It's deliberate.
People can be challenging. They're complex and have their own thoughts, needs and feelings which often dictate their actions, and they can be stubborn, obstinate, selfish and hurtful among other negative traits besides. And, fortunately, people can be amazing creatures.
We come across each over our lives, and those who fit in somewhere in between those two extremes, which can leave us feeling uplifted or deflated depending on which we come across and how that interaction goes.
Just yesterday, I was left uplifted by a person who is a shining example of exactly how amazing a person can be and, predictably, the feeling has endured. My weekend isn't over yet but due to one of the best people I know it's started spectacularly and will will finish that way due to how that friend of mine left me feeling.
I believe in having a small friends circle because it minimizes the chance for people to affect me negatively and means those I choose to have around me earn that right.
I'm selective with who crosses the invisible boundary I place around myself and it's worked well over the years. I'd rather have a smaller friends group and know those friends are the right people who deserve to be there than a broader circle and not feel as confident with who's inside it. I do this deliberately because it's within my control and it's my responsibility to ensure I have the best one possible. I focus on creating that, deliberately.
Here's another Saturday Selections installment, one of a series of posts in which I share some music I've been listening to. I know you won't like everything I select and that's ok, it's my selection after all.
If you like music and want to share some with the rest of us you're free to do so and maybe you'll even help someone find some music they haven't already discovered. If you wish to use the #saturdayselections tag that's ok too, it's a free space to do as you wish.
As the years go by, my circle of friends shrinks, also because most of them have emigrated to other countries, so it's quite difficult at my age to connect with people in my circle as friends. Besides, I don't have the time for it... I always have things to do...
So, deep down, I miss my friends a lot, and even though we communicate by phone, it's not the same as before... time and distance separate us, even if we don't want them to.
I loved your music tracks... and today I also shared mine from this week, and thanks to them, the days became more bearable.
Have a great weekend @becca-mac
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You said you miss your friends and I understand that. You also said you have trouble connecting with others. I wonder though, do you see yourself ever finding new friends to surround yourself with considering your older ones have moved away or are you too closed of to new friendships?
I saw your saturdayselections post and think it's really nice a few people are starting to join in my concept with me.
Becca 🌷
I think the best age to make friends is when you're young, because there's more time for socializing, and deep down, we all want the same thing, in one way or another: to be happy.
I don't know if I'm too locked away in my own world, or if I just can't find people with whom I can build new friendships...
I feel like it's hard for me to reconnect with people in real life... although here at Hive, it's always easier...
I like the concept of Saturdays, and I've started listening to music thanks to it... it really adds something that excites me and helps me clear my mind.
Have a great Sunday @becca-mac
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We probably become more selective as we age as well I suppose which possibly effects our desire to go through the friendship process.
Becca 🌷
As you draw inspiration from your friends, you also get to be an inspiration to others through this reflection, which I fully support. Some of us take a while to understand that not everyone can be part of our close circle, but when we get there life is more beautiful, it is a wisdom that makes us grow and is projected strongly with those people we value, and therefore they value us too. Beautiful Becca, thank you for sharing it!
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Becca 🌷
I love your selection today!!! Especially the second and third, I like those songs very much and yes I also have a very small group of friends, only two, friends friends friends, and not just anyone I say friend, I am very selective. This has helped me as it has helped you. One of those two friends is like my lifelong sister, 28 years of friendship.
28 years is a long time to have a friend, I'm sure you've been through a lot together.
Becca 🌷
Many things and now she is my proxy in Argentina, I trust her completely. Thank you.💗