Just recently, Robin has expressed this fear to me, not knowing how she could live if I were to pass. She tells me that she hopes she goes first. Knowing that this notion of me passing and her worrying about that is very unsettling. I can understand her concern and remind her that our four children would be there for her at every turn.
This line from Desiderata is one of my favorites. (But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.) It's a stark reminder to live in the moment and not worry about what may happen in the future.
Losing one's soulmate and the pain that follows can never be truly realized until that devastating time comes. We are the fortunate ones because we loved beyond words and because of that, great suffering will follow.
Thank the Lord for our children, without them who would we turn to?
The passing of time doesn't heal all it just takes some of the pain and puts it on the back burner.
I wish both Fiona and yourself can find some peace of mind during these times and allow fond memories of the men you so loved to wash over you.
Peace be with you, my friend!