Hey the stuff around the main meat was written for a reason, after all. Not much of a reason, but a reason =)
although my situation is my choice and it is up to me to change it if I really wanted to
This is interesting to me. You are consciously choosing not to. Well, I've only ever known you as a workaholic, even on thankless tasks such as StemSocial, for years. Presumably, you believe in the things you're working on and that has deep value. So maybe rather than think and complain of it as a curse, maybe alter into a more positive perspective around what you're doing ^__^ (I'm sure you already do in real life situations).
That being said, HEALTH.
10 minutes of metro, followed by an hour of train, and then a 10-minutes drive
Oh, you actually match my commute, assuming that's each way. I always get comfort knowing i'm not the only one. TBH I'd probably waste the extra 3 hours a day at home. At work, I have the whole hall to myself, with guitars and pianos and 7-piece speaker system... I am much more constructive here than I could ever be staying at home an extra 3 hours. It sounds like I'm forcing myself to justify it, but I genuinely have improved my craft a ton this way the last couple of years.
For the rest of the text (and the main topics of your post ;) ), this aligns with how I behave in my everyday’s life
Yeah I think many of us just do this as part of our upbringing or just general life development. But it seems so many people are drowned and trapped in a mindset that just isn't healthy and have literally had no experience thinking in another way. Echo chambers and all.
Thanks for the chunky comment =) I feel Hive is still alive!
I am indeed already very positive and passionate with everything I do. Or I just don't do it. You cornered me well (even if we only met briefly in real life) ;)
Why are justifications needed? This is a choice. As soon as we are happy with it, it is fine. And there is no free lunch. Opting for a given choice comes with other pros and cons. I could say 'positivity hit me again' (maybe this positivity ;) ), couldn't I?
Haha that's an interesting way to plug. Kinda fun seeing your name on top of people a world apart in all aspects working together one one thing =D
This was a paper with a good friend of mine from Beijing, who unfortunately passed away last June (he was in his mid-thirties :( ).