Being in the position to be a stay-at-home mom right now is a massive privilege, but choosing to be a stay-at-home mom is hard, just like choosing to be a working mom is hard. Being a mom is a beautiful, hard thing.
My experience as a stay-at-home mom over the last 18 months has tested me in ways I couldn’t have imagined. Much of my identity had been wrapped up in what I do, how I earn money and what I create with the time I have left over… So, when I chose to forgo everything and focus on one tiny living, breathing project, I had to completely relearn how to be me - without the armor society expects of us.
Various moments-in-time on the journey from “baby” to “toddler”…
The challenges I’ve faced would be completely foreign to my grandmother’s generation. She would never have felt unseen sitting at a table of women, slowly becoming more and more invisible once they realized that she was wasn’t one of them... that she wasn’t a working mother.
But stay-at-home moms are workers: we are the backbones of our households, we are the nannies, the au pairs, the private chefs, the chauffeurs, the secretaries, the personal assistants, the nurses and the carers. In my first year as a stay-at-home mom I’ve become an expert in self-sacrifice. I’ve slowly allowed myself to dissolve into motherhood, and now one and a half years later, with a beautiful baby girl, who grows stronger every day, I’m ready to reclaim my sense of self, and reclaim what it means to be me, as a stay-at-home mom.
So, this series is about me, exploring how to “mom”, while becoming myself.
being a working stay at home mom is HARD! and I say working stay at home cause what we do is work and is not easy cause our coworkers are not helpful and cry all the time LOL.
Welcome to Hive we would love to continue reading more about your motherhood journey here!
Thank you for your comment and for joining me on the journey, it really is hard and amazing work.
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You are an incredibly strong and beautiful person. They don't teach you this in all the silly books (or the good ones) but us moms have a way of alienating eachother, whether it's over feeding methods, birth methods, sleeping methods or what our circumstances are. And it's really sad because we all need eachother... Actually. All I know is I've watched you embrace motherhood like no woman I've seen before. I see you and beautiful Maddy. You've done an absolutely phenomenal job. You still have many years in the driver's seat there, but as she grows, you'll reclaim little bits of yourself and it will be bittersweet as you gain tiny bits of freedom while she becomes more independent. ❤️ Thank you for this lovely post 🤗🤗🤗
Thank you my friend 💖