A friend one told me, "The fact that your worry about being a good mother is proof that you are one, bad mothers don't worry if they are enough." that helped me so much!
I hope it soothes your heart too, I'm not sure any of us really feel "enough"... I can imagine that parenting alone really amplifies this feeling, I know I watched my father struggle with it a lot. Sometimes he will apologize to me as an adult for not doing XYZ, and I never want to hear a word of it! He did great all on his own, and now that I have kids of my own, I do not envy that journey!
Be kind to yourself and be proud! From what I've seen you are a warrior woman who is raising her children in a glorious way. You're one of my heroes for sure 😁❤️ Thank you for your awesome response!