive and ‘believing’ in what we want, then the law of attraction will fail to work.
Sure, my thoughts were quickly growing darker every time law of attraction failed to rescue me from homeless despair, but on the whole, I actually had pretty positive beliefs and thoughts about law of attraction. I’d spent so much of my early twenties studying it, that it’d be hard not to have good thoughts about it. Definitely more than 30,000 thoughts of my day were optimistic.
So why wasn’t I magically rich yet? Or at least had a roof over my head living in a closet or something. The latter didn’t seem like a lot to ask from the law of attraction.
It’s because I was abysmal regarding the second principle.
The second principle is our moods.
Ok. So… I’ll admit, my moods during my homeless years were pretty bad. But in my defense, mood-mastery isn’t easy when you can barely get a few hour’s sleep without a security guard tapping you awake with his nightstick. Mood-mastery isn’t easy when you’re doing everything you can to turn a profit, but barely making enough to eat three croissants a day.
But here’s the thing. We have about 60,000 moods a day too, and mine were shitty.
I’d think something optimistic like “I bet something good is around the corner for me!” and deep in my gut I’d feel a sharp pain and my mood would darken the thought without me even realizing it happened. Or I’d think a positive thought such as “Hey, at least I’m still helping people while homeless!” meanwhile my heart was sinking and I just wasn’t happy.
And if someone tried to convince me to be happy, I’d snap at them, act like it was impossible to be happy in my situation, and challenge them to be happy after years of living on the cold streets of Toronto.
The point is, while the majority of my intellect may have been positive, or at least vaguely optimistic… my moods definitely weren’t. I was not a happy person while I was homeless, and I believed it was impossible to be happy under those conditions.
But the truth is, happiness is an inside job and can be accessed anywhere, by anyone, if we put in a bit of effort and practice into it.
This brings me to the third key principle of the law of attraction.
The third principle is our choices.
As with the second principle, I sucked at this one. I made lame choice after lame choice. I did so over and over because we have about 60,000 choices each day too. For example, I had the choice to appreciate the beauty of the earth around me. Instead, I chose to moan about my bank account. I had the choice to tune into my emotions and realize my mood was bad. Instead, I chose to numb my pain with self-indulgent whining. I had the choice to do what I really wanted each day. Instead, I chose to hustle, grind, and ‘productive’ my way out of homelessness.
I made a bad choice nearly every second, but I didn’t even realize I was making them, because they were small, subtle, ‘baby’ choices. I didn’t think they mattered.
But they 100% do if you want the law of attraction to work for you.
We live in a very intellectual society.
We’re raised to believe that being smart is good, not knowing something is bad, and admitting that we’re wrong or unskilled is avoided like the plague.
This over-reliance on intellect makes us ignore core parts of creating our reality.
Namely, the emotional aspect of reality-creation (our moods) and the character-building aspect of reality-creation (our choices.) At least, that’s how it went for me, and most of my clients.
We all ‘thought’ we understood the law of attraction. We tried to manifest things and failed. We then became furious and bitter when it wouldn’t work, not realizing we were relying only on an intellectual understanding of it, rather than relying on true emotional work and making bold choices throughout each day. If you’ve ever tried to use the law of attraction, maybe you can relate.
So how did I get out of homelessness?
Well, after a dark night of the soul sleeping on the tile floor of an abandoned mall bathroom, I became suicidal. I got as far as sourcing a drug that Mexican veterinarians use to put animals to sleep, but I had no address they could ship it to since I was homeless & ID-less. So I was forced to admit I was a failure at business, life, and even a failure at killing myself.
And this was the turning point.
I gave up. I let go.
I stopped being productive. I stopped painting a happy face on things. I stopped expecting to get out of this situation by my own bootstraps. I stopped caring if I was a ‘contributing member of society.’
And what did I do instead?
I started doing whatever I felt like.
I tuned into my emotions and my body. I started making bolder choices.
The truth was I was exhausted from the struggle and I didn’t want to hunt for food or find shelter anymore, so I decided I’d just lay on a park bench and either die of starvation or exposure. Giving up and embracing an abject, homeless death by starvation was the most counter-intuitive thing I’d ever done.
I laid there fasting for about 36 hours, until the bench started giving me blisters.
