Being hypnotized by the cell phones. A lack of respect and a dangerous trend

in Weekend Experiences2 years ago (edited)


Source: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/stop-saying-technology-is-causing-social-isolation_b_8425688

A couple of years ago I happened to tokenize art from an Italian artist, called Rossano Ferrari that is living in Modena, the same city where I live in Italy. He was famous because he also managed to send one of his portraits in the Space, with a Russian mission in 2019. Here some works from him

https://rarible.com/rossanoferrari

Rossano was deeply inspired to Baumann and its concept of liquid society that Rossano evolved towards the gaseous and then the molecular society. This metaphor was representing the impoverishment of the relationship in the society, people not talking anymore but rather writing a lot onto social networks or instant chats. Rossano also taught me that while a few years ago the attention of a person to another speaking was 20 seconds on average, nowadays it has been reduced to 8 seconds.


Source: https://www.iberdrola.com/social-commitment/nomophobia

TikTok and the short-contents approach that increasingly social networks are using are enhancing this trend of a fragmentary attention. People and adolescents are bombed by thousands of these contents that they passively stay hypnotized to the screen.


Source: https://www.hindustantimes.com/sex-and-relationships/here-s-how-you-can-tackle-smartphone-stress-and-practice-digital-detox/story-vHBN1BNYUrWyeTX4EtEI5J.html

This trend is dramatic and annoying as well.

Why?

This trend is dramatic because people will pay a lot of efforts to re-gain their attention and focus again, since as my first Yoga teacher taught me, the mind is becoming more and more like a monkey. You tell her to stop and the monkey will keep jumping and screaming here and there in the head.
You need to give the monkey a banana, and it will stay calm and focused. But at one time, even the banana will be hardly containing the explosive monkey.

This trend is annoying as well, since when hanging out with people or simply spending time with people that I do not see for many time, they will stay shut at the table, interacting very poorly or even arrogantly and as soon as possible they will go to (or take out) their cellphone and keep interacting (or just being hypnotized) there. I am not focusing here on the dramatic thing here. I am focusing on the fact that we are together PHYSICALLY and still they give more importance to all the s**t they can see on their cellphone or answering empty messages of wishes and so on.

But I am there, I may have traveled hundreds of kilometers to be there and they prefer answering to people that they do not really care of, that they do not really have a relationship or friendship with.

It’s all a matter of appearance and “status quo” (does it make sense in English as well?): showing others that they are reactive and often connected to revert them with stupid emojis and meaningless messages to the meaningless messages received.


Source: https://www.sheknows.com/health-and-wellness/articles/1111909/people-care-more-about-their-mobiles-than-their-lovers/

What may be a couple of solutions?

Stepping away from the cellphones while eating, while dealing with other people, while talking to others and so on. Showing real commitment of our time to the people we are physically with (or even on the phone when we really care of them).

When we see that we have nothing to say, that can be normal. Also silence is an important moment when spending time with others. When silence occurs just do not rush to the cellphone looking for some chatty noise to bring to your head and simply enjoy the silence with other’s presence.

Stay there with your mind and look for other topics you would like to talk about and share opinions with them or simply tell what you have been doing in the last period you did not see each other and how to create another occasion to get together.

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Sorry. I'm guilty of using my phone when talking to people 😅😅 but hides it when the conversation becomes active.

Stop it 😉 all the conversations will stay more active and you will stay involved more 😎

Kinda on the introvert side and feels very awkward when conversation does not start yet so I find something else to do.

This is just so rude! No phones at the table or when in company, the same as the TV goes off unless we are watching something as a group. This was one of the biggest sources of contention with my partner when we were getting to know each other. Now we have reached an accommodation 😁

You are more than right! And with a partner, clarifying such things is even more important since you may spend a lot of time with him/her.
In general it's a real lack of respect when there is a nice table and someone starts isolating with the cellphone

Lol, sitting at the table with people and using your phone to socialize with others is just rude. I never do that and if anyone does that, I leave. It is disrespectful to say the least. But I agree, it's like a disease, a very bad one.

Yes, but it happened to me (with other non adolescent people) and I am coaching a team where some are adolescent.... And well, they are sitting there chatting with whomever else 😅
Beyond the basketball court I will mee to place rules for social coesistence as well 😂

Yay! 🤗
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