There are some love situations we find ourselves in where we know that nothing good is going to come out of it, nothing is going to work out. Even when we see the signs, we just cannot stop loving the person and walk away. I guess that is the real meaning of "love is blind."
At my young age, I have found myself in such situations up to three times in the journey of seeking genuine love. It was so hard, harder than you can imagine.
The one I can remember most vividly was not so long ago, it happened early last year, around this same time of the year. It was around March when a lady and I agreed to push a relationship forward to see where it would lead us. Just a few weeks into the relationship, I noticed how absent the lady was. I would call her attention to it, and she would come up with the excuse that she was busy. Because I wanted everything to work out, I would swallow my frustration and keep moving forward, even though I could clearly see the signs that the relationship was not working.
I would message her, and the messages would show as delivered, but she would ignore them while remaining active online. Whenever I needed her to reply to my chats, I would have to message her sometimes up to three times before she would open and respond.
The situation was so bad that I was the only one loving and making an effort for the relationship to work, and I kept feeling bad about how she was handling things. No lies, I loved her so much. Maybe she saw how deeply I was into her and decided to take things casually. I guess this is why people say we should not show our partners how deeply we are into them or love with our whole hearts.
The shocking thing is that I would initiate a mutual breakup since her attention and mind were not in the relationship, but she would say no and insist that we should put in more effort to make it work. She would tell me that she was going through a lot, which was why she had not been keeping up, but that she would try. Honestly, I initiated this mutual breakup up to four times because, even after we agreed to continue, her same attitude persisted.
In the long run, I could not keep up. I just needed the breakup by all means because she was completely toying with me, especially my emotions. I had to break up without following the usual pattern I had been using. She later tried to initiate the relationship again, but no, I was long gone. It was obvious she was involved with other guys, which was why her attention was divided, and I could not accept that in a relationship.
I wonder why it is so hard for people to honestly commit to love. Why agree to love when your mind is somewhere else, a situation that will ultimately lead to cheating? It is so bad!
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Lamentablemente, a veces ocurre que uno de los dos ama, y el otro no tanto. Así que me parece que después de tantos intentos fallidos, lograste salir a tiempo. Gracias por participar. Aún está a tiempo de editar.
Unfortunately, sometimes it happens that one of the two loves, and the other not so much. So it seems to me that after so many failed attempts, you managed to get out in time. Thank you for participating. You still have time to edit.