By parties, I didn't mean the actual gatherings we get to attend, I used the word metaphorically to depict a person playing the victim card to garner pity from others who feel sorry for how bad their situation is, despite it not being necessarily the case. So the person seeking out self-pity hosts the party and by sharing the story with others they are actively inviting others to the party, others unknowingly will, of course, feel bad for the person, but the person may not even be themselves aware that they are actually seeking out pity from others.
But subconsciously their brains continue to search out for it, if it is not offered by the party invitees, they stop the invitations and the party has only one host, who is also the guest and so one is feeling sorry for how bad their situation really is.
My problem is not with expressing to others when we are struggling, but rather in those who choose rather than dealing with actually whatever it is that is not going right, they choose to abdicate any responsibility and only seek out pity without actually taking any responsibility towards changing their situation.
I hope this helps make it clear what I am trying to convey.
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