This wasn't the topic I wanted to write about today. I had planned on making my entry this morning on weekend engagement prompt ideas, but something happened yesterday evening in my estate and I decided to pour my heart here with my fellow mummies and Daddies of this noble community, maybe someone can learn from it.
It was a black Friday yesterday in my estate. I feel so much sad seeing my fellow woman lose her life when she would have laid so many things aside and attended to her health. I understand that some irresponsible men in marriage are bent on making the life of their wives miserable. Why bring lives (children) to this world when you are not ready psychologically to take care of them? I made this statement because if you are ready psychologically, even in poverty, you will do any kind of legal hard labor to be able to feed your children and not run away when you think that the hardship is becoming unbearable, leaving the whole burden on the wife alone. This was the case of the husband to this woman that died yesterday in my estate.
She married the man 15 years ago. Things were not rosy at all and they kept managing until the man finally left the woman and the children to an unknown place. This woman is a very friendly type, always smiling, always working hard, and hawking her cooked food all over the place. Her greetings alone would make you patronize her even when you didn't want to. She was always on the road hustling to take care of her 3 children and send them to school as well.
Her children are all boys and she managed to enroll them in school and still put them to learning skills (in the mechanic workshop around ) after school daily. I so much admire her efforts even without the runaway husband. If you see her, you will easily see a woman under so much stress. She does all manner of local jobs for people aside from her cooking business. All these were to make ends meet, even with the high cost of living today, she still manages to feed the kids and pay bills. 3months ago, she had an accident where a big trailer vehicle hit her head without stopping. She was lucky to survive the accident but with no medical attention. People advised her though without support to seek medical assistance (scan or x-ray to be sure there is no internal injury) since the accident is about the head but she insisted that she was fine. A few days after the accident, she continued her daily road hustling. It's been day-to-day stress for her until she suddenly slumped yesterday. The children shouted for help and she was rushed to the hospital. Upon diagnosis, the doctor revealed that she had internal bleeding. Hmm, before anything could be done, this cheerful woman died🥲!
It was such sad news to most of us and we were rushed to the hospital. Behold, the husband there. Someone who had run away from their wife and children suddenly appeared just a few hours after her death. Many people felt like flogging the man for leaving the whole responsibility to the woman. Upon that, he immediately demanded that he takes away the kids instantly but people denied him of that at least if it will happen not immediately.
There is no point blaming the dead over what she didn't get right but I wished she did an x-ray of the head after the head accident maybe this internal bleeding would have been detected. Life first before any other thing. Now that she is dead, all her hustling has been for the good of her children but here we are. I say again to anyone reading this post, pause and take care of yourself!!!. When it comes to health, life has no spare. No matter the hardship and responsibilities, ensure to make good health your priority, I know that many mums are so emotional, doing all kinds of sacrifices for their children while neglecting our health but know that as far as there is life, there will always be hope.
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Oh, it's so sad, women should endeavour to take their health as priority too as much as they do unto others, I don't know why most men of this generation are only good at impregnating a woman and leaving her to cater alone for them when she is suppose to be a suppotter, may the cheerful woman RIP
Yea... health should be our priority too to avoid sad story like this one
The bad husband who failed to play his fatherly role subjected that woman in such a mess
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This is indeed sad..mother's and sacrifice.i feel she's considering the cost of going for a scan to how her children will feed and how the money will go a long way☹️.
Honestly I will say, it's not easy to bring out this money and go for scan without considering what the children will eat.
God bless mother's out there.
Same time like you said,it's good mother's take a break and do check up, because if something happens the one they care for so much will end up suffering so much pains..
It's so sad she lost her life.
I hope her children and family finds comfort ❤️
It's so sad ....my heat is heavy seeing the kids in pain right now. It would have been better she is alive and suffer hunger with them than to give up the ghost
It's not easy to bring out the money for scan when feeding is there too but sometimes we just need to consider the most needed which is life
I really appreciate your comment my darling ❤️❤️🥰😍
Your right ma'am health is wealth 😊😊 God will sustain the children regardless..
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Amen oo 🙏
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Your welcome too 😊🤗
I feel really sorry about the case of this woman as she clearly had her share of stress in this life. I just wished she could live long enough to enjoy the fruits of her labor. I 100% think they shouldn't hand the kids over to the runaway husband because he has already demonstrated serious signs of neglect of responsibility.
I hope there is some distant family around that will at least take care of the kids. I've lived a life without a mother when I needed her and I know how difficult life will be for those kids, especially not having either parent around.
This sounds a lot like us Africans not going to the hospital until situations become critical. I know a lot of people here as well who barely survived all types of accidents and because they could get up and walk away fine, they refused to go for a check-up in the hospital. To some extent, even I am one of such people.
The thing with internal bleeding is scary and surprising. You don't know anything is going on until you get checked or until it's too late.
Yea, the distance relations already carried the kids as I heard...the man is just irresponsible.
Honestly, health care should just be accessible free of charge if possible at least to meet the health services of the poor who can't afford the bill
I am sure the woman may have wanted to visit the hospital but money wasn't just enough
Hi @nkemakonam89, this sad reality that this mother lived and suffered and now her children are suffering, touches my heart. I know what it is like to have important medical needs and not have the money to pay for them, health is deteriorating until it collapses, it recovers again but the problem is still there unattended and that is what we must avoid at all costs when we are mothers with young children. I will pray for those children, they are the ones to take care of now and hopefully they have some good family members to take care of them.
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Yes, it's important to attend to our health do we can live.... imagine the pains those children are going through now, however their distance relations already carried them away and I do hope they will give them a good life.
Good health should be our priority.
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I am so tearly right now. Same thing happened to this woman i know back then in onitsha. She sold anything sellable to be able to put foodbon the table while her husband barely cared if his family eat or not.
This woman was hit by a trailer that lost brake in the early hours in the morning when she was hawking pure water. She died instantly.
It's too bad while her husband was still in bed sleeping
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May God help women ooo
This is sad too
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