…she had this confidence
One kind mind! Nerve…I couldn’t handle!
I was just screaming “James! James!! James!! Who’s this? Who’s she?"
…Sharon. That’s her name
Sharon is James’ first baby mama!
James came down and was like "Jenny please go inside. Let me handle this!"
A: Wait oh! James get baby mama? How? Why didn’t you know?
J: He has 3 baby mamas(2 whites, 1 Nigerian)
A: No! No! How didn’t you know? Didn’t He Tell You?His family nko?do they know?
J: James mama say hin no fit marry Igbo. That’s why they’re not married
Yet nobody told me anything!
I cried so much that night! It’s barely 3 months into my marriage and Ifelt like I’m failing already!
The worst part be say baba said “I’m a man! I don’t owe you any explanation! Atleast it’s you I married and brought into my house!"
The next morning I got into a plane to go see my mum…I don tire
I got home to meet my mum already recovering and feeling well.
My mum was of age…let me get some advice from her.
After all I said and cried, all my mum could say was “a husband’s house is a school of knowledge. For a man to have children out of wedlock isn’t a disease
Good husbands are scarce out there. One woman is hardly ever enough for a man these days. Just try and birth a child for him. Have patience. Always look awayin situations like this. Don’t nag. And obey your husband in order to last and remain relevant in your marriage.
I broke into tears completely.
The next morning she made me call James oh. That I should always make peace, apologize even when he’s at fault, and never deny him sex…no matter what
A: Haaa!! Is this how they lived their own lives?
J: Ann, naso I apologize oh in the process of speaking, he now said…Babe, I love you for this”. He now said I should buy some creams in order to tone my skin. That I’m too black, and I’m beginning to look unattractive to him.
Naso as a good wife, I began using creams to bleach my body…till I became like this
Ever since I got back, the only thing I did was listen..no arguing…no nagging. What was running in my mind was “you can’t be a divorcee…who will marry a divorcee? I can’t fail… I can’t embarrass my family
James took the habit of forcefully having his way with me…as that gives him more pleasure.
Few punches and slaps each time I try to struggle.
Ann, I lost every sense of being alive, a woman. I lost myself being married. I was dying slowly till when I had a little glimps of hope…I took in.
A:(sobing) don’t tell me… please
J: I was pregnant!
Immediately I took in, I became disgusting to James. He wouldn’t even share a bed with me. That I had this smell he didn’t like
He started sleeping out often – abandoning me!
Till one night I tried to stop him, and we got into a fight – I LOST…(burst into tears)
(crying helplessly)
I cuddled my friend. The pain was so much.
J: I lost my baby(5 months gone)
I felt my soul leave my body. I cried so much – too much till I couldn’t anymore! My baby was supposed to be my saving grace…now GONE!!
James came to the hospital once! Paid the bills, and left. Ann he left!!
I stayed longer in the hospital, and saw a therapist.
My friend, what can I do with my life now? How will I move on? How can I forget all of these?
I failed! I lost! I gave myself away!
A: ( with tears in my eyes) Jenny look at me…(I couldn’t mutter anything…I burst into another round of tears)
J: What can I do? I can’t go back to James and the marriage.
What can I do with my self now?
We both were soaked in tears.
The end
See as my heart was just beating throughout. I was filled with anger and annoyance at the same time how can someone even think of such a thing. Like like I better cook down before continuing my comment
it's really sad. She made a huge mistake, and paid dearly for it. It's left for us to learn from her mistakes.