Love hurts because people want the one person who does not like them, the heart indeed wants what it wants but forcing yourself on someone who is not attracted to you nor interested in you leads to heartbreak.
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You could get their attention through materialistic things, you could use the pity card on them or any other trick you can think of but in the end, they will end up leaving because you are not their choice.
When they see someone they love, they will leave and that is when the victim comes out to say they used and dumped them, the signs were there all along but you chose to ignore them because you only care about the way you feel.
Love should be a mutual feeling between both parties, fall in love with someone who loves you, someone who is ready to stay committed and ride the life journey with you, not someone who stays because of what they benefit from you.
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If you ask people why they are in a relationship with the person they are dating, you will see reasons like
I am with him because he loves and adores me
I love him because he treat me right
I love her because she obeys and cares for me
Why is the reason always about the person? what happens if they stop treating you right or stop doing that thing that makes you be in a relationship with them, a good reason to be in a relationship with someone is not because of what they do for you, it should be how they make you feel when you are with them, I love reasons like
I am with him because I love him.
I am with him because I feel great when he is around
I don't even know why I love her.
You see that the third reason is simply the best, when you don't know why you love someone, everything they do seems perfect to you and you see perfection in their imperfection.
The reason why love hurts is people don't date for good reasons, some date for money some date for sex, and other selfish reasons and when they eventually get what they want, they look for ways to dump their partner, it could be giving attitude or silent treatment and nothing kills a relationship faster than lack of communication.
So before you enter that relationship, make sure that the person you want also wants you and don't depend on someone else to be happy, deep emotional attachment always lead to heartbreak and when you become too clingy, you could scare that person off.
In the end, there is no formula to love, what does not work for someone people works perfectly for others... Just love yourself, treat your partner right and leave the rest to God.
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A guy has a girlfriend but has another lady he started seeing recently. I don’t know if they are dating but does all she wants for her and the closeness is too much
What could be happening? He likes her? And what happens between him and his girlfriend?
some guys are promiscuous, nothing might have happened between him and his gf, he might feel like flirting with the other girl or maybe he has fallen out of love with his gf and is now attracted to the new girl. the first girl need to find out where he stand in his life so as not to waste her time...
Hmm okay
I am not in love and I was never in a romantic relationship but I can understand people well. So, If I choose anyone, I must choose a suitable one for me. Still, your advice is good and I will keep it in mind because you are an experienced one when it comes to love.
yea man, choose someone you love who loves you too...
When it circle on benefit there is no love, if either of the party isn't benefitting that which was of interest anymore, the whole thing will stop.
And looking back it, it will be a wasted effort.
The thing is just simple, when they choose not to overlooked if the person truly loves.
Unfortunately, many ignore the signs and redflags
l guessed that is where they get theirself into heart break, meanwhile, it doesn't have to be like that, it should be giving beautiful feelings.
that's ideal situation, however, in many cases, the one is loved does not correspond the same way or simply does not feel the same
then it is better to let go than forcefully stay in such a ship
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It's easy to get caught up in wanting to be liked or chasing after someone who doesn’t feel the same way. But you're right—love should be mutual and based on genuine feelings, not material things or trying to 'win' someone over. I think many of us forget to value ourselves first and rush into relationships for the wrong reasons.
I think many of us forget to value ourselves first and rush into relationships for the wrong reasons.this is the truth, and it is not a matter of value, it is for selfish reasons