This is one heck of a ride, humans can most times seem frustrating. I must say it is no easy task to stay in marriage. If you want to know about my marital status, I am single. Hahaha, anyway I know I can't run forever, that time of settling for a family is getting closer and closer. I had a recent conversation with one married lady and she was giving me some marriage hints. She was very frank. I must say, marriage will not be sweet 24/7 or 365 days. There are times that the heat will come up and both parties will want to prove a point. In short, she told me about a current quarrel she picked up with her husband. While she was explaining, she saw the looks of what I may refer to as marriage fear in my face. Come on Dani she said, this shouldn't discourage you to get married soon.
You've got to be kidding me, she is really one good adviser despite having some family challenges she still stretches out voices of encouragement. To some point she accepted her mistake in the conversation with her husband as she was talking with me. Her idea here was that she dared for the instant result of a demand which made him angry. The husband played his part and she was left to fulfill the other end under inconveniences for peace to reign. I was just there trying to merge both ends and render the needed solution while also imagining why conflict arises in marriages. She also helped me answer the question. You know she said, husbands and wives don't grow up together. The family differences and background will surely have negative impacts.
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Her point was clear, her husband wasn't her brother, she met him twenty five later or more. Understanding both parties completely becomes not an easy task from here. Consider the many quarrels you picked up with your siblings even while growing up together with the same blood flowing through your veins. I learnt something very important from her that day and I hope to apply it in the future. Aside from marriages, there are several other relationships that make us who we are. We come from a family, we live in an environment with neighbors, we have wok partners, we have customers and are also customers or clients to somewhere. How to cope when one or many of these groups gets on your nerve is not that easy to come by.
Currently speaking, I just picked up a disagreement with my brother who is also my business partner. Of course we are disagreeing on a transaction which is more pressuring to me than him. He is refusing it to go through while I really do need it to go through. He has his points no doubts and I also have mine. Striking a balance in the midst of pressuring times that can make you flare up if very necessary. I try to check the overall relationship, the time and years it has taken to build it up, the things we have achieved thus far and the more positive things that lie ahead. Understanding what is at stake in the midst of a quarrel or disagreement is very vital. Relationships that have lasted for years break when tough words on the day of anger are released.
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I tried my best to balance the entire conversation, while keeping my temper in check. Of course we all have anger issues, we just have to make the necessary choice of keeping ourselves in check. How did it end?, as usual, a disagreement to later agree, something that I am always grateful to see such level of maturity. If you can't cope with people then you are about to drown yourself in depression and frustration. Make sure you learn needed ways to adapt.
How about the aspect of business, how many times have customers or clients mostly get on your nerves. Countless times, I must say I have found even myself faulty and have learned from my mistakes. A customer can make your business day want to begin and end in frustration. Your ability to sense a level of anger transfer is needful. Speaking from many of such experiences, some of the may have had a quarrel at home, office or along the way and you could be the one having to hold the bags. This is where I choose to speak less, hear him out in every disagreement and just hope he goes home without getting any anger response from us. As I earlier said, you must consider what is at stake; reputation and customer relationship.
To conclude, let me add, people are a pack of problems and also a needed source to move along. You can't live the entire world alone. Just like trying to raise a family, husband and wife are needed to unite and raise children. Planning ahead of troubling days is one of the needful. Even as we grow as business partners together with my brother, I know there will continue to be disagreements to keep business in check and foster ahead. We need to understand that even as we feel others are stepping on our toes, we may also be doing the same. Learn to cope not that I am saying you should give in to toxic problems. Setting balances at such instances is very mandatory.
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