I woke up today with two options. To either mourn or celebrate. Today is exactly a year since we buried my elder sister and tomorrow is my elder brother’s birthday. I never paid attention to the emptiness death brings until I lost my elder sister. They say time heals but trust me it’s a lie. Time doesn’t heal anything, you rather just get used to whatever happened with time. It became more painful when I realized I wasn’t going to see her ever again on this earth. At a point, I didn’t even see the importance of anything if we were just living to die. I’m not a melancholic so enough about being a pessimist.
Anyway, I chose celebration instead. Maame is gone and no amount of tears can bring her back. No amount of being sad or moodiness can resurrect her. On the other hand, my brother enters a new age tomorrow. You know what they say? Once there is life, there is hope. So why not celebrate life rather. If there’s anything I know with my full chest, I know Maame would want us to be happy. She would hate to see us still sad over her demise.
Most people see me to be energetic, hyper, name them. I’m not denying any of that but sometimes it’s either that or I become sad over certain things. Tell me what you would choose if you were in my shoes.
Now let me tell you this. I didn’t get the chance to shower my elder sister all the gifts that I would have loved her to have but guess what? I have the chance to do that for my other siblings and my parents.
I didn’t get the chance to spend so much time with my elder sister but guess what? I have the chance to spend whatever time I have in this world with my siblings and my parents. I could go on and on but my point is that the reason why I wake up and choose to be happy and stay on my grind is because of my family. I have other reasons but they are the main reason why I keep wake up and keep on going.
Oh right, my future kids too. I want nothing but the best especially education for those baby girls( yes I want girls and maybe a boy). It makes me excited to see really cute kids that have everything provided for them.Talk of going on vacation and other things. I’m not saying I’m going to raise spoiled kids but I definitely don’t want them to suffer unnecessary things like I did. Most importantly, I don’t want my child to come and say “mummy the remote where is she?” and disgrace me around visitors so I better be ready to pay the price.
Oh and of course, the main goal is to be able to support any another person around me without experiencing any form of loss or having to think twice. So I’m going to keep on working hard.
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It's tough losing someone close, but your decision to celebrate life instead of dwelling on the pain is admirable. Your love for your family shines through, and I'm sure your sister would be proud of your strength, Reading your words touched my heart.
Yeah that’s right
And why would the remote be a female, this isn't fair😔 losing someone can be painful but then that isn't the end of the world for us, we should try to be happy always, so I would want you to pick yourselves up and celebrate your brother's birthday tomorrow cause he deserves it.
The remote can be a female 😂😂 because it controls the tv😂😂
You always manage to make me laugh anytime I read your posts. What is ‘mommy,the remote where is she’?😂
I saw a video today that said , if you keep focusing on what you have lost, you would end up loosing what you have. And that’s what I want to share with you.
Sending you love and light. ❤️
I just want to make it clear and warn my future kids before they even come 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Thank you❤️
It’s unfortunate they’re not seeing this.
You're going to have a lot of boys. Mark my words🙃.
My best wishes to your brother.
Hey hey heyyy!!!
I could sue you for that🥹
See you in court
Wow! This guy
Sorry about your elder sister and a very happy birthday to your brother, losing a loved one is hard but you are right, we have to focus on those who are still here with us. !LUV
Thank you
Indeed I see you as an energetic lady with so much live even though I don't know you physically and trust me, you have got a lot of potentials that one would b jealous of
Truth b told, death does us great harm and especially when it takes our beloved ones. We can't actually do anything to change the situation or perhaps the only thing we can do for them is pray for them for eternal repose.
My dear, celebrate every moment you have because we do not know the outcome of the next minute.
Afar, my birthday sef na today o, where are we going?? 🙄🙄
We’re going home sir😂
RIP to your sister and happy birthday to your brother. As you said "once there is life there is hope " move on and be happy.
Thank you
You are welcome
I always have this imaginary discussion with myself where I put my kids in front of me and teaching them things in the right way. I have promised to give them the best of life and it is one of the reasons I am working so hard so they can enjoy what I didn't enjoy. My family especially my siblings are my spark that keeps me going and working hard daily. Sorry about Maame.
#dreemerforlife
Thank you sweet dreemer
I'm so sorry to hear about your sister, Abena 😔 that must be very difficult. It's ok to feel sadness and have lower moods and slip into melancholy from time to time. If we recognise it and make sure that it doesn't become a problem, it is good to get the emotions out! Sending you much love !LUV !LADY
#dreemerforlife
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Thank you so much Sam, this means a lot to me
The first paragraph really got me. Celebrating and mourning at the same time? How sad.
It's good that even though time doesn't heal as they say, you all remain one happy family that you could draw your strength from and see every reason to wake up and see their faces.
#dreemrforlife
Yeah that’s true sweet dreemer