I have tried to live a changed life, adjust my ways, and maybe be the best version of myself. But sometimes, I tend to remain who I am and do not find it easy to leave that comfort zone.
Getting into relationships with people is something I find so difficult to achieve. I don't know why, but I realize that in my nature, I just really find myself connected to those I want to be connected to. If the vibes are not giving, then I am just finding my way.
While I was out of secondary school I was able to get a small phone back then because having a small phone then was like being updated with the latest trend. There were some online chat apps that if you didn’t have an account on it then I can say you are yet to meet the standard.
So I got the phone and then had my 2go account created. I never had the intention to get into any relationship worth it or do otherwise.
There was a lady with whom we studied computer practicals together in a computer college close by. I got attracted to her beauty and almost everything about her. She was so calm and gentle, jovial and friendly, in all she possessed a good character with her beauty.
After a computer tutorial one day I felt like asking her out. I guessed she would be of same age or just a little older. Then I asked for her Facebook handle. I didn’t request her 2go handle so that I could track her activities better on Facebook.
Hi
Yeah, Abdulqudus. How are you?
I am doing well. Thanks. I replied.
I appreciate your beauty so much! I added. (I know that was blunt)
Yeah, thanks. And you are handsome too.
My body felt the vibes. I thought she must have understood where I was heading. Then I decided to hit the nail on the head which became my biggest nightmare.
Can you be my girlfriend? I like everything about you.
I dropped the message when she was offline. And awaited her response like crazy.
She already read the message but didn’t give any feedback till after the weekend was over and we met again in the college. Then I became too shy to relate with her as usual.
She walked up to my seat and sat beside me. She told me respectfully the reason why she didn’t respond was because she was already engaged in a relationship. So she was sorry.
I felt the pain for some days but decided to be a man and move on. I really liked her which made me think of getting to know more about her. So I checked her profile and saw that she has a younger sister. But I don't even know her at all.
After checking her sister's profile the mindset that she would either look like her elder sister or maybe better than her. I never knew I was wrong. I just made the wrong choice ever.
I had enough chats with her, introduced myself, and also expressed my intention and interest to her. She was pleased and I was lucky she had no one because I was kind of her first love. She accepted and we moved on.
It took some time to get accustomed to how dating works. It was both of our first experiences. But with time I get to realize that she is not even any closer to the behavior of her sister. She was just the opposite. But I felt I could change her to my taste.
Mum finds out that we are dating. I don't know how and why but she finally gave me a warning to let go of her if truly we are dating and not just friends.
I wasn’t pleased with Mum’s decision then. Why would she ask me to let go of someone I loved? But after several thoughts, I finally had to let her go! The pain was even much more than I experienced with her sister. But this was Mum’s warning. What good will I get from disobeying her?
With time I matured. I was still in a friend zone with her. Then I got to know that she is not truly the type I should be with. She is just a selfless soul who cares about nothing but her own benefit alone. If I were to fall into her trap of love then I guess it's either I find it hard to make success or I just become like her. Mum's warning was painful but it indeed saved a cause.
I'm glad your mum saw it from afar and asked you to stay away from that lady. Just like they say, "What our elders see staying down, even if we climb the highest tree, we won't see it".
Thank God for your life o .. indeed mother knows best 🙂
💯. And I am always grateful 🥹