I spent a little time thinking about my year today and, more specifically, the things that went well, and not so well. It's been somewhat of a challenge and, looking back on a few situations, I wonder how I managed to bring it all together, but I did, mostly.
It's not been all tough going though; I've had some really great things happen, some of which I've personally brought into being and I'm proud of that. That's been a really great part of my year in itself, the fact I stepped out of my comfort zone, thought out of the box, worked super-hard and made something happen. Now, here I am with a week or so to go in the year feeling that it was, overall, a good one.
I often talk about ownership, effort and discipline, about standing up and taking the first step, even though it may be a difficult thing to do, and moving forward. I also talk a lot about doing uncomfortable things, meaning getting out of one's comfort zone, even though that exposes one to risks; the risk of failure amongst them. It's what I tend to do though, because it's outside of the established lines, out of the box we're inside of, where something great may be...we'll not know if we don't look, or try.
In the last couple of years I've made major changes in my life with mixed results. I say mixed but don't necessarily mean good or bad, life isn't often that black and white. There's various shades between black and white and various degrees of good or bad...I've experienced many of them.
Looking back now, I can see different ways I could have done things, better ways that may have brough better results, but I can't change what happened, only what happens now and into the future...and I will. That's how I work best, understanding the past and applying it to the present for a better future. Viewing my last year from different perspectives is healthy, helpful and horrific at times also - I mean in those cases where I wasn't my best version - but it's all helpful.
Thinking out of the box, getting out of my comfort zone, and actively seeking new and better thoughts or attitudes, creating new paradigms, is something I learned a long time ago and I suggest it to those I mentor hoping they will consider doing the same. There's great value in it and it's not let me down; sure it has hung me out there a little I suppose but in so doing, being pushed and pulled, I've found hidden reserves of...hidden reserves of me I guess. It's that which helps me push into uncomfortable scenarios, thoughts and attitudes, and carries me forward.
Have you gotten uncomfortable in the last year? Have you found the need to dig deep, find something more, and use that to carry you through or around a big rock in your life? Have you faced adversity and won, lost or drawn? Feel free to tell me below if you feel comfortable opening up about it.
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Do you think you've had a generally satisfactory or better year? It sounds like it's been mostly good from your posts :)
It's been ok, generally. I've not said a lot of things on Hive though, on purpose. It's been stressful and whilst it sometimes helps to write it out some is personal and things I'd rather not divulge. A few know some of it, but not the full extent; who wants to hear all my problems though right? 😊
I can't complain though, I'm alive, for now at least. Tomorrow morning it could be another matter. One never knows.
How about you? Been a good one?
I don't mind hearing all about people's problems if they're comfortable telling me and statistically it's unlikely I'm the only one XP If not cathartic, at best you end up rubber duck debugging.
both J and I are rubber ducks over here, sometimes we'll just blather out whatever is giving us problems to the other person and demand WHY WON'T THIS WORK?! like the other one will actually have anything remotely resembling a clue that might allude to the same universe as understanding what's going on
I think the only time blatting all your problems is a problem in itself is if you're one of those people that whine incessantly but refuse to actually do anything other than that. I'm pretty sure you know exactly the type I'm talking about, and you know you're the polar opposite of that type XD
Drat about the stressfulness :<
Last couple of years haven't been great, this year was probably better than the previous ones at least, and even at the worst it was still several orders of magnitude better than the worst that could happen.
Incessant whining isn't good. It can be healthy to get things off ones chest though, helpful too, but there's a lot of whining and no action sometimes. It's not my way. I tend to do the reverse.
I think it's a societal thing, the whining, it's like, all of a sudden, that became the thing to do. Partly the victim mentality and the expectation ethos combined I suppose.
You definitely have a good attitude towards life, there is a saying that "he who does not risk does not win ", but the fear of failure is one of the worst fears. We are not all risk takers by nature, and not all risks are equal either.
I could say that this last year has been the worst of my life, but as contradictory as it may seem, it has also been the best in many aspects. I am not the same person I was last year and I believe that adversity refines like fire.
The idea is not to fall or fail, but to know how to get up in spite of them. Not to follow the same path as everyone else, or even not to follow the voice of the crowd or do what others expect. Surprising as it may seem, this can be a good thing.
I think I will be encouraged to write about my own experience. Your words have been motivating.
Have a nice rest of the day 😅😉🤝🌷
I like this comment a lot as it suggests that you've taken ownership and, despite tough times, have kept on pushing forward which speaks highly of you. I like your thought process and wish you all the best moving forward.
Amen, thank you very much. Those of us who do not naturally act this way, find in words like yours an encouragement that friends us to go forward in spite of ourselves or what others or society itself expects of one, hoping that we will act within the box. As Buzz Lightyear would say "To infinity and beyond ". 😁😅💪
Buzz Lightyear has much wisdom to teach us. 😁
Uh uh... I ain't goin there.
You know my Story anyways...
"Ain't Nobody got dat kinda time..."
Lol.
