I’m not a bad person, I just happen to have several bad experiences. So many times, I’ve faced an information that makes me go in search for more. For example, when I first came across the clinical term, OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). From there, I grew more curious on the types of mental illnesses and though I got bored soon enough, I still consumed as much as I could.
However, there are times when I wish there are things I didn’t know. Remember, I’m not a bad person. I just happened to meet the wrong person at the very wrong time.
I faced my first true internal battle on ask or don’t ask in 2021, when I met someone who I thought was the one. Thinking back on it, I was still very much naive.
I was sitting on the three sitter chair in the store when he walked in. So tall. I didn’t see him come in because I was on my phone but I guessed he had to bend a little to pass through the door - he confirmed my thoughts later when he left.
Dark skinned with an oval face and a light stubble, a shirt folded to his forearms - veiny arms might I add - and his cute baseball hat. He had full lips and laugh lines around his eyes. I concluded he must smile a lot. Right on queue, he smiled down at where I was sitting, revealing rows of whites not so perfectly aligned. I actually forgot to breathe a second.
“Hello”
That was when I quickly got to my feet. If my skin color permitted it, I would be red all the way down to my toes. His voice wasn’t the low treble that had women (like me) quaking in their boots but it was husky and lazy enough to make several indecent scenarios flash through my mind.
I collected myself and asked him how I could help him. After a few back and forth - plus some extra invisible red coloring on my face - I packaged his drinks and he was on his way. I sincerely thought that was the first and last time I’d see him. I was in a way wistful and longed he’d come back.
He did several days later and unlike the first time, he wasn’t in a hurry to leave. He sat and we got talking. It was just enough to keep my hopes up. Maybe I finally found someone I really - truly - like.
It went on for days and soon, he got to know of my birthday. May 15th 2021, I had received a gift box from my boss and a few other things from others as well. Wishes, Airtime and even money. Mystery Guy (I rather keep his name anonymous) called me and asked me to send my account number to which I did and he was generous. Then he showed up to get wine.
My friends - two of them - were with me, all relaxed and watching with careful detail my interaction with this man. I knew they’d hound me later but I didn’t care. He went to the fridge to get something and I almost laughed at how much he had to bend to really look in the fridge when my eyes caught something that made my whole blood run cold. His left hand. There was a wedding band on his left hand!
Or was it just a normal ring? Men do that. Looking at it closely, it didn’t really look like a wedding ring but what if I was just feeding my mind with lies? The only way to know was to ask him but how do I go about that without giving out the fact that I was interested in him?
He came back, a can of malt in one hand and a boyish smile on his face, but I couldn’t return it. I tried and failed miserably. The conversation heightened between he and my friends turning into an intense discussion but my mind was far away all the while my eyes kept going back to his left hand. How did I miss it? I could swear he wasn’t wearing it during any of the times we spoke. I might have been engrossed and carried away with his guile and charisma but I would have never missed a wedding band.
I withdrew unconsciously and he noticed. He would ask me what was wrong during our conversations at night (which I began to limit) and I would always say the same thing; nothing. But the question was burning deeply in my heart, always on the tip of my tongue but never made it out. I will admit that I was scared of his answer and the stupid me thought I could drag this ignorance on for sometime.
But then it got worse, since he’d keep coming over and initiating conversations which I would willingly be a part of. So on my day off, when we were supposed to meet just the two of us, I asked him over the phone,
“Are you married?”
It took me a lot to actually get out the question, awkward and stretching my muscles taut in preparation for the answer - which I already did. There was a beat of silence and then a light chuckle,
“Yes. I am. Why? We can still be friends. Hang out.”
My eyes were tightly shut as he spoke because I knew that wouldn’t happen. We can’t be just friends. It’s never been heard of. A guy like that just friends with a young woman? No. I knew it would be a disaster and it was one I was willing to avoid at all cost.
“I don’t think we can ever be friends. The store is always open if you need to restock. Say hello to your wife.”
With that, I ended the call but not the ache I felt inside. He never returned to buy anything and we never spoke again.
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! help(no space) to get help on Hive. InfoIt was good that you asked him, because you had raised your hopes so high, and one you would have so broken.
Exactly! Thank you so much dear
You narration was exceptional. It held me tight. I wanted more and I felt the tension. I'm glad you made the right decision. Time heals as I'm sure you have.
Well done.
I have indeed. It doesn't mean I don't remember how close I was to actually doing something really stupid. 🥲
I think we all have phases in our lives that make us cringe when we think back.
I think you made the right choice. Things could easily escalate if you let emotions take over. Anyway, this was a really well-written story, and I enjoyed reading it.
Thank you so much. Emotions are really misleading sometimes.
It took you time to ask the first question to ask when the suspicion arises that a lover is not fully available, @deraaa. You showed a lot of courage and good principles in the way you reacted. Very good story. Thanks for writing it for The Ink Weell.
It is always a pleasure to write in this community. Thank you 🥰
Thank you 😊
You took the right decision. I love the fact that you realized timely that being just friends would be difficult and indeed it would. I guess his intentions might not be what I assumed it to be but it's good not to give chance to temptation.
At all. It would be bad to get caught up in that web of lies.
Indeed, bad. Cheers!!!
How do married men think they still can be friends with single ladies? You did the right thing my darling, I always try to run very far away from married men, I don't want trouble neither do I want to sow seeds I will have to reap in the future.
Yes my dear. Looking at it, it would be a seed that would grow. Thank you so much for reading.
You are most welcome😃
Ah!
The audacity though. Wow.
It was actually good that you noticed on time and confronted him about it because he obviously didn't want to be just friends with you before you found out his secret.
Yep. I think he walks around without his wedding band. Hehe. Men and their ways…😂
😂. Hilarious.
It's too bad that he was married to a man, but worse that he fed your illusions, well, the right one will come along later, greetings and good luck in the contest.
Lol. He wasn’t married to a man. Just married. Lol. Thank you
Ouch. This kinda hurt though, and me who had a thing for tall men would have cried even, it's so hard to see those kinda people come by. But you did the right thing, image if you allow your mind not to question the obvious_ then your heart would have been in a real mess. But still it hurt regardless. I love your write you. Beautiful 😍🦋
Yes. It would have been real messy along the line. Thank you ❤️
Congratulations, @deraaa!
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Thank you so much and I really appreciate it! 😊
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I'm not even surprised that they aren't responding because, I'm sure they'll be all "But you sha ate his money." Unhinged!
Anyways, we don't do that here. We can still be friends my foot. The audacity of these men fr.
The funny thing is I didn’t even eat anything. The only time he spent on me was that birthday. He mostly buys drinks that he takes alone because I don’t fancy alcohol. He does leave tips but so does everyone else
So the girl ended up having OCD?
Maybe you should really read a post before leaving a comment 🙂
This is beautifully written. I am glad you had the balls to call it off before it went any further and you had fallen to deep. Way to go 🥂
Yeah me too😅. Thank you 😊
Glad you got the courage to ask him the question. You might not feel the best now but soon you would realize you did the right thing.