It is really painful when we expect more from our spouse, but then their actions and words do not tally with what we expect. Obviously, while we have our own expectations, they too they have theirs. Little wonder his comment below indirectly points out the expectations he has from you:
You just have one child now and you can't take care of her," "What if there were more, how will you take care of them," or maybe he should also cook the meals for me as well. Oh my goodness, his hurtful remarks make me feel so frustrated, angry, and bitter.
In other words, he expects that taking care of one child should be an easy task for you and that is why, I think, he feels you shouldn't really be bothered.
I wish the misconception or expectations that he has could be addressed in the best way that he will understand to help reduce (if total eradication is impossible) this way he feel.
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