It is becoming less and less common to find couples with long cohabitations, people do not give themselves enough time to get to know each other and instead of making an effort to get to know each other they opt to leave the relationship, which is undoubtedly easier and requires less effort.
I count myself among the lucky ones who have been able to maintain their marriage for a long time, I have been with my wife @damarysvibra for thirty-four years now.
I would be a liar if I told you that all this time has been a garden of roses, no, we have had the normal ups and downs in any couple. However, the important thing is that we have learned to find the most appropriate way to manage conflicts, which is undoubtedly an important key to be able to be with the other person for a long time.
In the initiative proposed this week by friend @galenkp asks us to say three things we like about our partner, I tell you..
Joy
Damarys is a woman who radiates joy, that is something that everyone who is close to her notices. That joy is evident in everything she does and that is why it is very easy to be by her side. There are few times when her mood becomes sad or taciturn, she is very aware of that and when she feels that things are affecting her negatively she looks for a way to see them in a different way.
Being with her has been a great blessing for me. With her, I have learned to tone down my tendency to see the sad side of life; there have been many times when some of her observations have made me realize that I am being exaggerated, with her I have learned a lot about equanimity.
Tenacity
Another of my wife's great virtues is tenacity, she has a great capacity to persist in the achievement of her projects. In this she is tireless. Damarys does not stop initiating projects, she is a total entrepreneur who does not stop in the face of bad results.
Many times it has happened to her that due to circumstances beyond her control the results have not been the best. But that does not diminish her restless spirit. If a project does not go well and fails, she immediately begins to think of a new idea and does not rest until she puts it into action. Her tenacity and willpower are made of steel. This has been the case since She is still young and now that she is entering her golden years she still has the same drive. I really admire her ability to stay active in inventing new projects.
Commitment
Damarys belongs to that group of people who take things seriously. Anyone can be sure that she will give one hundred percent when she gets involved in any activity. It is an attitude that applies to everything she does.
During the time she was a school teacher her dedication to the children was total, she was always looking to do things in the best possible way, looking for ways for the children to get the most out of it. Any student who passed through her hands was considered lucky. Both children and parents loved her for the willingness with which she did her noble work of teaching.
We have also felt this commitment at home. Both our children and I have had in her a great example of what it means to want to do things well, trying to get the best in every attempt, without looking for any other kind of reward than that of the fulfilled duty.
That great level of commitment is a sign of the immense love that dwells within her. And I think that is a central aspect of her personality, finding a way to put love into everything she does.
It's really easy to live with a person who has such wonderful qualities. I really feel very lucky with life for having put her in my path. To this day I have no doubt that her company has improved my life for the better.
As I have always enjoyed writing the post, once again I thank friend @galenkp for this initiative that gave me the opportunity to dedicate some words to my beautiful wife.
Thank you for your time.
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Listening to these words has been touching for me, it is not something we often say to the person next to us, we feel it, we recognize it, we value it, but we do not express it as clearly as when we write it down.
It is gratifying to read the qualities that the other person sees in us and that he/she considers that they have contributed to maintain a relationship, to make us better people and above all to want to be with her/him.
Thank you @irvnc with you it has also been easy to live together, as I always say to myself making mine that phrase of that old song by Pablo Milanés: "It is not perfect, it is closer to what I just dreamed of..."😍
Reading @irvinc's acknowledgement and appreciation of your 3 qualities as a 3rd person makes it even more precious and your response proves that you are a one in million type of partner.
It's great to witness this type of union and the peace of mind one can bring to their partner.😊🌺
That's right my dear friend @humbe. Damarys is a great person, I love being with her. Thanks for coming and commenting. A big hug from Maracay.
I have always found it excellent to write down my feelings. This text has been very easy for me, because I have recognized those values in you for a long time. Thanks for stopping by and commenting dear @damarysvibra. A big hug.
I am thrilled to hear you tell this beautiful story, which, as you point out, has not always been a bed of roses. Every human relationship, be it a couple or a friendship, brings its sine waves, heh, heh, heh.
So was my parents' union, which they maintained until death, 50 years of formal marriage and the birth of three children, of whom I am the youngest.
I am happy to see them and feel them united, sharing their old age, as it should be. A hug is full of blessings and wishes for the many years of life you have left to walk hand in hand.
Having a partner for so long is a luxury in these times. We have a very good chance of reaching those fifty years like your parents did. Thank you very much for stopping by and for your good wishes dear friend @amigoponc. A big hug from Maracay.
Friend @irvinc, you are right when you say that marriage is not rosy, nor did they live happily ever after. You have to do your part to make it work.
Friend @damarys is a special human being, I hope to have coffee with her someday.
I send you a hug in the distance
In marriage it is very important to learn to know each other and speak at the right time, not hold grudges. At some point we drank that coffee. Thank you very much for stopping by and commenting dear @mafalda2018. A big hug from Maracay.
Congratulations @irvinc! You and Damarys make an admirable couple. You are a role model!
Thanks for sharing!!
It was a great fortune to meet Damarys, she is a great person. Thank you very much for stopping by and commenting dear @mllg. A big hug from Maracay.
Greetings for both of you, @irvinc @damarysvibra
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Thank you so much my dear friend @mllg
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You make a beautiful couple, I don't think you met by chance, you both have a very good vibre. You have dedicated a beautiful post to him, he will fall in love even more.
Over time we have known each other long enough to avoid things that create inconvenience. We have been able to speak honestly, that is the basis for maintaining a relationship. Thank you very much for your visit and for your kind words dear @verdesmeralda. A big hug from Maracay.
A great partner/ Una gran compañera en #hive #posh @irvinc1
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Thank you so much my dear @sacra97. A big hug.
Greetings my friend, it is good to have a great woman by your side who supports you in your life, it is like a complement that life does not offer to enjoy it together,
I really value this opportunity that life has given me. Having a good partner is a wonderful gift. Thank you very much for stopping by and commenting dear @cetb2008 . Blessings to the family.
Amen my friend
You are so right. The stable family unit of one husband, one wife and the shared children has become a rarity. There is no doubt in my mind that strong, traditional families make a strong community and nation. I am glad that you both value the commitment you made to one another. The reward is far greater than current society understands.
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Cultivating any human relationship requires commitment. Many times I get the impression that in our time the idea of commitment has lost value, many things are done lightly, without enthusiasm. Thank you very much for stopping by and commenting dear @wandrnrose7. A big hug from Maracay.
I agree with you. I pray that today's youth will see the need to gain commitment and fight for it.
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Aww this so cute, I’m happy for you and I wish you guys 34 more years🌹🌹
Thank you very much for your good wishes dear @ayinla95 . A big hug from Maracay.