this post the eligible ones for this weekend !Good morning Saturday friends of weekend experiences, as every time @galenkp shares his topics with us, my mind immediately shoots words about the idea to develop in depth, today I felt challenged by the title of this post, but if you are interested in talking about others, you can read in
Well, here I go, it won't be simple to develop, haha. The first thing I think when I read the title is something physical, what turns me on? well, for starters this post is written from my personal experience, as a straight woman of the last century (?), and with the road traveled, what turns me on is varied. Certainly there is one thing that stands out above other things and that is what I know about the other person. Although there is no key moment where I assure myself the knowledge (if it were so, we would never suffer for love) I am not always looking for love and this is clear.
A few months ago I had this conversation with a friend who was looking for a partner and between comments and things we had never told each other, I told him that there is something strange in the way I feel physical attraction, and that is that, I can find anyone on earth beautiful, I just do not want to be intimate with anyone. He suggested that it might be due to a demisexual orientation. In recent years many 'new' words were derived to categorize the different types of sexuality and I was not aware of all of them, so I did some research on the subject.
I think I fit in perfectly, it's not a physical thing or at first sight. It's more of an emotional thing, when the desire arises to be intimate with someone.It really opened my eyes in a new way, to a way of seeing and understanding myself without thinking that there is something wrong with me.There are many nuances that contribute to understand this, an emotional situation that develops in view of something romantic is what I know as a building path.Although it does not specifically require forming a couple, but rather, feeling or understanding the other as a human with their own emotions, and not only as victims of our sexualities that involve intimacy.The desire and respect has to be mutual and that is where the emotional part falls, that is to say the other could say they respect and it is mutual, but there is a certain base to meet, in my standards, for them to feel that way.
Being a 35 year old single woman is sometimes fun, I see myself in a place with experience and already knowing myself.I am not affected by other people's judgment, or being seen by others.I have been asked if I am not looking to stabilize myself on a romantic level, and that depends on two.
In my experience I have been slow to feel that sexual desire that others have as if they were jewels and bring out. It is more common to see people relating for the sake of it, than with conscience.
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This is how I identify what generates that rush of desire in me.
And I learn to respect myself to know when it arises and how to carry it out, and not as a social sentence that indicates that you have to be in a couple to be happy.Even if we are not a couple, when I decide to be intimate with someone, I have some basics as safe and clear.Even when the act may not be repeated, that is to say that it is spontaneous and almost fleeting, I require a loving treatment.A shared breakfast, and gratitude for the body and time given to me.This exchange is so emotionally charged that it could not be empty of content. Even if we never see each other again, I require a hug at bedtime accompanied.If not, I repeat my phrase 'better alone than in bad company' someone who has shared their intimacy with me will be treated with that love.Otherwise, better alone.
That's why I somehow make sure that 'bad company' is the idea to dismantle before the key moment.
But if I go to something more basic, like stereotypes or patterns I've seen repeated in people I've been attracted to or attracted to in the past, I'll come clean: I'm crazy about men who dance, men who smile, men who are artists and are in touch with their emotions because the creation of art requires it.I like to share these passions, like making music, or going out dancing.I like silences when they are not uncomfortable and I am passionate about a burning look when we share and generate something together.I like men who practice martial arts, I think this is due to how much I enjoy watching them and the discipline they entail allows me to see in the other that stability.
Following the branch of stereotypes, I am not attracted to being flattered, having nice things said to me or something physical that stands out about me. I am not attracted to kisses on the neck, or caresses if everything else is absent.If you don't recognize in me a woman whose value goes beyond how she looks, dresses or makes herself up, then I have no interest in sharing anything with you.Chances are that in the morning, in my pajamas and without makeup, you will not find me attractive, because your interest is in a mask that is not the real me.Although I don't dress too ornate or put on crazy make-up either....
I am a quiet person, the restless one is my mind, and where I find the reflection that something can calm my mind, is where I nest. For years I have thought that I liked not to be the classic woman on a man's arm, like a trophy.I have become friendly with this idea, because today, when someone takes me by the arm, I feel powerful haha almost indestructible.The world can turn against me from one second to the next, but my mind is at peace and this man holding my arm is the sign that this is how I feel.
Of course I am also a little spicy, in my country we say 'no fucking with me' is more a mask than reality, but certainly the things I have clear and defined are untouchable.
For example, at present, I think that any man who wants to have a date with me, or get to know me, should know that the month of February is very intense for me and consists of pure weekends in activity with the murga and enjoying the carnival.This makes that most of my past partners have not understood or respected it and when February arrives they just leave.I do not demand anything from them, it is difficult to keep up with someone who takes practically a month of vacation from the couple haha except for the cases in which I lived together, where the weekend was just another day. If you're in the season of getting to know someone and they can't see you for 4 or 5 weekends in a row, you'd probably think there's no love or respect there.I just party with my friends at the party I work for all year long, it wouldn't be loving of you to want to take that away from me, hahaha.But I consider that intimacy as a way of relating to each other should have certain bases and conditions accepted by both parties.
Well, I really think I went on a lot, and I'm sure I could go on.Many of the topics seem to me like ideas to exchange in a podcast haha I really enjoyed sitting down to develop this idea and I hope you find it of interest.I just celebrate with my friends the party I work for.
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Definitely nowadays there are so many definitions that allow us to help us to fit where we feel and are in many aspects, in this case the sexual one. I also recently discovered that I am demisexual because I need an emotional bond in order to have the desire to be intimate with that person, otherwise it just doesn't happen.
Girlfriend but in those 4 weeks the boyfriend can go out or party with you, or not?