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In recent days, while I was checking my networks, I came across a phrase that made me smile, because when I saw it, I could not help but go back to that moment when I was not yet a mother and I had no idea what was waiting for me, ha, ha, ha, ha. Even when I was pregnant, I looked at some women I knew who already had their children and sometimes I repeated to myself: I am not going to do this the same or I am going to do it differently and I even swore to myself that certain things would not happen to me? How deluded I was! As if having a child and raising it had a manual, I soon discovered that the reality was very different from what I had imagined.
When I saw the new mothers, sometimes disheveled, grumpy, I thought I am not going to be like that, everything will be the same with me, why should I change so much? Surely some things will change of course, open a new baby, I said to myself, but I personally do not think it will change so much; I also had in mind that when my baby starts to crawl I will not let him take things from the floor or anything that are not his toys... when my baby was born I began to realize that many things were not in control, as I thought and very soon I proved it.
Source/ FuenteThe first thing I told myself would not happen to me happened to me. When my baby was born, I suddenly discovered myself, disheveled, with my pajamas on all day long, barely bathing and looking for the moment when I could do it in peace; I discovered that sleeping a full night was something very remote and that my dark circles under my eyes certified it, at that moment I saw that things would not be as easy as I had imagined them in my world. That was the beginning of the great adventure of being a mom. Another thing I said to myself: “I will not allow my son to crawl and grab things other than his toys”; a lie of my imagination, ha, ha, ha, ha, because everything he found he took and went straight to his mouth from pots, pans, combs, remote controls. Everything!
I noticed that even though she tried to keep everything out of her reach, she always managed to grab anything that caught her attention and it wasn't exactly her toys. As time went by I realized that my life had changed forever, my days were also filled with lots of laughter, kisses and hugs, I no longer cared so much if one day I walked around all disheveled or in pajamas, I learned that from the very moment I decided to become a mother my life as I saw it was not going to look the same. Little by little some things went back to normal, but not as they were before I became a mom; I don't wear pajamas at home as much as when my children were little, but from time to time, we all spend a day at home in our pajamas, but under different perspectives.
So, my dear friends, my best advice is not to have so many expectations, just live your stages with the love that only a mother can offer. Just enjoy the process, time goes by fast and there are only memories and advice to share, as in my case, a hug for those mommies who need it, greetings!
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En días pasados, estando revisando mis redes, me encontré con una frase que me hizo esbozar una sonrisa, porque al verla, no pude menos que devolverme a aquel momento en que aún no era madre y no tenía idea de lo que me esperaba, ja, ja, ja. Ya cuando estuve embarazada, miraba algunas mujeres conocidas que ya tenían a sus hijos y en algunas ocasiones me repetía: Yo no voy a hacer esto igual o lo voy a hacer diferente e incluso me juré que a mí no me pasarían ciertas cosas... ¡Qué ilusa fui! Como si tener un hijo y criarlo tuviera un manual, muy pronto descubrí que la realidad fue muy diferente a lo que me imaginaba.
Cuando veía a las nuevas madres a veces desarregladas, malhumoradas, pensaba yo no voy a ser así, todo seguirá igual conmigo, ¿por qué tendría que cambiar tanto?, seguramente algunas cosas cambiaran por supuesto, abra un nuevo bebé, me decía para mis adentros, pero yo personalmente no creo que cambie tanto; también tenía en mente, que cuando mi bebé empezara a gatear no dejaré que tome cosas del suelo o nada que no sean sus juguetes... cuando mi bebé nació empecé a darme en cuenta de que muchas cosas no las tenía en control, como pensaba y muy pronto lo comprobé.
Lo primero que me dije que no me iba a pasar me sucedió. Al nacer mi bebé de pronto me descubrí, desaliñada, con la pijama puesta todo el día, sin bañarme apenas y buscando el momento en que poder hacerlo en paz; descubrí que dormir una noche completa, era algo muy remoto y que mis ojeras así lo certificaban, en ese momento vi que las cosas no serían tan sencillas como las había imaginado en mi mundo. Allí empezó la gran aventura de ser mamá. Otra cosa que me dije: "Yo no permitiré que mi hijo gatee y ande agarrando otras cosas que no sean sus juguetes"; ¡mentira de mi imaginación!, ja, ja, ja, pues todo lo que encontraba lo tomaba e iba directo a su boca desde ollas, sartenes, peines, controles remotos. ¡Todo!
Me percaté de que, aunque tratara de mantener todo fuera de su alcance, siempre se las ingeniaba para tomar cualquier cosa que llamara su atención y no eran precisamente sus juguetes. Al pasar el tiempo me di cuenta de que mi vida había cambiado y para siempre, mis días también se llenaron de muchas risas, besos y abrazos, ya no me importaba tanto si un día andaba toda despeinada o en pijamas, aprendí que desde el mismo momento en que decidí ser madre ya mi vida como la veía no la iba a ver igual. Poco a poco algunas cosas fueron volviendo a su normalidad, pero no como lo fueron antes de ser mamá; ya no ando tanto en pijamas en casa como cuando mis hijos estaban pequeños, pero de vez en cuando, todos pasamos un día en pijama de cine en casa, pero ya bajo otras perspectivas.
Así es que, mis queridas amigas, mi mejor consejo es que no se hagan tantas expectativas, solo vivan sus etapas con el amor que solo una madre puede ofrecer. Solo disfruten del proceso, que el tiempo pasa rápido y solo quedan los recuerdos y los consejos que compartir, como en mi caso. ¡Un abrazo para esas mamitas que lo necesiten, saludos!
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Lo mas importante es compartir y dar amor a los hijos, lo demás pasa a segundo plano
Así es, lo más importante son nuestros hijos. Gracias por tu visita👻
As a mom, I don't beat up myself for days I couldn't live up to myself. Heck I can't even get my old life back anymore being responsible for my little one. Like you rightly advised, I'm taking things easy, slow and steady because doing too much will just cause me to burn out. An amazing article, thank you for sharing.
It is best to take one day at a time, because there are difficult days..., being a mother, then you just have to live those unrepeatable moments and also take time from time to time for us, to breathe and return to the load, I hug you from a distance, thank you for your kind comment🌼