A colleague of mine reached out to me concerning something that happened way back in university. During those days, she was very wild. She used to say she didn’t want anything to do with a boyfriend but she had flings. Honestly it was hard to catch up with the things she did so as a friend who never judged her, she would come and unpack a lot of things on me.
Even though she didn’t have a boyfriend, she had an ultimate fling. Someone she saw as a boyfriend. Years later, they actually became best friends and then started dating. I was really happy for them because the guy was probably the most thoughtful fling out of the flings( oh this is so funny to say). After school, they got married and I was so happy for them. It was almost as if I was the one who got married.
My only problem was that, up till that time, my colleague hadn’t even seen her husband angry before and to her, he was perfect. I raised my eyebrows at first but I remembered how powerful love can be sometimes. When she called me some weeks ago, she told me she was in a very dark place and the person who sent her there was her husband. I was confused because weren’t you the same person who called him perfect some time back? It happened that my colleague had been told by the doctor to be having a condition and wouldn’t be able to conceive again.
I was shocked at first but when I heard the word again, I asked when they gave birth the first time and that answer even got me opening my mouth so wide. At the time that the guy became her main fling on campus, she got pregnant for him and then aborted it because the guy asked her to. According to her, she wanted to keep the baby but the guy said his family were going to have issues with him after finding out. As an understanding fling, she did it. Now, they are happily married yet can’t give birth because of this situation.
Shocking part? The husband threw her out of the house after finding out she wouldn’t be able to conceive and she was surprised that he didn’t care about the reason why she was in that situation. From the things she said, it looked like the man wasn’t perfect as she thought he was. He had anger issues and never hesitated to raise his hands on her. I advised her to tell her relatives first before taking anything action.
“Whatever goes around, really comes around” was the last thing she said on the call and how she regrets all that she did on campus because they were catching up with her. I know every action has its own consequences but I just wish there could be an exception in her life for just this one time. Sigh.
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Sadly she have to go through that. I wish her strength to pass through this and make the right decision.
It’s really sad actually. I wish her the same too. Thank you.
Wow
Fling….lol so girls do such things.
That’s was a huge come around…like a whole lot. I’m really sad for her. This is why I’ll never opt for abortion as an option for any woman even if she’s still young to have a baby. Since you didn’t try protecting yourself in the first place then it means you’re ready for a child.
Tbh that’s a very dark place for her and I can relate with her story because I have someone very close with similar situation. Even if she can’t conceive that isn’t the end of life as there are ways she can still have her own child if she really wants a child so bad but it’ll be hard for a man to take her in no matter how understanding he might be.
Oh yeah girls do that.
I understand if other men won’t take her in but I don’t know why it’s hard for the man to take her since he was the reason for everything happening in the first place.
Good to know
Well, idk what’s the right word — hypocrite?
Honestly it’ll be hard for any man who has not had a baby before to take her in considering her past fling sessions.
Very sad.
This is so sympathetic and painful, but in all, there is nothing God cannot do.
God will show her mercy and bless her with her heart desires.
No one is perfect, but we only strive for perfection.
Thank you for sharing this, it's actually a lesson for me.
Oh yeah, I’m hoping for a miracle in her life. Thank you.
Absolutely,
God will definitely show her mercy.
You're welcome ♥️.
Absolutely,
God will definitely show her mercy.
You're welcome ♥️
Very sympathetic to say, life is being careful, I have often told young ladies on the campus as a Lecturer, they should understand and be ready to take consequences of their actions.
Even to the young men, all these would have been averted if they were ready to concentrate with their purpose in life. So sympathetic storyline.
Yeah, very sad
Wow I feel soo sad for her 😔 I wish she finds happiness in life later on 🤲🏾
Me too, I wish the same for her.
Well let me firstly say I don’t believe in karma so I wouldn’t say this is her karma. But I also believe that this is her punishment for all those years of flingness.
But again I’ll say the guy is totally wrong in a situation like this cause he’s the cause. He might have known that the girl had so many flings but he’s the cause of the problem so he’s totally wrong to throw her out.
Yet again your friend should be thankful he has thrown her out. Someone who beats his wife is a big no no. I believe she has received her punishment and she’ll find someone who doesn’t want kids in the future and they’ll be better off. But then she also has to accept that she can never have kids which will have a really big impact on her.
Yeah, that’s what I thought too. Since he was the reason behind all this, I thought he was supposed to take responsibility but well..
But well men will be men at the end of the day. But he hasn’t done well at all.