The trick is to understand what is a justifiable emotion and what is not. We think our emotions are accurate and they may be, based on what we know, but that doesn't mean what we know is accurate.
I use the illustration of if my wife asks, "How do I look?"
If she hears me say "You look fat!" She is going to have a negative reaction.
But, what if I said "You look fab!" and she misheard?