Is there a reason to like me?

If you set out to be liked, you would be prepared to compromise on anything at any time, and you would achieve nothing.


Margaret Thatcher


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Hello there, full-time weekenders!


My short answer to the topic is "be my guest". But that wouldn't be so thoughtful of myself. So let's get to the general sense of how people become fond of me or do not.


I was never popular during my school years. If there something I remember dearly about those days is the actual end. It was not like I struggled at school. Every problem met had a solution and I could bring myself to have the grades and learn the stuff I needed. Moving on out of the stuff at school, I started to notice something. People liked me.

And I think the whole point of the thing was that I was myself. I spent years learning things and cultivating myself in areas of knowledge and how to listen to others. And I think that's what makes the whole difference. There's also the fact that good memory is at the order of the day. So, chances are if you have a conversation with me you might not have to recall many of the things you said. I'd do it for you.

There's a recent anecdote. During my reading, a guy stood up to say something. It wasn't related at all to comments or had anything to do with my presentation. He just wanted to be listened. He sang an interesting song. And I gave him the spotlight. Just because I know being ignored feels awful. And I go through life helping people take a step forward. I listen to them. I care about what they say. There are other things in the mix. But those are some of the ideas that come to mind.

It is weird to try to get to the idea of why people like me. Maybe it is because I don't around expecting them to do it. There are people who can't stand me. I don't blame them. Then again, if they don't like me one bit, I'd give them more reason to not do it.

So, it must be a thing about being myself and not having second thoughts on the details about being loved or hated. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter. Some people are important for life; others, not. And this varies way to much to stay up late thinking about how it works. The only thing you can do is not taking for granted the connections you have made so far.

Or maybe there's something to gain out from being liked by everyone. I believe that is too much trouble for what it is worth. At the end of the day, you'd need to make too many concessions in order to be a golden coin (that's a Spanish calque). And you'll must likely end up being like a golden-coated coin, just having a layer for show, but nothing of worth inside your shell.

Maybe people just like me because I make good cookies and damn good cakes.

I wouldn't complain. Cooking is one of the best things one can learn to do.

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Hey, we'll have to try those cookies and cakes. So far I only have your word for it that they're good. Is there anyone here who can vouch for that? 🤣 (tenía que poner la carita para que sepas que bromeo)

There is only one thing with which I differ. All the people we meet in our lives are important because they always teach you something about yourself.

Have a great weekend!

I would argue about that, not everyone that comes around our life is important. Case in point, if you get mugged you wouldn't consider having your life at risk or losing pit stuff as an important lesson.

For my cookies and cakes. Let me @isauris, @adncabrera, @marlyncabrera. Digan por acá si las galletas que hago son buenas.

I haven't tried the cakes, but the cookies are my favorite in the pelotita of the world 😁💯 I love them so much that I stole the recipe and use it often.

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Actually when thoughts like that come to my mind, I erase them and put pleasant thoughts because I firmly believe that we attract what we think about. But yes... one day I was mugged in the early morning. I've been mugged two or three times. And I've learned several lessons.

I love that you called all those girls hahaha... cheers to all of them.

Give me cookies! @bertrayo cookies are the best ❤️ The bad thing is that I ran out very quickly and now I'm very far away 💔

I'll have to send you some ♥️

I certify its goodness. I have tasted them, eaten them and dreamed about them.

I don't know how good those biscuits are hahaha but what I do know is that being authentic and yourself also makes people like you, of course the one who likes you.😃

I would love to try those cookies as well..

But then I believe people love you more for your authentic nature..

Being authentic is not a recipe for being liked. But it is easier than being whatever people wants you to be.