@theycallmedan posted a new initiative inviting people to weigh in on the topic of free speech.
- What does free speech mean to you?
- Do you believe free speech is worth saving?
- Why do you believe it is important?
Freespeech by shaulikahlon1 blog
shaulikahlon1 blog Free speech for me it has great power
Which is why it is very important to know how to speak correctly. Speech activates your thought and also the thought of the one who hears you. Your way of speaking affects yourself and the one who hears you. Your form of speech / choice of words / pace of speech / intonation of your speech affects you, your mood, the one who hears you, his willingness to listen to you, the effectiveness of your things and so on. Just as what you say is important, the way you say it is important.
We will add that it is also a thought that man thinks to himself, is also a kind of talk of man with himself. Which means that when it is important to pay attention to how you talk to others, it is also important to pay attention to how you talk to yourself (= think). And note that writing is both speech and reading is hearing.
Here are some examples of different forms of speech and their meaning. And, in part, you can actually see how the form of speech actually makes a guided resemblance to what one hears, and affects the likelihood that he will actually do something with what they were told ...
Turn "problem" into "situation": Instead of saying "problem" - say "situation". In life there are situations no problems. It is the person's coping that makes the event a problem or perhaps a solution. A problem is more difficult to deal with than a given situation. The word problem is taking a position of interpreting the situation, but does not really reflect reality. Because if there is a solution, then it is not a problem. And if there is no solution, then even then it is not a problem, since that is the reality. (Just as this is not a problem that a person has no wings, because that is the reality).
Turn "Bad" into "Good": In Reality, There's No Evil! And why? Because evil is the interpretation of reality only. Darkness is the absence of light and evil is the absence of good. Evil is created when there is some will that does not match any reality. Which means, that evil is created only because of the subjective will of the one who is evil with regard to reality. So, instead of saying "bad", say "less good."
For example, say, "could have been better", "would have been better if", "could have done better", "would have been better if", "would be better if" and so on. The word "bad" is taking a stand Of the interpretation of the situation, but does not really reflect reality. The wording of "better" reflects reality more correctly, since you understand that "evil" is only relative to the situation that is better than it.
Becoming a must-have / worthwhile: The more you feel you have to do something, the more automatically you have the natural resistance to do it. One wants to feel that he is in control of his condition. When he has to do X, it's as if he is deprived of his ability to choose and control his situation. And so the desire to do just the opposite arises. So instead of saying "you have to do" you should "do better", "you'll be better if you do", "I can feel better if I do", "I can do something better". This is how the person feels that he chooses and must not.
Even when you ask someone for something, even if you think they "must" listen to you (such as your child / employee and so on), even then don't deny them your choice of speech. Instead of saying "do X", say "please do X, "or" I'll thank you if you do X, "or" Can you do X. "Bottom line, say the sentence in such a way that what you tell him what to do will feel he has a choice. Come eat 'and so on. That way they will listen to you more, because you respect the other's right to vote and not control it.
Respect the right to choose who hears you: Remember to respect the right of choice of the person in front of you. You should not speak in an imperative language, as this will cause the listener to want not to listen to you. Let the hearer feel that you respect him, that you accept him, that you respect his right to choose, that you value his good will to listen to you. Even if he is your employee, he still does not have to work for you. Even if he is your child, it does not give you any right to humiliate and humiliate him. Even if it is smaller or weaker than you or depends on you, you still have no right to control it.
Respect your environment and your environment may be more respectful to you. Say "please" and "thank you" even if you think it is the listener's duty to take the action. It may be his duty to listen to you, but it still does not give you any right to command him. Even if you think he must listen to you in front of himself, that still doesn't mean that you own it. No one is your property / slave. Say "please" and "thank you." And more than it is important that you say "please" and "thank you", it is important that you feel "please" and "thank you". It is important that your feeling is that the person in front of you has a choice to listen to you. This is how you respect the person in front of you and thus make him want to listen more to you.
Focus on the solution: If you want to come up with some solution, instead of focusing on "why there is a problem", focus on "how to solve the problem". Instead of asking "why the situation is X", ask "how to make the situation Y".
When you ask why there is a problem, you are actually making yourself / the listener think about why there is a problem.
When you ask how to move on, you make yourself / the listener think about how to move on. Now your choice, do you want to know why there is a problem, or do you want to solve it ?! Do you want to understand "why did the malfunction", or know "how to prevent such malfunction in the future" ?!
Becoming unable to: Instead of talking about what you cannot do, talk about what you can do. Don't think about what you can't do, as it doesn't get you anywhere. Just think about what you can do, because only that might get you where it is.
Thinking Positive in the First and Negative in the Third Person: When you say a sentence, your brain experiences the sentence you said.
When you hear / read a sentence, your brain experiences the sentence you hear. And anyway, a kind of guided imagination is created for you / for the listener. And so positive sentences should be important in the first person. But non-positive sentences should / are important in third parties.
For example: Instead of "if you don't notice, X will happen to you," say "whoever doesn't notice will happen to X," because then the hearer does not interpret the negative sentence about himself, but another person. If the hearer interprets the negative sentence on himself, it only increases the chance of it happening to him! Instead of saying "if you make a mistake then X" say "whoever makes a mistake then X". Instead of saying "if you make a mistake and make X", say "whoever makes an X".
And in the positive way. Positive will always speak first person for yourself or second person for the one who hears you.
