That seems to be the common theme of my current life. Not all of them are directly but it happens to the people I love in my life. From me in the verge of wasting 5 years only to be dropped out, starving, and to my parents constantly met with problems. It just seems endless. But, I barely tell people my struggles, instead I show them the good part of my life.
I hold on to believe that freedom is to ask nothing, to depend nothing and to expect nothing. A definition by Ayn rand that I also believe. That sticks and manifest in myself that I will try my best to not ask for help so that I won't feel indebted to anyone. So far, it has been pretty much give instead of take. I have a bit too much of altruism that it makes me hard to be selfish. I always genuinely want people I care about and love thrive and happy within their own terms.
After being exposed to constant problems,I formulate question : Why do bad things happen to good people?
In desperation, that question seem to be reasonable. There are many ways to look at it, from theological perspective to science. As a skeptic, I favor into non theistic perspective that universe has no grand design. The problem we have is somehow result of our choices and recklessness. I think succumbing to the idea that universe has a grand design is passing the torch of responsibility to something that is unseen. We then, become lazy and reluctant to find solution.
However, strangely there are things that are difficult to explain. Perhaps, it was actually simple but the world- the world makes things seems complicated. To further complicate this matter, pyschology today even discusses this topic " Why do bad things happen to bad people?.
After reading and reflecting, I realized that bad things happen to everyone. Even the seemingly"evil" people have their own struggles, inner struggle that they face daily. It puts me into a perspective and things I learned that life is suffering and our job is to find the meaning within the suffering.
I'm dealing with constant health problems, of all sort, for almost five years, and I'm asking somehow the same question, but I still believe the universe has some grand plan, just that it involves us directly and it changes every second. That doesn't make me lazy though. I believe that no matter what the problem is you should try your best and thereafter let the universe do his job. Not doing your best is understanding the universe wrong, in my opinion.
Life is full of possibilities and it will be such a waste to quit trying. Even when it comes to health, you never know. I know many stories where people are healed from their illness because they don't quit trying. They constantly fight for life and it's admirable. Perhaps the universe was meddling into their problem, I don't know but it continuously amaze me despite being a skeptic. I hope you will soon healed too.
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Love the article and your views on it.
One thing I'd like to add from me is that things happen for us all the time bad or good. That's how we are tested in this life.
This is how we value and get to understand the right and wrong.
I'm happy to take all the problems because we are learning always and which puts me in situation and experience to reflect on my child and my friends.
It all worth it.
Thank you for your article!
Couldn't agree more ! :) Problem makes us grow stronger