Good day everyone and welcome to another beautiful weekend.
It's always a pleasure to share and gain experiences on this community and today I'm going to be writing about Some smart strategies to ease the burden of house chores for men expecially married men with kid(s) like me.
In my part of the world, handling house chores is culturally a responsibility of our women 😂 infact my culture people translate proficiency in handling house chores by a lady to being a "good wife material" i.e someone who will make a great mother and wife to their grandson's and son.
So it's common around here to see ladies whenever they visit their inlaws to be overactive and readily take part in house chores so as to impress them. This is the cultural norm.
However, the dynamics are gradually changing even though its still frown upon by most persons that a man who is supposed to be the king of his household is taking part in house chores.
This days it's not abnormal to see husbands helping their wives out with chores even though some men still find it insulting even many inlaws dare not see their son washing dishes while they visit or else the wife should get ready to be called witch. It's really a pandemic 😂
Anyway, I'm part of the new school guys. Naturally I'm a fastidious somebody, I like everywhere neat and sparkling clean and this has been me ever since my adolescent. For someone like me, housechores is something i love to do atleast it will give me a chance to take care of things the way it should be.
When my partner and I got married, we had an easy and straightforward agreement that we shared housechores and that we also share them based on gender peculiarities 😁. What I mean is that we shared housechores based on strength, how tedious and if it requires some physicality or tenderness like incase of teaching our kid.
Most time I do the laundry And ironing, also the spraying of grass around the compound while she makes food and she's the better cook although that doesn't mean I'm bad at it😊.
I also takes care of cleanliness mostly because I work from home while she has a fashion store she sells wears and jewelries.
She also take care of our son and takes him to school every morning since she's going to store everyday except Sunday.
This is how we've been living for the past 4 years of our living together.
However, as a work from home dad there are sometimes that the work get cumbersome for me as I have to attend to clients online and also take care lf the house chores. Although this only affected me in our first 3 months after our son was born after then I found a practical solution which I'm going to share below:
1. Make a list containing the basic housechores
The first thing we did was making a list of all our house chores and then we trim it down to the most important ones like cooking, laundry, cleaning, childcare(if you have), shopping and home maintenence.
2. Have a concrete agreement on who does what
Have an agreement on your preferences, it should be open and contested between you two and also be reasonable to accept a genuine excuse when your partner give.
3. Know your priorities
Have an agreement on when or whether to cook or make purchase from eatery. Sometimes we just go out to eat which helps us to automatically cut out usage of plates and cutlery.
4. You can hire someone to help sometimes
This is what we do atimes expecially when we are both too busy in a week. We hire someone to take care of the laundry and pay him off from the family purse.
These are four most important solution that worked for me and continues to, I hope you find something reasonable to pick from it and use to your advantage.
In conclusion, housechores is not a job of a particular gender except you are paying your partner for doing the housekeeper job along but it's most easy and less cumbersome when shared with one partner.
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N.B: All photo used are mine and shot with my Samsung S9.
I think the customs of your country are a reflection of the customs of many countries, in fact here in my country that macho culture is also changing, it is not uncommon to see a man helping his wife in housework.
It is now normal.
By the way that list is very good, in fact that of the priorities I also fulfill them, I do not make a list in writing, because I already overcome that stage of the first years, the list is in my mind, but it agrees with your recommendations.
I hope you have a happy weekend, on Sunday spoil your wife a lot, she deserves it.
Absolutely I hope to give her a treat.
Nice to know my culture and ideas resonate with yours, it's yoruba culture by the way.
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Excelente
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Lists can be useful when there are several family members. I know some who have it verbally discussed, and everyone knows what they will and will not do. Sometimes it works that way too. I still think you have to be flexible. Regards @lensworld
Yeah
The most important thing is to have An agreement.
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