Just the other day I had a hair cut. I was getting bored of the undercut, but mainky because I cut it wrong one time and the uneven line is getting on my nerves. So I am planning on having it grow firts, then I'm going back to the undercut. It's much more manageable that way.
My daughter was there at the salon, waiting for me to be done with my haircut. When she saw the result, she thought she wanted a pixie haircut too. It was getting a bit late so I just told her we're going to have it done Friday, after her boxing session.
And come Friday, she collected the promise and off we went to the salon right after we left the gym. I love how confident she is with her choices. She was the one who chose the designs. I gave her a couple of choices and she really stick to the choice she made.
I used to think I'll have trouble styling her hair because most kids want their hair done before leaving the house. She went through that phase, but now, she's on to another phase. She wants a simple hair that does not need too much time to be styled.
Tatay and I always remind her that her beauty does not depend on her hair, or the clothes she wear. It comes from within her. And because we always tell her that, I think it has an effect of confidence and freedom in her.
She can freely choose what to wear. Sometimes she goes all girly and wears a dress with a cute bow. Sometimes she chooses her pants, shirts, and her Bumblebee shoes. I like that she does not feel restricted with the norms that society set. More importantly, I love that she is able to practice that sense ofnl independence and decision making.
I know it's just hairstyle and clothing, but it is a big deal for a kid. As early as now, she knows that she has the freedom to express herself through her style. Letting kids decide for themselves about these simple things empower them. They practice the habit of thinking and deciding.
It is really helpful, actually, for a mom if the kid already knows what she wants. Whenever we have to go out, I am not as stressed out as before because I don't have to decide for everything and everyone in the house. Each one of us has their own chores and responsibilities and we all work as a unit. When I set a time for leaving, we are able to follow the schedule because I don't have to carry all the decision making. It is true what Charlotte Mason said in her boom Home Education:
"The mother who takes pains to endow her children with good habits secures for herself smooth and easy days; while she who lets their habits take care of themselves has a weary life of endless friction with the children."
It's just a bit scary though. Teaching her to be independent also means teaching her to not need me in the future. And the ultimate marker that I have succeeded in teaching her is when she does not come to me anymore for help. I know she says that even when she's in college she's still going to wanna sleep beside me, but this is really part of parenting. Therr will come a time when they will not need us anymore, and we need to be okay with it because even if we wanted to, we can't be here forever.
It's funny how far my mind has wandered off while waiting for her in the salon. I'm just here crocheting, but my mind has gone so far in the future. I take photos of her every once in a while. I'm just amazed at how her personality is unfolding right in front of me. Motherhood indeed is a gift.
You’re such a great mom, mommy Rome! You are raising her so well! Not all moms can manage that kind of parenting. And at such a young age, I’m surprised she’s already strong and independent. How much more pag tanda na nya dba. She’s incredible!
Enebekeshe! Hahaha. Thanks Witty. Yun nga ang hope ko na maging paladesisyon syang nilalang pagtanda nya pra hindi yung circumstances or other people ang magdedesisyon para sa kanya.
Seeing the back side, I bet it looks really great with her. Ganito hairstyle ko during highschool ee i mean ganito kabaha tas with bangs pa, lol, skl, hihi.
And seriously, you are one awesome Mom. As i've said before, you letting her choose can also help her in the future esp when it comes to decision making. Letting her fly on her own will surely give a big impact on her future. Sana andito pa si Hive if that happen and you share some of her successful decision making on some serious matters. Good job in there (☞^o^) ☞
Yan kasi yung naging kulang sa min nung bata ako. Laging walang choice, laging restricted. Kaya kailangan, maging paladesisyom ang little person ngayon pa lang para alam nyang lagi syang may choice. At dapat din masanay syang maging independent ngayon pa lang para di sya mahirapan pagtanda nya.
Yes naman, kung sana ganyan din parents natin b4 no. Kaso may ibang way din talaga sila to teach their child ee. You kid will surely grow stronger and braver (☞^o^) ☞
I love how decisive she is! Ang ganda ng likod ha! Great job mama, for letting her decide for herself.
Ganap na ganap ang pagiging paladesisyon nyan. Haha.
yep my time talaga na a chidl will think na di na need yung parent nya sis pero as pero my experience, mas gusto ko pading may mama sa tabi kaya minsan pumupunta ako sa bahay nya at mag papapluto, sasabihinkong di ako marunong pero gutsto ko lang sya makasama.
Dami nating challenge sa pagiging ina sis ano? Nung new year, nakit ako mga cousin nila may boyfriend na, di ko maimagine kung panahon nang may boyfriend mga anak ko, katakot yung thought
Haru josko. Di ko rin ma imagine na dadating din ako sa point na makiki kilatis na rin ako ng boyfriend. Matagal pa yun. Haha. Pero naiisip ko na rin yan.
Same tayo, may paglalambing din sa Mama kahit matanda na. Yung padalaw dalaw tapos papaluto, gusto ko lang talaga i-experience ulit yung inaalagaan pa ko ni mama. Haha.
naku sarap namna talaga pag may nanay na magaalaga sis, teh best kasi ano.
hah aoo matgaltagal pa, wag na muna natin i wrorry yung mag ganung bagay haha
I actually love this haircut and it seem to be finer than the long one
Keep it up!
Kudos to you as a mother!
Thank you. She just wanted the long hair when she was doing ballet. Now that she's into boxing, she's just so happy she doesn't have to grow her hair long anymore.
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STOPLook at it,is beautiful
Being a mother always selects something special and good for her children and at this moment we see in the picture that your daughter's hair is looking very beautiful with time it will grow again.