It was the first time I really, truly, said ‘fuck what I’m supposed to do, fuck what I’ve been taught, and fuck everyone else in the world, if I want to lay here and be a failure, that’s what I’m going to do.’
And interestingly, this got me out of my intellectual obsession with law of attraction and manually digging out of my hole, and got me to relax, be at ease, be at peace. It was the first time I truly, significantly, improved my mood during my homeless years. It was also the first truly ‘bold choice’ I made towards what I wanted, consequences be damned.
Like I said, it was a turning point.
Because after 36 hours my body was uncomfortable and hot, so I felt inspired to get up and go to the library for air conditioning. And just like I followed my impulse to waste away on the bench, I also followed my impulse to go to the library. From there I started giving my advice away for free on forums.
One of the forums was owned by Evan Carmichael, and his team was impressed with the wisdom I was sharing generously (little did they know I was just passing the time to cool down in the library.) Long story short, Evan and I ended up collabing on his empire for almost a decade. He helped me out of homelessness and together we grew his YouTube channel from ~1000 subscribers to ~3 million. I helped Evan publish 4 books, collaborate with Tony Robbins, Gary Vee, and more.
And what did I learn?
I learned that if I stopped over-relying on intellect, and put a bit more attention on my moods and choices that...
Law of attraction often guides us through impulses.
But it couldn’t do so when I ignored two of the pillars. Law Of Attraction can't work when I drowned out impulses with my egoistic ‘knowledge’ of the law of attraction and all the books I’d read.
I learned that my 2+ years of homeless hell weren’t really necessary. Sure they made me stronger and humbled me and made me a better person, but they weren’t technically ‘necessary.’ I just dragged them out due to my poor law of attraction skills.
At any time I had the option of changing my mood to one of ease, relaxation, and peace… but apparently, I had to fail at everything else before I even gave that solution a shot.
At any time I could’ve chosen to do what I felt like deep down in my gut, rather than what society had taught me, consequences be damned… but apparently, I had to choose every ‘socially acceptable choice’ first before I even gave that solution a shot.
I was an idiot.
Why not just put my intellect down for a minute and practice some emotional mastery? Why not put my ego down for a minute and simply do what I felt like, no matter the perceived consequences? Why did I act like the world would end if I just gave these two pillars of law of attraction a sincere experiment?
Because studying, reading, or ‘meditating,’ on autopilot while I ignore the more foreign and unfamiliar practices of mood-management and decision-making seemed ‘safer’ and more comfortable.
And this is something everyone can do.
We can choose the path that we imagine is ‘safer’, more ‘acceptable’, and more ‘comfortable’... but all it leads to is failure. We can also choose bolder, less familiar, 'new' beliefs, moods, and choices. It's up to each of us.
There’s something you should know, though. I wouldn’t call myself a master at law of attraction yet. I’m still learning, still growing, and a huge part of this is practice.
Practice, practice, practice.
Because leveraging the law of attraction to your benefit is a skill. And like swimming, cycling, or any skill really… There is a huge difference between someone who practices once a week and someone who practices daily.
So even when I got the hang of LoA, things still came ‘slowly.’
Why?
Because even though I finally knew all three key principles, I had so little practice at two of them. I was like a newborn trying to drive a car. I had a long way to go (and I’m still learning and practicing to this day!)
So it’s vital that you honestly admit your actual skill level with law of attraction.
Don’t sugar-coat it, don’t paint a happy face on it, don’t exaggerate it to sound better than it is. I did that, and I’m telling you right now, the only result that comes from it is pain, struggle, and suffering.
Once I admitted that I sucked at law of attraction, that I didn’t firmly understand the 3 key principles, and that I needed a boatload of practice…
That’s when things really began to kick into gear, and I believe the same thing can happen for you.
Especially now.
You can make massive positive changes to your life, immediately. Covid has basically ‘reset’ the world, it’s the perfect time to reset your approach to law of attraction. On top of that, crypto’s debut looks to be the start of a financial revolution, and it can also be a foundation for new wealth beliefs, moods, and choices.
In fact, law of attraction is a big part of why I’ve had so much success in my first 3 months here on Hive. I used my piss-poor law of attraction skills to get out of homelessness, and I used improved law of attraction skills to get the ball rolling here.
Imagine what you could do if you actually improved at the law of attraction.
