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define or refine?

I think most struggle to simply define themselves, which is necessary before they can refine themselves.

any struggle in life always get the best of us and make us too refine

That's a pretty thought, but unfortunately not accurate for everyone.

need to have the mindset to make out learning from everything

The latter.

Happy to be (a human frog, or am a frog human?).

Both, in some ways