This was a really interesting read, I had not heard of the researchers and specialists that you mentioned. All of this makes perfect sense and I would agree 100 percent with the findings from both of the studies and experts.
Kindness goes a long long way in a relationship and a healthy, lasting loving relationship involve compromise and sacrifice on the part of both people in the relationship.give and take are important as is not always having to be right and the other wrong.
Patience, compassion, and above all communication is important. All of this is based in kindness. Take turns to decide what’s for dinner, what movie to watch, cleaning, cooking etc. or divide tasks and chores or responsibilities in other amicable ways where the dicpvidionis fair and equitable.
I know in my own past relationships, things were never amicable and truth h be told, abusive. Men get abused too right! I decided to ignore the red flags and made excuses for behaviors and the deeper into the relationship,the more I accepted, all the while never getting my own needs met.
That’s not to say in any way that I was a perfect partner, I want, nobody is. I have regrets and have learned a great deal. Entering into a committed relationship takes serious commitment. Unless both people are prepared to be kind and loving, to work hard, it will likely not last.
Thank you again my friend for a well thought out and informative post. Excuse the typos, I’m doing a typing with one finger, on my iPad response, my spell checker isn’t tuned up lol!
Yeah. I have regrets on my side, for my mistakes and regrets for putting up with so much and not leaving the relationship at a proper moment. But...now, I think kindness has a major role IF it's manifested both ways. If not, the relationship won't last that much, if one is the enemy and the other is the pacifist. Thanks for reading.