I don’t think it’s even news that I was very stubborn growing up because even as at now I still find myself being stubborn once a while. As someone who grew up with boys and did almost everything a stubborn kid would do, I wasn’t afraid of punishment. My brothers would often say the worse thing that could happen to us for doing something we’ve been told not to do was punishment so we always had to psych our mind for the aftermath of our actions: punishment
I laugh when adults try to correct children of today/Gen Z using cane or positive punishment. Even back then, see the kind of mentality my brothers and I had. For us, the punishment was a small price to pay for our agenda and we were always ready. I had an innocent face too so it would take you a while to know that I was behind whatever wrong thing that happened at home. Abena, don’t do this….in my head I’m thinking you’re definitely joking or something because when you take two steps away I’ll do it and take my receipt.
Funny enough, I was an Angel in school but my brothers weren’t. For them, they had a brand to keep and I also hand mine to keep so they would do their stubborn things both in school and at home. I on the other hand would just do mine at home, not in school. From my experience, you can’t get a child to change with canes or punishment. They will only get immune to them. They’ll just psych their minds to get ready for the punishment anytime they do the wrong thing. The heartbreaking thing is beating a child because he genuinely got something wrong….Are you serious? If he understood what he was taught, would he have gotten it wrong?
It gives me great joy to see that schools no more cane students because there are better ways to handle such issues.
Anyway, the only trick my mom did which worked was enforcing negative punishment which involves taking away things appealing to us. She started banning us from playing games. Taking our controllers away. Seizing our skateboards. Anything that had to with fun ended up being taken away the moment we did something wrong.
From there, we started using our heads and then even started getting angry at whoever did the wrong thing because if I did something wrong, it would mean my mom would take something from all of us. This can be applied anywhere because kids hate it when you take things they like. Have you ever taken something from a kid and then he/she starts crying but the moment you ask him to say please, he says it just so he could get his thing back? Yeah, it’s like that.
As I said earlier, I’ve been gangster most of my childhood…I’m sure you definitely understand what this means if you’ve read to this point. So I believe in negative punishment not the positive one because it barely yields result unless you’re dealing with “fearos”.
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Taking what kids like when they do wrong cannot be applied in school oo but at home. The least they will do in school now is give corporal punishment and some schools would use cane. Although using a cane often can make a child immune to it but scaring them can do a little change. #dreemport
You see that negative punishment your mum used, that's the best punishment to use on a child. Just today, I was telling my son that no more cartoon for him if doesn't know how to write 1 to 100, and I won't do birthday cake for him... You needed to see my guy, he immediately picked his pencil and book and was learning how to write even when they brought breakfast for him, he ignored it and was still writing. 😂
Cane is not the best punishment for a child.
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If stubborn is a name, I'm sure that will definitely be your name. You look pretty though. #dreemerforlife
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I was more concentrated on the pictures and the last picture,😂😂
But yeah, taking away things from children, especially the ones they love, gets them back to their senses
I have to delete that picture 🤣
Little Abena certainly knew how to push her agenda her own way.
From this perspective, I’d add that those experiences with the cane also made up some of our childhoods. Perhaps, we would have been different people without those experiences.
By the way, your style of writing makes it so easy to follow your stories. Keep it up 👍
Thank you sir