I got to this point in my relationship with Joyce my friend, we have been friends for a few years now and one particular thing always makes us quarrel, we’ve talked and talked about this particular thing over and over again but it just has a way of creating havoc every single time and we would have to start from square one again, the back and forth thingy was becoming exhausting, it was time to take a walk I told myself.
“You know what? I don’t have friends in this office, all of you are my colleagues! My freaking colleagues! I said angrily to Joyce.
“Ohhh that’s fine colleague! Bye! Joyce replied and left my office.
From what I can vividly remember that was part of the last conversation I had with my friend Joyce three weeks ago.
It’s been three solid weeks of not talking to my friend, three weeks of not being in the same space as her, and three weeks of not hearing her call my name.
“You’ll get used to it,” I tell myself, it’s been three weeks already, and like the popular saying goes whenever one does anything for three weeks it becomes a habit, so I know I’ll get used to not having her around.
On Tuesday I heard a disturbing news from my colleague who is Joyce’s assistant.
“IB! IB!” Lara ran into my office like she was being chased.
“Yes! Yes! Young lady, what is it? I asked getting all irritated with the way she called my name.
"IB the Project manager is angry at Joyce," she said quickly, at this point, I was taken aback since my friend's name was mentioned.
"Why? What happened?” I asked, wondering what the problem was as the PM rarely gets angry at people.
"You know that spreadsheet you guys usually do together? like the bulky and difficult one?"
"Yes, what about it?" I asked still trying to understand where all of what she was saying was leading to.
"Joyce couldn't finish preparing the spreadsheets on time for them to send it to Headquarters, Headquarters called and the Director was yelling at PM for not delivering it on time, so PM was mad and poured all his frustrations on Joyce"
"Oh mine, this is so bad," I said, genuinely worried this time.
"My dear ‘bad’ is an understatement, I was there when he was shouting at her, he even called her incompetent," Lara said sadly.
"Ouch!" I replied, I know how my friend Joyce gets when people term her as incompetent or make her feel she wasn’t good enough.
"Thank you Lara for telling me," I said to her politely.
"IB honestly, you both need to work things out, she does need a friend right now," she said pitifully.
"No problem I have heard you and thanks again."
After Lara left my office I started thinking of everything she said, her words kept on playing over and over in my head, and my heart kept on wondering what Joyce was going through, how will she be able to get through all of this moving forward as gaining the PM's trust was going to be a very difficult task. What will I do? I asked myself countless times.
I felt so bad, so guilty because if we were still on talking terms I would have gladly helped her with the spreadsheets like I usually did and she would have submitted everything in record time, trust my friend Joyce never to swallow her pride to meet me for help since our friendship was a bit rocky and I honestly wouldn’t have as well.
Now the PM was mad at her and that is one bad news.
I wanted to go meet Joyce and sympathize with her and possibly mend our friendship again but I held back, I put myself in Joyce's shoes, I hate it when people who I am not in talking terms with comes to sympathize with me after hearing something bad happened to me, I term those people as fakers who take advantage of people’s vulnerabilities and I personally don't take their sympathy to heart.
To me, you didn’t try to reconcile with me when things were good, why come now?
Later that day I brought out my phone to send a short text, it isn't going to hurt to send a short text to her right?, I asked myself, I composed the text, I read, edited, and re-read it again and just when I was about to send the text I had a rethink and I deleted it.
I cleared my desk, turned off the light in my office, took my bag, and left the office, I told myself "she will be fine, she is a strong girl"
I did feel bad for my friend but sympathizing with her from afar was just the best I could do.
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Well, thank you for sharing. Not because you're my favourite but.... It's good she faced life on her own, you wouldn't always be there to help out and this was not a lesson but an opportunity for her to master the spreadsheet herself.
You're sha not my colleague 😂😂😂
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In all of these, I wish you two can be good. I know some friendships are not meant to stand the test of time, but not being on talking terms at all isn't best.
Your story moves me, and it's a lovely read♥️♥️
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I think you handle the situation quite well, you made a good decision not going to her to sympathize with her, I wouldn't like it if someone I wasn't in good talking terms come sympathizing with me.
I'd rather you guys have kept the distance thing between each other in an amicable way though, where it doesn't have to result to none-talking terms.
Yeah, I’m working on something though😃 I’ll definitely reach out to her sooner or later.
Thanks for stopping by good sire😃
Sweet, that will be cool.
These things happen, and you still are for even sympathizing with her even if it was from a distance. But now, it is what it is.
It is what it is my dear sister, I didn’t see you on PYPT today
I am a little bit under the weather.
Thanks for the concern. 🤗
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You’re welcome and get well soon ok?😘
Yeah, I will, thank you.
Sometimes it's in times like this that so e of our friends need and want us the most. I still believe you should've reached out, you never can tell, that may be just what she needed.
All the same, I hope you guys reconcile eventually
I hope so too,thanks for reading🥰
The relationship with Joyce was subject to some tensions. It combined friendship with work and in the end time put things in their place. You acted in a very wise way to repress the desire to help. If the friendship is sincere it will resist this inconvenience and will be resumed in healthier terms. Good story, @ibbtammy. Thanks for posting it and for your participation in other stories.
Fingers crossed and thanks for your constant feedbacks😃
Now this sounds more personal. But I can't help but wonder what is the actual thing that caused the fight with your friend. As sad as it may sound she will be fine and look for a way to do the spreadsheet if she loves her job.
Yeah, she sure will be fine and thanks for reading !LUV😃
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Ouch! As much as that sounds sad and discomfiting. You were right about one thing- you would have reconciled before the incident as well as respect each other to come to a common ground.
I don't like sad endings😩 it's a reality to getting the respect we deserve- self love💕
I was scared it was a bad news though - please do part in good terms so there is no regrets dear- life is scaringly short🫂
Life is scaringly short, this hit me, I have been pondering on this since I saw your comment.
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🤞🏽its a good thing, I hope. Do be great deary😘