Imagine what would happen if you mastered your mindset, mood, and moves that you make...
Anyway, I hope you enjoyed my story and law-of-attraction-insights. Either way, I appreciate you reading, commenting, sharing, or even skimming, and I wish you huge joy and success in all you do. (Tagging a few kind souls who may enjoy this read: @ura-soul , @atma.love , @riverflows , and @miriannalis .)
P.S. If you’d like to see me teach even more details of law of attraction, here’s a video post where I go pretty deep into it.
P.P.S. I’m being interviewed on Law Of Attraction tonight in the Holos-Lotus Community Discord, bilingually translated for Hispanics, please check it out if you’re interested.
~J-Ryze
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Your story always touches me. I'm so grateful You got it together and figured out the 3 pillars of LOA. And You taught me...even more grateful.
This is so well written and thank You for being so honest. You're a beautiful soul with so much to teach the world.
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Con mucho amor,
k-b
Thank you, I'm grateful I have touching stories to share, even if I didn't see the value while living through them. Glad you appreciate, and the feeling is mutual! ❤️🙏
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It's a very interesting opener to today's discussion. I am very excited about our meeting and I already have a lot of questions to ask you. I loved reading your story 😍 and learning about your results
Thanks for sharing it 🙏✨
I take this opportunity to leave the invitation for today's program 😊
Thank you so much! I thought it might be an interesting opener for today's discussion, and I'm excited for our meeting and your questions too!
I'm glad you enjoyed my story and thank you for sharing the invite for today's program! You rock! 🙏
Happy to have had the opportunity to share those two wonderful hours of tertulia with you, it was extremely valuable information and I am very grateful that you accepted my invitation 🙏🏻.
I feel the same, wonderful hours of tertulia with you as well! You had valuable questions, so I'm honored if they inspired valuable answers. Thanks again for your invitation and allowing me to be the first english guest! Wishing you a great day! 🙏
Oh Ryze, I must tell you that I have been very moved by your story, or well, part of it, I can't even imagine all that you lived even though I have read it, it must have been hard but I am glad that you have come out victorious, I mean, you are alive, now you have a roof and you are in Hive to share with everyone what is in your head, which amazes me more and more, from here on everything will be even better, you will see that yes, I am glad you have come to Hive because you are a master of life, you go teaching without expecting anything in return and it makes you better. hugs Joy.
I'm so grateful my abbreviated story moved you, @callmeenjoy ! I've lived a lot and may share more stories in the future. Yes, I feel very blessed to be here now, and able to share value with Hive. I've dedicated myself to mastering life as much as I'm able, and teaching others to do the same as much as I'm able. Comments like yours, and the kind support and shares of hivers help me in this mission, and I'm very grateful. Blessings and hugs! 🙏
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I am pleased to hear that all is well. Best regards💜
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I loved your writing and the simplicity with which you give this explanation of LOA. Certainly that desire that sometimes we have to give the explanation or intellectual validation to a matter that is only about the emotional part, is difficult for many to implement and even more, to believe. Thank you for reinforcing in me the concept of these three fundamental pillars for this to work. I am very grateful to you. Best regards.
Thanks so much! I do my best to write well and explain simply, so I'm very glad that shone through for you. Yes, it took me quite a while to understand the intellectual over-reliance I had. May we all practice these pillars well and create truly fulfilling lives, best regards! 🙏
Things have been buuuuusssyy! But I’m bookmarking this one (just like the last one!) because this is a must read!
Thank you for being so willing to share the vulnerable moments of your life. This is so meaningful and that is why the things you say are so relevant and vital.
Keep doing what your doing Jay!
Your making a H.U.G.E. IMPACT! ☄️
@wil.metcalfe
I believe it man, but I trust you're rocking it no matter how busy. (Go Wil!) Thanks for bookmarking and sharing your kind words here. I do my best to share value, some love it, some not so much, but I will indeed keep doing what I'm doing. Thanks bro! ☄️
FML
Fix my life.
Those little things matter.
Ah, so that's what that stands for! :D
And yeah, they really do, and I ignored them for way too long and paid for it. When I finally started really paying attention, each little thing began compounding on the others and I saw significant improvement.
