I do not understand the people who live their lives on social media. I just do not get it. How do you feel comfortable letting a stranger know deep things about you?
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Social media has definitely been a great tool for this time that we live in. The power of communication has never been at its peak. The way we can practically talk to the whole world in a matter of seconds is something that you would need to be the president of the U.S. to be able to do just that, had it been about 5 decades ago.
Social media will continue to remain a great, in fact, amazing tool that is invaluable to individuals and groups of people seeking to reach a wider range of audiences. But a powerful weapon in the wrong hands will only be the death of them, or other people.
I see people using social media in ways that make me cringe for them. They are careless about the information about them that they put out. They do not even think about how much they are risking their lives by giving out their information to the world to people that could potentially hurt them.
It basically means that the problem is that some people seek validation from other people. They do it so much that they can even take advice from strangers. They can even literally take advice from strangers. And this happens well on Twitter. It's ironic to seek advice from people who will troll you if you say anything they don't agree with. I just do not get it.
I am not the one to use social media in the way most people do. I just cannot. So whenever I see something that makes me cringe, I ask myself, "Why did you just do that?"
A friend of mine once asked why I did not post on my Whatsapp wall. Many of my friends know this about me, and some of them ask for my reasons. They know I am not much of an introvert, and it is not like I am a preacher of "privacy". But I just find it quite odd to tell just anybody anything about myself, let alone a stranger.
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"So, I just bought an iPhone 15 pro max." Someone whose ancestry I am uninterested in. And I just wonder, for what purpose could this piece of information from a stranger be for?
Why do you need the world to know that you have just got something new, especially when it is not even necessary? I mean, I try to keep my life private because when I flaunt what I have, I only give the impression that I am swimming in comfort, which I do not need the world to know if it were to be so.
The matter of risking one's life is not even out of it. There are people that share everything about them, so much so that they even show their locations. And I, who have no relationship of any form with you, can tell so much about you just by going through your posts.
This is not to say that you cannot share things about yourself. Of course, in order for people to engage with you, they may need to know a little about your personality. I can also talk a little about my life and say things that I do. I would only be doing this because I want you to be able to think of me when you think of certain niches.
To be able to have you say, "We need a guitarist," I think I have seen Olujay share things about the guitar. He should either play the guitar or know people that do. " is one of the reasons I would share that part of my life with the world.
But I guess we just live in a world where many want to claim that they too are "woke". It is just sad that they misunderstand what being woke is. "Woke" most certainly isn't being gullible and careless with information about yourself.
ℍ𝕖𝕪, 𝕚𝕗 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕖𝕟𝕛𝕠𝕪𝕖𝕕 𝕥𝕙𝕚𝕤 𝕡𝕠𝕤𝕥, 𝕜𝕚𝕟𝕕𝕝𝕪 𝕝𝕖𝕒𝕧𝕖 𝕒 𝕔𝕠𝕞𝕞𝕖𝕟𝕥, 𝕣𝕖𝕓𝕝𝕠𝕘, 𝕠𝕣 𝕦𝕡𝕧𝕠𝕥𝕖. 𝕀𝕥'𝕝𝕝 𝕤𝕦𝕣𝕖 𝕓𝕖 𝕒𝕡𝕡𝕣𝕖𝕔𝕚𝕒𝕥𝕖𝕕.
Sometimes I do think in the same direction too because I'm always careful with personal information so I always find it really strange when someone will be so comfortable telling me all about themselves on the first day we met.
I don't really understand too 😏😏.
How do you write so beautifully? Please come and teach me naw? 🥺🥺.
This can be so creepy sometimes. But I really do not mind, as long as it is not information that is too personal. Something that will require me to pity you at just meeting you for the first time. Just plain, simple and necessary information.
I write beautifully? Wow.
I feel honored.
The thing is most people tell so much about themselves just to make someone have compassion on them. They blackmail people emotionally 🤩🤩.
Yes naw!!, so you don't know you are a really beautiful writer? I'm very happy I'm the first person to tell you, even though I know I'm not 🥺.
emotional blackmail 😂😂
I might as well write on that one...I feel like it.
I am just trying my best jare. Thank you
You just dey rain showers of blessings on me sha.
Thank you for the Ecency points.
That will be awesome, I will so much love to read that 🥰.
You're welcome dear, you are doing really well, it's just right I commend you if no one does 😊🤗.
Abeg you earned it, you know I can never get tired of sharing them with you 🥰.
This here, is the only reason I sometimes share some parts of my life online. Other than that, I just don't see the need.