That is to make the hearer interpret the positive sentence for himself. For example, instead of saying "Who can do X then" say "when I can do X then". Instead of saying "when someone can do X then", say "when you can do X then" and so on.
Mistakes only make a mistake: Mistakes / wrong actions / negative things, etc., only make a mistake. Instead of saying "Who makes X wrong" says "Who makes X wrong" instead of saying "If I make X then" "If by mistake due to inattention I act X then."
ZA will never try to relate the impermanent action to the impermanence / inattention and so on. Mistakes are only wrongly and unintentionally made. This is how you actually create a kind of defensive defenses.
Safe positives do: Positive things always do and there is no way not to do them. It's only a matter of time before the charges happen. It is impossible not to do the positive. So instead of saying "if you do positive X", say "when you do positive X" or "after you do positive X". Because positives always do and it's only a matter of time before this happens. Instead of "if" which is an option, say "when / when / after" and so on, which are a form of determining the fact that the action will actually take place.
Everything is relative / You are already fine: Since everything is relative - you are fine anyway. Because it will always be better / less - so you are already good anyway at the moment than you will be in the next moment. And, as it turned out, evil is relative, but really in terms of reality itself, every situation is good. So instead of saying "act right", say "act more correctly". Instead of saying "fix your actions" say "you can choose to do something better". Instead of saying "it's not right to do", say "it's less right to do" and so on (where possible).
The use of the words "less / better" reflects reality better. Because in real life everything is good. And it's all just about something else. And hearing himself is much easier to be better than to be good in a bad place. Because getting better is easier than changing.
Not everything is black or white: Another point of reference: sometimes instead of saying "only if X then Y" is more correct to say "as much as X then Y". For example: "Only if you study every day for the exam, only then will you succeed" instead it should say "The more you study for the exam, the more you will be able to succeed in it." Because it's not black or white. This is not an ON / OFF mode of the power, but there are lots of modes in the middle. Another example: "If you do X then Y" instead say "The more you do X then Y" and so on.
Improvement instead of change: What is easier, better or better? Answer: Get better. It is much easier to continue than to start. So instead of saying "you need to change", say "you should / you can improve". Instead of saying "I want to change" say "I want to improve" and so on.
Don't, try: Don't, but try / do. Instead of asking someone (even yourself) to do X, you will try to do X / try very hard to do X and so on. It is much easier to try to do X than to do X. So if someone does not believe he is capable of doing X, do not ask him to do X, but Yes, ask him to try to do X. For example: Instead of "do X" say "try to do X" or "why not just try to do X" or "maybe try to see if you can do X" or "maybe you can try to see maybe you can do X "And so on. This is how it lowers the pressure on the hearer to succeed. This allows the listener to try to do it even if it fails.
Believe or know: Instead of saying "you don't believe in yourself" say "you don't know how much you can" or "you better know you can". Instead of saying "believe in yourself" say "know that you can" or "you should know better than you can" and so on. There is also the point of relativity of "more" and there is also the issue here that is always positive.
Why its important?
Why is it important to me you ask?
The answer is in front of your eyes.
For me, free speech and free speech mean everything - I mean everything by not having to ask what you have to do or what you have to say.
You just do it, without unnecessary thoughts, and without idle talk.
Free speech with the people around us allows us to simply convey different messages and say what's on our hearts, and each of us needs a close ear of a close person, or in some cases even a professional, but self-talk also has quite a few benefits. If you find yourself expressing your thoughts at times and fearing that this is unusual, stop worrying. Self-talk has many wonderful sides that can help you in a variety of surprising areas, and the next 8 benefits you will definitely recognize will prove it.
1. Maintaining order and organization
Sometimes we find ourselves performing a monologue while busy with various tasks, or when we try to put ourselves in order about the tasks we need to do, and such self-talk definitely helps us plan the things we need to do carefully and pay attention to detail. According to Dr. Julia Brewer, Certified Communications Clinician, our brain can process only one task at a time, even though we sometimes seem to be doing several things at once. We unwittingly organize ourselves and the thoughts and chores that flood our heads.
2. Understanding Goals
Sometimes we only come to conclusions after expressing ourselves verbally and saying what is on our hearts, in which case self-talk can be an amazing effect of self-fulfilling prophecy. According to psychologists, when we talk about or try to find certain goals for ourselves, it's easier for us to imagine different scenarios that can happen as a result of our actions, and we can make more informed decisions. Self-talk and expression of thoughts and desires will help you focus your thoughts on a specific goal and also think how you can achieve it for yourself.
3. Knowing Our Character
There are times in life where we are surprisingly unusual, and discover things about our character that we did not think existed. This kind of self-observation and learning is a life-long process, and self-talk helps with the task wonderfully. In conversations you have with yourself, you sometimes discover things you would never have thought otherwise, and this is a healthy and wonderful way to learn about the person you spend a lifetime with. It is a particularly effective key to self-exploration and discovering the things we are capable of.
4. Increasing intelligence
Speaking to yourself can help you to become truly unique thanks to the fact that you deal with things verbally and directly. Brain information processing is much more effective when you voice your thoughts out loud, and it helps keep your mind sharp and do things more wisely. However, it is important that self-talk is done in a positive way and that you do not challenge yourself to mistakes you sometimes make. Don't reproach yourself with derogatory names or express negative words about yourself because it will only hurt you and your self-confidence.
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