When it comes to bad habits, I do have more than one but I do not really see them as bad habit, it is more of a way of keeping myself safe from the cruelty of the world.
The first bad habit of mine is a lack of trust in everyone, I trust nobody, which is why I do not get too close to people to the extent that they will know everything about me.
There is a saying that people can not hurt what they do not know, and in most betrayal stories I have heard, it is someone close to the victims who betrayed them.
I do not allow people to get to know my weakness to the extent of them hurting me.
There is no way one won't make some friends, we could become entangled by work, school, or any other things that could make us join hands together, so I at least allow some people into my life.
The other bad habit I have is that the little people I grant access to my life, the moment I notice bad vibe, I let them go immediately without thinking twice about it. I won't even bother to ask them anything.
I made a close friend on 2go years ago, we were always going from one group to the other causing trouble, so it happened on this particular day that I was beefing with a girl that he seemed to like, I do not know who DM who, but the girl said something to me which only that my friend knows and that was how the good thing we had going got ruined, I never asked him if he told the girl anything, I jumped into conclusion that he did and I lost interest in Him for that and that ends our close bond.
It also means I easily jump to conclusions and do not bother asking people to explain themselves, I prefer walking away and avoiding them rather than starting endless conversations.
It is easier for me to walk away Once I see any signs of me getting hurt.
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I don't know if having trust issues qualify as bad habit, it is good to be cautious though however do let it lead everything you do, some people can be trusted and we need people for this journey called life
Unfortunately, I trust no one, my heart does not want to get hurt so I can be paranoid sometimes when it comes to dealing with people
Nobody is perfect, but that doesn't mean you will not trust some people to a certain extent.
certain extent that that they wont bE Able to hurt me is FINE
Once a person loses faith in another person, then a person can never respect that person, even if a person apologizes as much as he wants, then such a relationship can never be established. All these things are one in our life. It has happened twice, we can never respect this person again.
I don't consider any habit you mentioned here are bad. I prefer it to say good habit because you already created your own universe for yourself. It's good and many people can't do that.
YEA you get it right, jusT in my fortress of solitude not allowing anyone in
I think that's a good mentality to have when it comes to building all kinds of relationships. Trust takes time to build and being too trusting in the early stages us definitely not the way to go. People usually take you for granted.
not only take one for granted, they also use the person
Personally, I don’t think not trusting people counts as a bad habit . I like to think it has to do with individual preferences. Some people don’t like to open up to others and and that’s totally fine.
Assumption on the other had can lead to a lot of problems , it’s better to ask and get the right answer than to assume and not even know the truth.
I assume alot and yea it also make me act fasT When it comes to cuttiNG people off, and seems you are right, Sometimes Things maY not be as We aSsUMED IT to be
Does it mean Burl doesn't trust Princess? 🤔 😃😃
You see the second part, I do that too. I believe in walking away or letting it go than trying to ask questions to know what went wrong because I see it as prolonging matters which I try to avoid. If someone hurts me so much, I rather let him or her go away or I choose to forgive and let go but would already know my boundary and my limits with such a person.
lolz, I don't trust queen and King too🏃♂️
Yea I also think that is the best, no fight no argument, just distance myself from them
I think lack of trust is not a bad habit but too much of everything is not good. My bad habit is that I trust people too much and I end up being hurt at the end of the day. So it is always better to be at the middle
never trust anyone to the extent of letting them know what will hurt you, people can not be relied on
I think having trust issues is a bad habit cause it could prevent you from keeping your expectations high on most things that aren’t worth it. Most of these things are what keeps us safe from breaking.
Do you mean you don't think it is a bad habit?
Those are what has been keeping me safe or getting used by others
I don’t think it is though.
Oh okay, Yea maybe it is not
Lol! This should be a must have habit then.....Well, to me this are not bad habits, rather you are just being careful with your life which is very much important. I will recommend this habits to anyone closed to me😅
yea I am very careful and extra vigilant lol
Hehe, trust issues is actually not a bad habit 😂, I have trust issues too, I don't fully trust anyone and I won't give any chance of anyone hurting me too, but quickly letting go, might just be the issue. Just that 😂
When people have disappointed you in various ways it's always very difficult to trust anyone