Generally.. in men, it is because of poor upbringing... and the environment they live in, that says it is alright to do so, and that abusing women can be justified and can go unpunished.
In women, they believe it is alright, they can survive it, for their children or they don't have a choice. Just think, no man can abuse a woman who can stand on her own two feet and walk away.
Education and proper upbringing.. can change a lot, as change starts at Home. I don't waste my time trying to change grown men.. but I spend a lot of time and effort trying to change the next generation, as I myself have a daughter.
In my own small way, teach boys how to become a man... and teach girls how to become independent.
For the current abuse, information can help... letting women know there is a place that they can go to that will help, genuinely. Unless there is, those women will stay that way and the men will think it is alright to do so.
here are but some example of why men do those things in my opinion;
- some men don't know how to handle women and resulting in violence to end an argument.
- blaming their partners for their misfortunes
- misunderstandings
- scared.. of their own ghost (accusing their partner is cheating on them, or neighbors poisoning their minds)
- forcing their partners to leave them, so they can be free
- worst of all culture that says it is okay to do so...
My dear reader.
I'm so happy that you are taking time to educate the new generation.
You are correct that poor information played a part in this act and all.
It's sad that a woman should have to go through this hurtful act.
You said a culture accepts it?
That's scary! What culture?
it is not "a" culture... but then again culture has a really broad definition (maybe I misused the word) let us just go with:
"Culture is an umbrella term which encompasses the social behavior and norms found in human societies..." from excerpt wikipedia
You said it yourself in your story... people knew but turned a blind eye, why? If she tells anyone, it will be probably her fault because she isn't a "good" wife, or it is just an accident, and so on and so forth.
this is quite the norm in all countries...
but this and everything else is just my opinion... there are lots of groups whom are more knowledgeable about this. You should ask them for help they have a therapist for your friend to help her cope with the pain and people there whom suffered as well and is well on recovery.
I just remembered a girl whom keeps talking about me about women's rights. 🤣
Oh I understand you my lady.
My friend is alright and she is doing great.
What country are you from?
Philippines.. you?
Nigeria..I have met a lot of Phillipino this year
I have met lots of Nigerians also in hive... mostly in dreemport.
I am a Merchant Marine Sailor... so, I have been in Nigeria a few times, can't remember the port. I sail in a ship that delivers LPG or cooking gas.
How about you? What you been doing?
Oh that's great!
Yes we use LPG to cook here in Nigeria and we don't have any active refinery here in Nigeria
I just graduated from university