have always been a calm, quiet and respectful woman
Anger doesn't mean one can't still be these things. Anger isn't disrespectful, it's an emotion. People people can be disrespectful whilst they are angry though, but that's a whole other thing. I think anger is healthy as it shows passion and can bring great change.
By respectful, I meant not to say bad words, even when I'm upset.
I guess sometimes we do, we're all human I guess and some human emotions cause us to do things we'd probably not do in other circumstances. I know what you mean though, lashing out isn't always going to end very well, but we need to allow ourselves to be...we,,, ourselves and sometimes we are just more human than at other times.