Thanks for stopping by bro. 🙏
Yeah. A lot of people make an error with those three letters and end up asking the world for something else. Though I don't follow this philosophy to the point of worship, I do acknowledge the existence. Everyone is good at it. They simply ask for the wrong things.
I'll tell you a quick story. My kids when they were young, we're at the table eating. One says, "I wish we had mustard." So I explained. Save those wishes for something good because wouldn't it suck if the one time a wish actually came true, all you got out of the deal was mustard...
Indeed they do, and in fact, for years I did as well.
I also don't follow it to the point of worship, but acknowledge the existence. Everyone is indeed good at it, yet often ask for the wrong things.
Wonderful wisdom you imparted to your kids there, hopefully they took it to heart and wish a bit bigger ;) Thanks for sharing! 🙏
The balancing act with those looking one way while others look somewhere else. Without that, imagine what the value of something like a cryptocurrency would be. Through the roof, if that's what minds decided.
The catch is the fact all things in comparison would be equal in growth and opportunity, forcing value to stagnate in this scenario; never more, never less. Nothing to compare it to. Relativity.
The secret is those asking for the wrong things are a requirement in order for this thought process to yield positive results.
Fascinating. Attraction = gravity = something to hold it down. Universal rules. Unbreakable. Perfect. All is good in the neighborhood.
Yes, that balancing act of people looking different directions you mention... is indeed the relativity essential to life. Both sides are a universal requirement, and it's fascinating to think about. Really refreshing to talk about this with someone who gets it, thank you. 🙏
Me gustan tus historias, tus consejos y practicas de crecimiento personal y hasta espiritual, para el que sabe y profundiza en esta materia. eres un vivo ejemplo de la ley de causa y efecto, como vivimos experiencias basadas en nuestras acciones y palabras ya sean positivas o no tan alentadoras. Y es que somos seres espirituales viviendo una experiencia terrenal, evaluando un poco parte de tu vida es interesante lo que has vivido y como paso a paso estas cumpliendo tu misión de vida, te has empoderado y decidiste llevar las riendas, quizás llegaste a este mundo para ser un guía espiritual y ayudar a despertar a muchas personas que hoy yacen dormidas en esta realidad 3D. Muy motivador todo lo que cuentas; recomiendo a todos aquellos que te lean aprendan y pongan en practica tus tips y consejos.
¡Muchas gracias @floramarela ! Creo que todos somos técnicamente maestros y alumnos de los demás, pero algunos podemos ser un ejemplo más evidente o claro de cualquiera de los dos roles. Yo aprendo de ti, tú aprendes de mí, ambos aprendemos del otro :) En fin, me alegro de que te hayan gustado las historias de mi vida, y que todos sigamos despertando bien. ¡Gracias por tu precioso comentario! 🙏
Ayyy much appreciated! 🙏
I truly had a few circumstances in the past a few years ago, where I was forced to be homeless not because of drugs or choices. Im glad that my choices as I was forced to be homeless were to be homeless in cool places or provide a service to live on a farm etc. Luckily providing a service and making good choices during unfortunate circumstances got me through tough times. I still made bad finacial choices but luckily pulled it all off.
Now if Hive can go to a dollar and I guess HBD to $2, if it doesn't stop climbing than maybe my financial decisions were not all that bad.
Aren't you supposed you humanize yourself, explain how you got low before rising up before preaching to people about how they should live?
I get it, I am new to your blog but only two sentences even hinted at why you were homeless. Maybe your fan base knows but I don't and neither would new readers. Otherwise, this entire post seems like I wasn't or anyo homeless currently, or was homeless isn't living by an ancient concept that modern western society recently coined for profit by the New Age movement driven by Aldus Huxley and the esalen institute.
https://longreads.com/2015/06/09/aldous-huxleys-influence-on-the-esalen-institute/
What choices did you make before and after your homelessness?
I chose to have kids with a person who is more traumatized than me. I helped turn a woman from a hooker into a functional member of society. I gave her kids and it was probably one of the stupidest decisions I've ever made. I also chose to stay in a union that was firing the middle class systematically. I chose to stand up and protect our rights and the people being fired until I just wasn't called back like the rest of my coworkers. Stupid I spent 18 years in that environment.
