As I was reading your article, I wanted to cry all over again. I know what difficult decisions your face, and I know how hard it is to make those decisions. But they must be made with a clear, level head. And the sooner the better. You can't think straight when you're in the throws of it at the last moment.
I had to make similar decision for my parents. Not help them, but make them because I waited too late. I tried to convince them to take care of matter in good times.
My hubby didn't know how to help. Everything he said and did wasn't right during that time. It was a painful time for me knowing I was the one making the decision to pull the plug on my mom's life with just my signature. So brief a moment for such a huge impact on our family.
Why does this have to happen? Why her? Why me? I feel as though it were yesterday. I'll always feel like that.
Time away no matter if only a few hours helps. A favorite place where good memories were made. It has to be away from the place where the decisions are being made. For me, it was and always will be the beach. The surrounding water feels like it came from my eyes. The salty tears of comfort.
My prayers are with your family.
It's a terrible process to be involved in and no one will really know unless they have been there themselves I guess.
I've not had to make the life or death decision for anyone yet and hope I never have to. With Faith's mum we're lucky that she is quite pragmatic in nature and not one to sweep things under the carpet hoping they disappear. She will be proactive, is being proactive hence the preparations we're making.
Faith and I have a lot on our plates at the moment and it will get more complicated as time goes by, but we'll face it all together and do the best we can. Taking a moment here and there will be good for us as we'll need to recharge and energise to keep us moving forward.
Thanks for your comments and sharing some of your story. I hope you have a great week.
You're welcome. Yes, it's one thing to talk about it, but until you have gone through it, it's surreal. You will get through this together. Have a great week ahead.