""Parents' first child is a beautiful toy. Everything about this toy is good. When the toy laughs, the parents laugh. When the toy cries, the parents' faces darken""
HELLo,,
How Are You All My Hive Friends??
Hope everyone is well.Today i will share with you
some of the sad and difficult stories that happend in my life.19.10.2020 my Daughter born.Today I will talk about my experience with c section.
My baby was in the breech position from the beginning of the third trimester until two days before delivery.Yes What is called Sahaj in Bengali is in reverse position. They told me that normal delivery is risky. So caesarean/c section is needed.
Wanted to try to deliver naturally. But what else to do. God's will. I mentally prepared myself for cesarean without wanting to. 19th 10 am. Suddenly a nurse came and said that the operation will be in the afternoon to mid-evening. To finish all food and drink by 11 am. After 11 o'clock, you can't even drink water. It seemed as if I was a convict who received the death sentence in prison.
After which the execution will be done after a few hours and therefore the last meal of life should be finished at the first moment. So at 10:45 in the morning I finished all the food and drank water very well. I went all day and came in the evening and said that the operation will be at night, so if you want water or I can have a few sips of drink and a biscuit or two. I don't drink anything except two sips of water out of fear. Again I kept waiting for him to call me for that. It was 11 o'clock at night. ?" "I answered, yes. The nurse said that the dress is being given to him. Get ready for him. Hearing this, I felt fear inside, I cried from a great pain to leave everyone and go somewhere far away. Holding back the tears, I said to my mother, get ready, I have to go. My mother immediately cried. It seemed that my mother was more afraid and upset than me. Mom asked the nurse for 10 minutes. Mom hugged me and was crying a lot. I held back my tears and laughed and said to mom with courage, I should be afraid but you are crying! Stop crying. The crying is over.
Now it's my turn to go. 11:20 pm I am in front of the door. Mom is crying again. My cousin's husband (also working as a doctor in another hospital) is daring me to say this and that. Mom holds me and starts crying again. To complete some formalities. My husband Tuhin He couldn't see me anymore because he ran away. He didn't know that I was being taken for OTI.
Not being able to see my mother and Tuhin at that last moment made me cry. And in India, the husband is not allowed to stay in the OTI room during delivery. To my mother. I wanted to apologize. But the words did not come out of my mouth. Only tears came out of my eyes. And I entered the room with the desire to see Tuhin for the last time. Meanwhile, Tuhin cried a lot because she could not see me.
I am lying on that bed. I think, I could have gone and apologized to my mother once and I could have seen Tuhin! I did not make the request to the doctors because of shame.After some kind of objavation, the doctors will finally start the operation. They are talking to me to relax me mentally. I won't lie, although I am mentally and physically very string, I had a fear at work. This fear was more about my unborn child than myself. It seemed that even if I did not come out alive from this operation theater today, my unborn child should come into the world safely.
Doctors have reset the surgery, it's been a long time. I am waiting to hear the first cry of my child, for which I have been waiting for the last 9 months. And I am thinking, today, if something happens to me in this world, let my child see the face of this world healthy and beautiful..
Good news 😍😍😄😄 In no time, that long-awaited cry. Ah! Hearing that cry, a smile of great achievement on the corner of my lips! A strange good feeling worked. That good feeling cannot be expressed in any words. No mother alone can feel this good feeling. Still that cry floats in my ears, as if I will never forget. If If possible, I would have captured that moment.
Within 1 minute, the baby was brought on a tray and showed me some kind of glimpse. Although I could not see my daughter well. She was immediately taken to show my family and my daughter's father after some checkups. Meanwhile, my surgery was over.
Then I was taken out of the OT and introduced to all my family. Tuhin came and almost cried with happiness..Waiting, when I will be taken out of here to my family. Mom And I was thinking about Tuhin.
Meanwhile, I am also waiting, when will I be given to my family. He put it on his chest and gave him milk. Naturally, my baby was not getting milk. She was crying. Meanwhile, my body was full of pain and pain.I did not have the strength to feed my baby properly. The baby was crying because of hunger.
I returned home. For many days, I could not feed Babu properly, even caress him. It took Tuhin's help to get out of bed for about 1 week. Even with Tuhin's help, it took about 1 minute to get out of bed. If I moved the body a little from side to side, it felt like someone had cut this body in half right in the middle. If it was moved a little from side to side, it would split into two parts. What a pain!! I used to cry out in pain.
It's been 2 years since my Delivery i still have occasional pains in the cut area. I get back pain after standing or sitting for 10/15 minutes. Although the doctor said, these things are normal.
Now I understand the meaning of this word that how difficult it is to be a mother. That 12 hours of observation! I felt like I was a dead corpse lying in a grave without a pillow. Where there is no one beside me. No chance to move, no chance to drink some water. No chance to see my child with full eyes and caress. No chance to stop her crying and hug her to my chest. Neber. When I feel so helpless, I have no choice but to ask.
I am lucky to have so much support from my mother and husband during this difficult time.
Finally, I will say one thing, it is not so easy to give birth to a child. Whether it is by cutting the belly or experiencing labor pain. The creator has made the mother beautiful. He has made every mother's pain mixed with the joy of giving birth even more beautiful. Every mother has her own pain. The mother who endures labor pains for hours and shows her child the light of the world, she knows what mother's pain is.
No mother's story is ordinary, every mother's story is extraordinary. The creator has given every mother the ability to bear the pain of childbirth with a smile, to give birth to a child with the courage to risk her life, so she has made mother's great and beautiful in her place. May all the mothers of the world be well and healthy😄 😄