Which by the way I ended up going to court against my union an employer and winning and basically I could work if I wanted to probably not enough to survive because of the Coronavirus and travel restrictions seeing that I do shows on the Las Vegas Strip. But why would I go back to work for someone who assaulted me on job site, tried covering at up and fired all my friends who had families.
It's Wikipedia. So take it with a grain of salt but here is your Law of Attraction sales people. 🐇🐇🐇
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Esther_Hicks
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/William_Walker_Atkinson
I found this difficult to read, understand, and follow, my sincerest apologies, it's possible I'm just dense. :) Anyway, it sounds like you've been through a lot, and don't believe in Law Of Attraction, which is fine, because as I said in my opening line:
Thanks for sharing your insights, input, and links. I appreciate you. Wishing you a great day! 🙏
Your are suggesting people are homeless by choice during a global depression where houses are being bought at twice the market value for cash by international investment firms. The same firms who are centralized in Vegas and fired the middle class just to buy their homes.
Your post is tone deaf and comes off as preachy.
You may want to re-read my post, I didn't suggest that at all. :) Wishing you a great day! 🙏
Uhm, I think I'm a bit on @dynamichivers side in this part of this discussion. Because I'm not still totally convinced of the effectiveness of the Law Of Attraction, how is it supposed to work or if it even exists.
And in my opinion, maybe you should stop being "dense" and try to debate further and better clarify with logical arguments your position before the opinions that are opposite and different to your own judgment and narrative about things.
I am a Defensive Pessimist, philosophically speaking. And that's why I find it somewhat difficult to believe in the Law of Attraction, its existence and effectiveness so blindly.
Oh! wait! Perhaps we are talking about the exact same thing here and we haven't realized it yet. There is a remote possibility that what you call Law of Attraction and I call Defensive Pessimism is exactly the very same old woman with a different gown, different glasses and different color hair rolls on her head who tries to show us the way to the future. ¿Could it be? LoL
Thanks for adding your input. I encourage you (and 'Dynamic') to believe whatever you want. I had my years of philosophical debate, and I still engage in such things from time to time...
...but I do so only with people who've clearly demonstrated an ability to absorb and process what I've taken the time to communicate properly and in the spirit it was intended.
It's possible. Either way, thanks again for writing and wishing you a great evening. 🙏
In all fairness he corrected his last post based off my comment.
I did come in strong and I can see how he was in shock perhaps that a such strong long winded opinion was levied on his post.
It is quite ironic how he displayed the very arrogance and unwillingness to process information outside of his own ego; that most likely caused years of his homelessness. I mean one can only assume as much if your going to humble brag about a mystical power that magically lifted you out of poverty without examples or substance; that someone's grandma sold in a book, who stole the concept from a guy who stole the philosophy from a yogi🤪🤣 Surly that wont come off as white privileging especially, while refusing to be fully educated on what your talking about with the use of ad homonyms in a half fast attempt to side step an argument.
There was no examples of how the law of attraction was used to rise him out of homelessness or self accountability for the choices that kept him homeless.
To humble brag about being homeless for years and say its was his magic thoughts that got him out of it; is arrogant and a slap in the face to the victims of this economic war against the middle class.
You may want to unfollow me and follow other content-creators. Either way, thanks for writing and wishing you a great day.
Thanks for your voiced support! Its been years... I look forward to reading your blogs again!
You write powerfully .
Looking forward to reading you more.
Thank you so much for saying so, I appreciate it! I'm looking forward to writing more (though my back-catalog has some pretty unique pieces ready-to-read if you're interested.)
Either way, wishing you a great day and thanks again! 🙏
I'll sure look them up.
Thanks.
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Hi, I don't know anything about LOA, but I like what you write, they are true stories that make you read the content in its entirety, I will check out your suggestion to read some pieces from their catalog.
I'm glad you like what I write, and that it inspires you to read the content in it's entirety! Wishing you lots of joy and value from my back-catalog, and a great day! 🙏
Thank you, I admire people like you who go through that kind of situation and overcome it, have a great day.
I appreciate this very much, and I'm so grateful that I overcame it. Wishing you a great day too! 🙏
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As always, deeply appreciated, ty! 🙏
What a story, my goodness! I was on the edge of my seat through every word, and I'm better off having read it. Thank you!
I'm so glad you got some value from it, thanks so much for sharing and wishing you lots of joy and success! 🙏