Thanks for sharing this very personal story about something I had no idea what it was before reading your blog. I was relieved to read your sister’s second delivery ended up as a success story, and I send her and your family my best wishes for the future! At the end, having your sister safe and happy is the most important thing!
I have an unrelated question.
She got married rather late as far as the societally acceptable age of marriage is concerned here in Nigeria.
Just out of curiosity, what is the acceptable age of marriage in Nigeria? I tend to believe that here in Europe, there is no such thing as an acceptable age of marriage anymore. For instance, I got married in my late twenties but I was not paying any real attention to the relationship between my age and wedding.
The acceptable age varies from tribe to tribe. Among the Yorubas, between the early and late twenties is considered ok for ladies while the early thirties is the limit for men. Beyond this range, your families and friends would start mounting pressure on you to get married.
For other tribes, it varies. Hausa people marry earlier (teenage years to early twenties) while Igbo people marry later (thirties for ladies and forties for men)
What is the most interesting is that you have quite a spread when you consider the full distributions (all tribes included). However, no one seems to care about the global situation, the tribal nature being dominant. This is something hard to imagine for a European like me, living in a very global society.
Indeed. There are over 400 tribes in Nigeria with over 250 languages. The diversity is huge.
As huge as your country (which is probably one of the reasons why there is no globality).