Who is a good listener? A good listener is one who listens attentively to what he is being told. This person doesn't just listen, he digests and understand what he is being told.
I made some findings and I realized that it's not easy to be a good listener. I've noticed that most of us want to talk back or give an immediate response to what we are going through and I think it is not needed.
Also, I know that you stand to lose nothing when you're a good listener. You can only gain from being a good listener. I'll give different examples of what I mean.
When a teacher is teaching in class, we have different kind of students. We have the ones who pretend to listen but their minds are not there. But, if the teacher finishes the class and tells them to ask some questions, a listener will always have a question. I said this because I believe that you cannot understand fully what someone has taught you without having a question or without having something that you don't understand. A listener in class would have digested what the teacher taught in class, take the thinking to another level and asks the teacher questions about it after the class. Also, whenever there's a general test in the class, you'll know the good listeners by what they write. It may not be by the result but you'll know by what they write.
A good listener makes a long lasting relationship. I have always believed that good listeners are different breeds. A good listener always listen to understand what the other person means. When you're in a relationship with a good listener, such a person will give you the freedom to express yourself in your own way. They'll understand you from your own perspectives and reason with you. When you meet with a good listener, you'll know that their major aim is to achieve you both common goals. Also, when you date a good listener, such a person may even listen to you ramble for hours about irrelevant things and then pick the relevant ones out of it and make use of it. A good listener can even listen to your mood without you saying a word. This set of people may listen to your face, heartbeat, body movement so as to tell what you're going through.
A good listener does his work well. At work, there are different kinds of people. There are people who don't wait to listen to their boss's instruction. They rush to get things done and at the end of the day, they won't do well what they have been asked to do. Now, let's get to a good listener. When this set of people are given a work to do, they listen attentively to what the instructor asked them to do and they'll make sure they do it accurately. They'll even stop at the time that you told them to stop at. A good listener will make sure that he does the work the exact way you have described it because he has listened to you explain what you want the work to be like and he won't do anything less than that. Most people enjoy working with a good listener who can follow the exact instruction that he was given.
Good listeners don't talk much. They only talk when it is needed. They listen more than they talk and being a good listener has a lot of benefit.
Are you a good listener?
I shared those pictures with you all because I love to take random pictures.
Luckily for me, I am an introvert and I tend not to talk much, which has made me "mastered" the art of listening over the years. But there's also something called selective listening; where a person will appear to be listening attentively to everything you are saying but they are only paying attention to the things that interests them, that's almost as worst as interrupting someone when they are speaking