There’s a way my dad describes those that feel entitled. You’ll hear him say things like, “He was walking around with the mentality of ‘I’m good enough to get it, so why can’t I?’ Despicable.”
But, to be able to clarify it, I’ll give you the meaning and why I was elated to see this particular topic. Human entitlement therefore is,
A sense of entitlement is a personality trait based on the belief that someone deserves special treatment or recognition for something they didn’t earn. In other words, people with this mindset believe that the world owes them without ever giving anything in return.source
The truth about this is that it is practically impossible to go about our daily lives or live life in essence without encountering people with this personality at least once or twice or fifty times.
And since it’s a personality trait, it mainly stems from your mind. You’ll start thinking things like this in your mind. “But, I’m the smartest in the class, why wasn’t u chosen to represent it?” “But I’m the one with the most experience in this field, why shouldn’t I lead the delegation?” You see, you may think that thoughts like these are just random and in most cases they are.
It could be just a fleeting thought but when you start implementing it, making demands from that thought constantly, it becomes your personality. When you do not just expect these special privileges but start feeling a sense of superiority over others, it becomes your personality.
I gave thought to it and from my personal experiences, entitlement mentality stems from two reasons. The first is the individual achievements of a person. The world we live in today places so much importance on a person’s individual achievements. So maybe he’s a renowned lawyer, probably a SAN (Senior Advocate of Nigeria) and he steps into a room of maybe, even his own friends and he’s greeted warmly nonetheless causally and he begins to fume. “Don’t they know who I am? How dare they?” You see, in that kind of situation, he’s feeling a sense of superiority to the others so he believes he deserves a grand welcome, maybe even a standing ovation, a moment of reverence, crazy things like that before he’s satisfied.
And the next one stems from background. A person used to bougie life, never having to work for anything in his life. His senses are already cultured towards the idea that I deserve everything because it is my right. But ladies and gentlemen, have you ever heard entitlement by proxy? I don’t even know if it’s an actual thing but the experience I’m about to share made me understand that it is in fact, a thing.
It was my cousin’s housewarming party. And since she’s my first cousin, technically, I wasn’t an actual guest. So, I found myself with the duty of serving alongside other servers with clear instructions to share to everyone. So, here I was, with the tray of sliced cakes sharing to the guests and then I reached a particular group of people and proceeded to serve them the cakes when I was taken aback by a remark. “Are you mad, do you know who I am? How can they send someone to serve us?”
I later found out she was the sister of my cousin’s husband. And thus, expected to be served by the hosts themselves. How very befitting. So, at that moment, I fixed her the most plastic smile I could offer and went away, head held high. I wasn’t a servant. And she obviously didn’t know who I was too but that didn’t matter.
Thus, I came to understand that a person could feel entitled. Not because he or she is someone of importance, but because they are related to someone of importance.
My view on all of this however is that it’s unnecessary. It borders on pride and people like that end up being heavily embarrassed sooner than later. But, in the meantime, I can never go out of my way to change people with that kind of personality because it’s not something anyone can do. I just avoid them when I can, and when I can’t ensure I don’t ever contribute in adding to their already inflated ego.
Picture above is mine. This is my response to Weekend Engagement Topic: Human Entitlement by @galenkp
Cheap shot, snobbery at it's worst. Next time remind them when they use a toilet it smells the same too !LOLZ
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You've literally made my day with this comment.😂
That's as badass as it gets. And the smile was specifically cause I was two seconds from losing it.
Glad you had a smile, something that has always irked me, so unnecessary!
Mostly something like this.
I like the idea of "entitled by proxy", it's a very fitting phrase for those kinds of people, and I think we've all met them. I always think how empty and shallow and insecure these people must really be. They may project entitlement and superiority outwardly, but inside, I should imagine they're rather small and insecure, if their only qualifier for value is someone else's importance and value. I think one of the best things you can give yourself is acknowledgment that you deserve to be valued and accepted as a human being, and these people deny themselves that.
I'm sorry you had to deal with people like that! Hope you don't, in the future :) Very thought-provoking post!
It's like bullies. The average bully feels small and insecure inside so chooses to hide his vulnerability by tormenting others. That's how shallow the mindset is. I appreciate this beautiful comment and it means a lot that you were able to relate to it. !LUV
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Your cousins husband sister or whatever she is would have entered my book of Black list if I was the one in your shoes. My own ego is just as high as hers and the fact that I wasn't paid to serve would make me even not serve her nothing. I'll keep passing by her seat to serve others. She's human for crying out loud not some kind of a god. If she feels entitled she could walk herself to the kitchen and serve herself afterall she's family and wouldn't be ordered out of the kitchen.
This is one of the reasons I've decided in my heart that if I ever get to throw a party, the guests will have to serve themselves. No one is bigger than the other. Though class may differ, we are all same humans in the eyes of our creator
No, rest assured she's already in my black list. And since she's a relative, I'll definitely jam her again. To be honest, I never believed serving to be a sign of slavery. I was helping out and the servers actually have your life in their hands if you look at it technically.
Anyways, it pleases me that you got angry on my behalf. Thank you for your time.🤗
Hoho🤭💀. They be playing too much these days😂
😂😂. You're welcome 😌
One day someone's child will vex and that will be the end.😂
Thanks for stopping by dear.💓
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Heeeeeiwwwww best 😂. I think I have had an experience like this but the lady's shout was a means of correction. I crossed over her food unconsciously.
Bust still, be that as it may, how dare she🌚. You should have called me to glare at her because why not?.
I try to avoid people like her with all my might because I know that if we cross paths and they try their yunno...I'd definitely get so pissed.
But anywho, head held high, no stress. No pressure.✨
Honestly I couldn't even believe my ears. I have a large family and I know that my cousin would have been sad to see a scene at her event. Which was why, I duly swallowed my pride but best believe, I'm not always that quiet when I encounter people like her.
Next time I'll call you to fight for me Best. I almost cried.😂😭
Aww, that was thoughtful of you not to ruin the wedding...hehehe😂
I can believe you when you say this. They yell like ..I dunno, crazy people
That's things of the world would have heard your voice that day.😂
Looks like someone hasn't learned to be humble yet. It sucks that there are people like this. I mean it's probably great to be related to someone of great importance or a rich person :P but if it wasn't from our own hardwork it really means nothing in my opinion. Anyways people can be thick skin xD I'm not one of them. It usually takes a certain event for them to realize that you won't get any real friends from being entitled but that's just what I think
This is true. The only people you'll draw to yourself however are patronizers and ass kissers and that's rather sad indeed. I appreciate this thoughtful comment.🤗
your welcome your welcome I try to give comments :P too but really busy still haven't wrtoe my legit or not post hehe
Yeah, okay🌚
The entitlement mentality is very easy to imbibe. It is unfortunate that we fall into this trap of life. And that your cousin in-law need cane!
She get luck say I didn't want to cause a scene.
I love ego...
It's always electrifying when ego clashes...
Small blood here, tears there, feeling worn, love torn.. Always fun 😗😂
I know that's your kind of setting. You would probably rained fire and brimstone.😂
How dare she, lol!
Entitlement seems to be common everywhere. Sometimes we ourselves fall into it without even realizing it. You did great, leaving that girl with a smile (even when it is fake). When on your shoes though, I wonder if I can do the same thing, I'm easily pissed off😂
That's the truth, we could fall one or two times. But there are some people who have made it a habit. Everything in my mind was how humiliated my cousin would feel, that's why I remained calm.😭