I know I repeat myself, but I love reading all the posts they always lead me to many reflections and thoughts. I confess that the last year has certainly been positive from a general point of view, certainly very much for family and loved ones. From a working point of view it was in transition but I think the next ones will be as well since I'm currently only looking for methods to accumulate credit to invest, today I work in a kitchen, tomorrow who knows... everything aimed at not having to exchange my time tomorrow for money. For me time is of the essence, I think it was understood eh eh! Thanks again for the ideas, I'm also following you assiduously, we could say that you're also becoming my mentor 😉
Thanks for your kind comments, I really do appreciate it.
You're on the right track and I like your thinking. Who knows what the future holds but, if you do a few things now, it's likely to hold things more to your liking and by your design and creation, than if you don't. You know? It's like baking...you do certain things initially to deliver a predictable result.
Thanks, you are always kind. I'm trying to do all the steps I have to, unfortunately there's not a manual for everything. I think I'm on the right track also having a decent plan, let's see how it goes I'll obviously do whatever it takes 😉
I have probably two years since I've pretty much lived in that comfort zone that leads me to nowhere, but I believe I'm gonna have to crack the shell next year. Comfort leads nowhere. It's good in "proper dosage" bot overdoses are killing the spirit.
It's a balance I guess, or so I've found it.
No one wants to jump into a pit of deadly snakes, that's uncomfortable, but jumping over one might prove advantageous - still uncomfortable, but a calculated risk. We need to weigh it all up I suppose, see the risks and gains clearly and then decide from there if it is worth pushing forward.
Either way, life won't always be easy, we need to find that balance between doing the hard things and keeping our spirits up. There's great emotional reward from having tried and achieved.
Thanks for commenting.
This has been an "average" year for me Galen and from so many things that have happened to me, I have learned that there are only two ways to react to pain, the first is to let it destroy me, I chose to move on, and the second is to use it as an impulse to be stronger, be alive and have full health my best gifts... I try as much as possible every day to live to the fullest.
Living full days gives less chance for regret later in life I think. We need to do what we can now based on what we know and to help lay the paving bricks that will carry us into the future.
True, Galen builds the future from today. But from my perspective I do it with full life and health, the rest comes in addition.
First am happy that you have impacted so many lives by mentoring them on the things that will be useful for them. Seriously, my past year and the year that is about to end has been full of up and down. But at the same time, I have achieved so many things while make some mistakes. Well, will write more about that
I think ups and downs are acceptable if one is moving in generally the right direction. Life isn't always easy, or agreeable, but it is all we have and we need to keep taking steps, keep moving.
I've been thinking about that for a few days and planning to write a post about it.
As about my comfort zone, I'm out of it, most of the time.
Good writing!
I'd like to see that post Erika, my bro. (Lol, just kidding, I couldn't resist it.)
Seriously now, I think that in writing out these things we're able to see them more clearly, out them at arm's length. There's value in that in respect of ordering the things and thoughts, rating them by importance and then evaluating which to carry forward and which not.
I figured you to be a fellow out-of-comfort-zoner. It's a good place to be.
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It's great to read that you've been able to look back and say 'yes, I did great things and moved heavy boulders out of my own path through sheer determination and perseverance' and I totally admire that about you. You always seem to have a balanced approach at seeing both the good and bad alike, learning from both as to what you can employ in the future to improve further.
This last year for me personally? I don't know. I suppose it depends on who's evaluating it. I could have done a lot more, more efficiently, more effectively and with more precision. I could have handled situations better, been more assertive and not such a pussy, I could have gripped life with both hands instead of handing the reigns to that of chance and going with the flow or "wherever it takes me"...Hindsight is always 20/20.
Thank you, I appreciate it. I guess I learned early on as a kid that life is hard and that if I want some certainty, I have to create it. I didn't know at the time, but it was developing a habit of ownership and responsibility and, with those, came effort as that's required to make the first two happen. It's worked for the old G-dog.
Your last paragraph...yep, I get it and based on the little I know, I agree. But, you also did some stuff, got some shit done, a lot really, and that's all on you...it's your fault! You know? I mean you took ownership, responsibility and showed effort. You made things happen. You could have done a lot differently, but you didn't, and what you did do brought you to this time, place and space...so, fucken own it, lift more heavy shit and take some more steps.
Ok, maybe not very motivating, but that's how my head thinks in respect of myself, so that's what I say to others.
It's motivating, I suppose there will always be room for improvement immaterial of what I get done (or not get done)...but I've turned the page and I'm now working my little ass off at this new gig so I suppose there is also always the flip side of the coin.
Have a fabulous day G-Dog, you deserve some good ones.
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Turning pages is a good thing to do, new plans, a fresh start, and all with the benefit of knowing what happened prior and the adjustments made based on that experience. I'd say that's pretty legit.
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Yup I'm on a good road leading somewhere in a better direction. I'll take the small wins when I can. I'm far from where I want to be, but seeing as I'm still an independent contractor, this could bode very well for my business.
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I'm such a ninja, you'd never even know, that's the height of my sneakery.
I hope one day I can talk about how not so good my year has been. For now I just can't find words to put them together but then once there's life there's hope, this keeps me going. I'll go harder next year.
I hope that you have a good enough year to want to talk about it.