As humans, we all have different experiences when it comes to relationships. Some had it on a platter of gold, they struggle not before they meet that special person who makes them feel valued. While some have to struggle at some point in time just to find someone they can be safe and comfortable with, either way, you will agree with me that being with people or someone who makes your imperfections perfect is the best and rare gift.
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Firstly, family is one safe space that cannot be overemphasized. The support one receives from one's family cannot be quantified monetarily. This is the reason why I always put my family first in anything and they have never failed me in any way. Even before I break down, they are already there to raise me and give me their full support. I build a strong bond with my parents and siblings and that is the beauty of family.
In a society where people are pressured to go into relationships and marriages even when they are not yet fully prepared for it can ruin one's life. It had become a habit that once a child has graduated from a higher institution, the next phase of such a person's life should be marriage, forgetting that there are lots of things that need to be put in place for a successful marriage. This idea made many go into marriage. When I clocked 25 years, people started ringing it in my ears to get ready for marriage. Many of their prayers were based on a happy home, and settling down. At some point, I let this get to me, and I just wanted to go into a relationship because, as of then, I was single.
I worked towards having a relationship, which I did, but the comfort and safety needed weren't present in the relationship. Misunderstandings are the major proof of the relationship. At some point, I knew going into that relationship was a bad idea. I had to complain about lots of things without a headway, I kept trying to make amends and make it work, but it wasn't an easy task. It became unbearable, it was then I thought and said to myself, "What was the essence of a relationship where peace is lost?" Then I decided to walk out for my sanity. Two years later, when I never planned to go into a relationship, I met someone who was Intentional and mature.
The peace and safe space were not far-fetched; everything began to work as if it were planned even before we met. Never had to struggle for communication or attention. Although misunderstandings are inevitable peace is felt. This prompted me to discuss it with my mom, and she made me understand that "there are times we think the time is right for some things, but it's not, and according to the law of nature, things will fall in place at their time and on their accord".
Sometimes finding comfort in people around us may be a thug of war as we can't tell the genuity of people we are surrounded with. This is why I appreciate everyone that makes life a safe space around them.
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Recently the world has changed in ways we didn't expect so rapidly so stay strong and keep pushing
I will
Maturity and readiness is really important before jumping into marriage so as not to jump out quickly too. It is a big step in one's life and should not be rushed.
You are so right
Am glad you've finally found someone you're compatible with.
In terms of getting married after graduation from an institution, it mostly applies to girls. There are a lot of complicated facts that parents put into consideration which the most common is age & child bearing.
Well, the opposite is the case for guys. In most cases, when a guy graduates from a higher institution, his sponsors/parents will cease to support him financially with the intention of pushing to secure a job.
In all, having a family that supports you in strength and weakness is a blessing. Those born into a broken home can relate.
Finding that one person who makes everything seem right even when nothing is right is a gift to cherish, having an intentional man is a plus ❤❤
It surely is
congratulations its such a gift to find reciprocated pure love i wish you the best
Thanks a lot
When you find the one meant for you, you will know because there will be peace like a river. I am glad you found someone better who could put peace into your mind and make things work better.
Absolutely