My mother and brother have always been the focal points of my life, with no involvement from my father. Despite the lingering emptiness in my heart for years, I'd wished for a chance to see him again.
But with time, I came to acknowledge the intensifying resentment I held towards him, as my optimism of seeing him again started fading.
Regardless, I couldn't have predicted that the opportunity to meet him in person would arise so abruptly, almost coinciding with the most cherished period of my life.
I was in the sitting room pressing my phone when my mom walked in. Sitting next to me, she patted my back, and I swiftly grasp that something was cooking up. Being her only daughter, I knew her so well.
"Mom! What's the conversation about this time?" I curiously inquired.
"I know you like gist, see the way your ears are itching to hear my gist," she playfully responded.
"Anyway, I want to discuss something important with you. It's very different from the things we've always conversed about," she continued.
I felt a surge of inquisitiveness as I eagerly awaited to hear what my mom had to discuss, sensing that they would deviate from our usual intriguing and captivating conversations.
"What's that you want to talk about, Mom?" I keenly asked.
"I want you to let go of the hurt and the pain his absence may have caused you. No matter how much we attempt to conceal the truth, he remains your father, and you can't hate him forever. Right now, he's truly sorry for everything, and it's apparent that his words are deeply heartfelt. I understand it's difficult, but I genuinely hope you can find it in yourself to reconnect with him," she said.
For a moment, I was unable to speak. I wondered how effortlessly my mom could release herself from the burden of those painful memories he left behind. How easy it was for her, but why do I feel differently? Was I that badly hurt?
"So you've forgiven him from the bottom of your heart?" I asked, fixing my eyes upon hers, probing for the truth that her gaze held.
"I've sincerely forgiven him, and I hope you forgive him too."
This was the first in my life where we openly talked about forgiving my dad, and for another moment, I pondered on the striking nearness to my birthday. And then I decided to give it a try.
"Have you both been in touch recently?" I asked
"Yeah, I bumped into him a few weeks ago. He really wants to meet with you again, and I don't know if that's okay with you. Take your time, my child!"
"I think I'm ready to meet with him." I immediately cut in.
Instantly, I experienced a wave of relief flooding through me. I guess my heart yearned for it, but I was too angry to admit it.
Then two days ago, my mother and I set out to see him. One would think I was overjoyed, but I was overwhelmed with conflicting emotions. I just needed to breathe and be confident that it would go smoothly in the end.
And there he was under an orange tree waiting to receive us. I intentionally kept my eyes downcast, fearful of meeting his eyes and the emotions it might stir.
"You're welcome dear," he greeted, leading us to his living room. We met his wife who heartily received us, and I felt a little bit relaxed.
From his mouth flowed an overwhelming torrent of honest revelations and apologies, leading me to realize that my immense hatred toward him may have been undeserved. He had experienced his own share of arduous trials, ones that were vast and beyond comprehension. Though it still wasn't okay that he left.
Just as I'd hoped, everything went smoothly. I felt a tremendous weight lifted off my shoulders, it was really good. I don't know why it became so easy, but somehow the time was right.
I would say that our reconnection is progressing slowly, and I'm hopeful it would withstand the trials of time.
So today, I'm in awe of how far I've gone in life, personal growth, and achievements so far. Meeting my father again a few days ago is a mega addition to my life. This was the time, and I'm glad I embraced it.
Still in this amazing moment, I want to sincerely wish myself a Happy Birthday🎉🎉
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It sure will baby girl give it some ‘time’ and you would see massive progress.
Happy Birthday to you🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
I wish you all the best and dearie you are beautiful, from your profile picture I would have sworn you were petite, I love your height❤️❤️
Yeah, I will give it all the time that's needed.
I'm overly blushing right now, thank you so much ♥️♥️. But ehnn, you would have sworn I'm petite? Noooooooooooooo, I dread that. BTW, I appreciate the amazing compliment. I luv!🤗
It must’ve been a very stressful experience for you, but everything turned out well. Your mother sounds like a wonderful, supportive woman and she helped you consider forgiveness and allowed you to make your own decision without forcing you in any way. It’s wonderful that you finally met your father and found a way forward together.
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My mother is a rare gem. I liked the way she calmly encouraged me to make things right. I'm glad.
One of the most difficult things for human beings is to forgive.
It's good that everything went well. Regards.
I'm glad it did
Wait, you're the one my dear friend @dianelson flooded on her status? That's mad. I'm so happy you were able to reconnect with your dad and that everything worked out alright.
Now that that's out of the way, let me just say that you're extremely gorgeous and you have the most wonderful smile. Belated happy birthday to you @vivaebony.🌺🤗
Wait, you're the one my dear friend @dianelson flooded on her status? That's mad.
Yeah, I'm the muse behind those poems.
I'm glad I let my heart accept him, it wasn't easy but I know it feels alright.
Oh heavens! It's the way you remarkably complimented me, it leaves me feeling incredibly special. Thanks, @jhymi.
It took me five minutes to blush before replying😊. Gratitude for the birthday wish. 🤗🤗
You're the muse o. She no gree make I see road with poems. Lol
And you're welcome. I love appreciating amazing things. And you're the clear definition of that. Have a wonderful day.🤗
😊😊😊
Thanks @jhymi 🤗
Happy birthday my Mummy 😘
It's glad to know you had the gift of peace of mind after reuniting with your dad.
Sometimes, we are unable to comprehend what actually went on especially with fathers who would talk less of what they faced.
Thank you for sharing my Mummy... Please venue?
I'm available 🎤🎼🎹🎶
Thank you so much, dear friend. Just a quick one, I no fit born you, and like I said the last time, I can be your boss😂😂. If you don't agree, you'd start sending me money like a son would send to his mom.
So true. I have achieved a state of inner peace.
Under a mango tree that's close to the market square. Come with suya and pancakes😂😂😂
Come and be my Boss please 😂
Under mango tree, in the evening ba?🤣
😂😂😂😂 I don't do evenings
Wow! At this point, I’m also a conflict of emotions because I have never once seen my father and he is alive🙂. I have been deeply hurt by him when I tried to reach out. I don’t know if I have the strength to experience such pain again but I’m sincerely happy for you. Forgiveness is a gift that many take for granted.
@deraaa, you're strong and your uniqueness shines through. I'm being totally truthful when I say that I sincerely understand. It's been the story of my life too.
I want you to understand that even though circumstances have kept you apart, that bond remains unbreakable.
I trust your father carries you in his heart, and he will come back into your life. I understand your pain, I can tell it. But please, embrace it when the opportunity of reconnecting with him arises, and let the power of forgiveness erase the pain in your heart and restore the strength that lies within you.
In the meantime, keep your flame of hope alive in future possibilities, and hold onto the knowledge that you are cherished, valued, and loved. You're Special!🌹🌹
Thank you 🥺🥹
Thank you
Hello, been a while, hope you're fine?
Hi friend!
I'm good, hope you are too?
I'm okay, welcome back Mummy 😂