Exactly bro. I do not know why some people find it comfortable to do that. Well, that is the world we live in, I guess.
We're all built differently, and it's just normal for our preferences to differ.
But in all things, people should always strive for moderation.
Balance requires moderation. When we act in accordance with our excesses, we frequently exceed the line between right and wrong.
I got to know about the dangers of baring ourself in social media when the world were still going nuts about Facebook. Since then, I like to keep a great deal of things about me offline especially when it's just for a cheap thrill.
"So, I just bought an iPhone 15 pro max."
That's a great example.
Thankfully, I'm not even a big fan of conventional social media. I have a Facebook account which is 10 years old but when you go to the page, you can easily scroll down to the first post I ever met there. As for my WhatsApp, the app itself is frozen and I only unfreeze it when I get a call from someone to check stuff there. That's also very rare. Haha.
Many people won't agree with the idea of keeping some part of their life off social media until they fall victim to identity theft or other issues.
The world is always going nuts about one thing or another. And this is mostly because people do not know how to decide for themselves how they'd like their lives to be run. Rather, it is the world that runs it for them; hence, you find them acting in inappropriate manners.
I have also had Facebook for about 10 years too. And I must say, Facebook is not what it used to be. Yes, evolution is part of growth, but Facebook is on another level here. I still have the account, but it is absolutely inactive now.
Social media is supposed to be a means to learn and grow, a space to facilitate positive development. It is not a place to be gullible.
My sincere apologies for just responding. I have sent 20 Ecency points your way!
Yeah. Very solid Points made here and a lot of them resonates with me.
As far as social media is concerned, we don't need to share everything, but that's no longer how many people see it. To some people, everything about their life has a footprint on social media. Hehe.
Thanks so much for the Ecency points. Have an amazing weekend ✌️
You get my entire perspective.
Have a great weekend!
Unfortunately, most of their lives are irrelevant to societal growth. It is also detrimental for them, so they might as well just want ot keep their lives moderately shared with the whole world.
You’re absolutely on point. I think the problem with most people is sharing too much. We need to learn just how much to share and with you. Privacy is important, but like you said, to get people to engage with you and get to know you, you’ll need to give out random information about yourself here and there, just enough to serve the purpose you intend and nothing more.
Striking the balance between what we want the world to know about us and what the world needs to know about us is imperative for any individual looking to keep their sanity. Humans cannot be trusted with too much information, especially personal information.
On the other hand, it does not do much for one when little to no information about one's personality ( or do I say specialites) is disclosed from the real world. We need one another at some point and for some reason to thrive in this world.
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like it's crazy, I don't know how people think? everything about our life should not be posted on social media, at least there's are some things we should keep out from others.
The major reason why the majority of people show off everything on social media is show others that they also belong , they want people to know they are using the latest phone, I'm eating a good food, I have the cloth that is trending... isn't that madness? sorry to say, it's high time they wake up from their slumber to face the reality.
It is basically equivalent to just walking out on the street and finding some absolute stranger to tell them so much about yourself. Much like how much you paid for the latest shoes from a celebrity.
Sorry to say?? You are absolutely right to say. Seeking validation from individuals that you have no cordial relationship with, who may even be in the same shoes as you, is really one of the "low" things we can do. They want to prove something that has no need to be proven.
Your formatting skills no be for here. I was attracted to comment because of that original picture of you. As for social media, we humans, we thrive on external validation. Social media brings that.
Oh wow. These words of yours are really something for me. I really appreciate that you like my format.
And for social media, it does provide that external validation we humans long for. But moderation is key to balance.
You're welcome man, they're quite good, must've taken you time to do it hahaha. I applaud you because some wouldn't, they weigh the effort with the results hence they come up with something mediocre..
You totally get how much work must have gone into it.
I really appreciate these kind words. They are really encouraging.
😃I like your formatting as well.
It’s amazing how much information one can access via social media. There are pros and cons. As mentioned, moderation is key.
Oh this made sense to me and the youth needs to be educated about it, please!
I overshared on social media and it was used against me pretty badly!
Thanks for not sharing! :)
Over-sharing is something one can end up doing when one does not access the purpose for which one is doing it. It is detrimental to one's wellbeing, but many fail to realise this.
Apart from putting yourself in danger, you begin to hold yourself in lower regard than others, as it appears that you lack confidence.
Thank you for not reading... :)
What you said although I'm not commenting 😁
And my pleasure although I'm not sharing that
Now I am even lost.😂
Me too!
Send a helicopter please 😅😂