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Hello dear friends! I hope you are very well and having a great weekend, for my part, I feel better after having spent a few days sick, I must go to the doctor soon so I will tell you how it goes, returning to the subject of this post once again I join the weekend engagement proposed by @galenkp who always makes sure to bring up very interesting topics, this time I decided to choose:
π Cheat and confession (one)
Your partner has an affair but eventually confesses to you and wants to work it out with you. What do you do and why?
All the topics are interesting, if you have not yet joined this contest I invite you to do so!
First of all, I want to mention my sexuality since I consider that it has a lot to do with the subject from my point of view, I am Demisexual:
The demisexual is someone who does not experience sexual attraction until they forge an emotional bond with another person.
Therefore the "adventures" for me are a resounding "NO LONGER WANT TO BE BY YOUR SIDE" since I firmly believe that if you let another person into your relationship then it is because you no longer love that person and you stopped taking their feelings into account, in my mind infidelity is the worst, in fact, I see it as a disgusting act, I'm sorry but I must be honest since I would not be able to have sex with someone just because they me It seemed cute or attractive, I need to get to know that person deeply, create a bond, that's why I believe in long-term relationships and my dream is to grow up to be an old lady with a good man.
A long time ago I had a relationship where everything was going well but there were signs that I decided to ignore due to a lack of self-love, he sometimes talked to me about his ex-partner and in fact they talked on the phone, I'm not a jealous woman so I decided to trust him, I never complained about it, although it did not give me a good feeling, one day he even told me that she had gone to visit him at his house, after that he spent days depressed locked in his room, I supported him those days but it was obvious that he was so for her, one day, her birthday (I will never forget it), that day I decided to throw a mini surprise party with her family, we were excited, when everything was ready, he was supposed to arrive to the house, well he did it but very late, he was also nervous, but at the same time surprised and he kept thanking me for such a nice gesture, when he accompanied me to my house (we lived nearby) with nerves he confessed that he had been there since the day before at his ex-girlfriend's house and that they had had sex, he proceeded with an apology, to tell me that I did not deserve that, what I was an excellent woman, blah blah blah, to give him another chance, and it continued like this for the next 3 months back then.
I didn't forgive him, and I didn't go back with him, it was obvious that he was still in love with her but he knew that I was much better for him, even so, infidelity for me is like a slap in the face of life to give me that ultimatum: GET OUT OF THERE!, like this that I did it and I feel proud of it, I would not forgive infidelity if my partner confesses it, I give him the merit of having the courage to speak it but that does not take away the fact that he disrespects all the love that I can feel for him he, I'm sorry but I can't afford to sink so low.
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Infidelity is a difficult thing to accept, but (unfortunately) an easy thing for some people to do. I'm sure whole studies have been done on it and some really smart people know why people feel the need to do it...but I don't know about all that, I just wanted to thank you for sharing your personal story here.
Girl, we have that in common. I'm Demisexual too and I totally get what you mean. Regarding your ex, I think you did the right thing. Infidelity seems to me to be a very low and dishonest act.
Wao you wanted to give her a surprise π and you ended up taking her your friend, but well no doubt you were too much woman for that guy, and God had better plans for youπ.
that's right sister, if someone has an affair then he doesn't love us anymore and we better have to leave him
But what a story, how bad that you went through that, at least you found out what was happening and so you could get out of there on time. Nobody deserves to have that kind of thing done to them and definitely neither do you.
One of the most beautiful things in our existence is love, but it could also be the worst when infidelity enters. If I would experience it, just like you, surely I will not forgive him. Just like saying, sorry not sorry. Great entry for the engagement concept my dear friend.
I don't even want to imagine that what you felt, a surprise and you ended up being the surprised one.... πͺ
I agree with you, an infidelity I wouldn't forgive her, plus it would be a clear indication that if she let someone else into her life, it's because she's already a little fragile that love she says she feels towards me, and noo papi bye bye....
Totally agree friend. It depends on what has happened, you can forgive or not, this depends on each person and you have the right to decide whether to forgive or not. But how terrible that you give everything for someone and they pay you like this. As you say, it is hurting what they built for months or years. It is truly disgusting.
hello sis, thank you for your presentation today about that, have a nice day, enjoy your day nice to meet you
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It also happens to me that I must have some kind of feelings for the person, as you mention at the beginning and if infidelity is very difficult to accept, a clash against love and respect.
Thank you very much for sharing your story @sugarelys β€οΈ