My High Value Man - Thoughts.

in Self Improvement2 years ago
Being a man in this present generation comes with a lot of pressure. I mean, both pressure from society and self-induced pressure. So much is expected from the male gender that most don't even know how to grow. The girl child gets much of the attention and in the end, men end up growing clueless not knowing how to disseminate between acceptable and non-acceptable behavior.

Well, today we will get to know about some tips that can help improve the quality of a man.

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I’ll talk about 10 things that can make a high value man. So join me as I take you on this journey of “My High Value Man”.

Keep Your Honor.

In describing self-love, I love to use the not-so-regular line “You cannot give what you don't have”. The importance of self-love cannot be overemphasized. This concept has been misinterpreted by a lot of men today and even replaced with selfishness.

Self-love is identifying and appreciating one's strengths, weaknesses, and everything in between. It does not only make a man attractive, but it also helps him make high-quality decisions through self-awareness. A man who keeps his honor knows exactly what is best for him. He puts his purpose first and knows exactly when to leave or stay. That’s why he can boldly say “Baby, we will go see the Cinema after work”. Why? Work comes first.

Andrew Tate, an American media personality once said, “I focused on myself and that's why I have managed to attain the highest quality females”.

Self-love breeds self-satisfaction and self-satisfaction makes you be yourself. Being yourself keeps you in charge. A highly valued man is a man who has the wheel.

Be Confident in yourself.

Confidence is the opposed version of the meek version of yourself. It radiates, hence easy to be dictated. A confident man does not only look attractive, but he also charges up his environment.

The displacement of confidence for pride has led to the clash between men and women in our society today. A confident man is resilient, optimistic, and less anxious.

Obey the law of Respect

A man who respects himself earns himself respect. Simply because respect is reciprocal. Most men think it's all about “I did what I thought was right”. Respect can be equated to being considerate. A man of high value will consider others before acting. Don't get me wrong, sometimes, we need to take high-level decisions that require us to consider the benefit of the majority.

Respect teaches tolerance and patience. Moreover, masculinity is nurtured by respect.

Be Focused in what you want.

Knowing what you want and how to get it is a big flex. Have a goal and plan for it. Understand that life is in phases and take it at your pace. Society has put so much focus on relationships, sex, and marriages that most men forget they have a purpose. A highly valued man sees his little wins as a motivating factor to do more.

“Chase the bag and girls will come to you” ~ Andrew Tate.

Think Logically

While women are led by their emotions, men are led by their reasoning. This is one of the classical differences between a man and a woman. The better you are at analyzing situations with clarity, the more masculine you seem.

Logical thinking makes a man remain calm in the face of adversity. It connotes independence and confidence. These are the characteristics of a high-value man.

Be Authentic

Why set rules when you can not keep to them? It’s funny how most men can't take what they give out. There should be an alignment of your actions with your convictions and beliefs. Being authentic comes from within and is simply being who you are.

Authenticity is sassy! it’s a trait every man should possess. Get a standard and keep to it! Make a rule and stick to it! Because why not?. That’s what men of value do!

Be Strategic in your plans.

Always have a second plan. Develop different means to arrive at the same result. As a woman, I can boldly say this is one thing women look out for in men or maybe not all anyway. But yeah, it portrays the feeling of safety.

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Nobody wants to be with any man without a vision. Always plan. Daily plan, Weekly plan, monthly plan, But plan. It helps reduce unnecessary pressure. A high value man prioritizes his sanity.

Be Ambitious

Naturally, men are created to lead and women, to be led. When a man decides to become a follower instead of a leader, he losses his purpose as a man. A purpose-driven man has a vision. They are more attractive to women because “safety and security” are what every woman desires. Ambition is like an indicator women use to predict the financial success of a man. It gives the feeling of hope. Hope breeds trust. These two bonds are very vital in any relationship.

Life should not be analyzing women. Get busy chasing your goals and women will come to you. The truth is a woman can tell from the first impression if a man is ambitious or not. Why spend 12 hours of your time on social media trying to prove why men are victimized?

Women should be a compliment to your life and not the center of it. -Rich Coper.

Communicate when necessary.

Heavy on “when necessary” because you don’t always have to talk. Men and women communicate differently. While women communicate using body language, men love to communicate verbally. They put their thoughts into words facing the situation as it is. To be a highly valued man, the 3 “Cs” of communication should be maintained.

Confidence: Maintain eye contact while speaking and use a pace the listener can understand. Be open to the opinion of others.

Clear: Speak less and listen more. Try not to sugarcoat things in a non-arrogant manner. Be assertive.

Controlled: In communication, the tone speaks more than the actual words. Watch your tone. High-value men are assertive communicators.

Prioritize your looks.

Taking this last as the most ignored. Most men give no attention to their looks. To them, fashion is a woman’s thing. Some even believe the size of your pocket decides everything.
Looking good doesn’t have to be an all “bling bling designer's outfit”. Simply cutting a good hairstyle, shaving the beards when necessary, maintaining good body weight and a healthy diet can greatly improve one’s look. Women love men that prioritize their looks. It is believed that a man who loves to look good will want his woman to look good as well. This is not always the case though. Always look your best. Emphasis on “your”.

It makes you stand out.

While people see the outside, your creator sees the inside. However, the outside is a reflection of what the inside is. Safeguard the door of your mind. We become what we think, what we see, and what we believe. Pay attention to your thoughts. Your achievements should be a motivating factor and you know who a failure is? The one that gets comfortable on the ground. Life is a race. You keep running and each win qualifies you for another. So keep going! That’s what men of value do.

This is what my dream man of value possess. What do you think?

I’ll love to know your thoughts on who a high value man is.

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You sure have made it easy to understand the importance of self love

Nice post and well thought out ... all young men should read this !!

Thank you @themagus. Really, all young men should read this.