There was a time when I felt sad or depressed, I would shut myself off from everyone, and be on my own until I could shake off whatever was troubling me, and then appear again as if nothing happened... I am so used to this that no one knows when I am sad because, at that moment, I am nowhere around people... I stay alone and comfort myself till I get better.
What do I do when am alone? I think one thing that helps is music, being alone and vibing to different kinds of music heals me faster and the absence of people around me at that moment gives me ample time and space to think about the next step of action.
Even though, I still love to heal in solitude, my mindset about it changed 4 years ago, misfortune befell me and a friend of mine and we only had each other, so we comforted each other, talking and analyzing what we did wrong and giving each other hope that the future will be better, talking to him really helped to heal the pains I was feeling and I even smile during the conversation which shows the healing power of communication and expressing oneself when sad.
My perspective on how I deal with sadness and depression changed after those moments with the guy and I realized why people prefer gisting with close friends when they are down, it helps them to forget their loss or whatever is causing them pain at that moment.
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Sometimes when we are sad, all we need is a good listener to tell our problem and not judge us, I guess this is why people love to tell me their sad stories. A brother called me one morning and was in tears, it is rare to see a guy cry and one of the things that can make men cry is heartbreak. So he told me about how his partner was misbehaving and cheating on him, lamenting about what he had done for her, and even told me how mad he was that he already damaged his fan, I have been the one he tells stuff since I knew him 12 years ago so he didn't mince words for me, After the long call, he felt better, he didn't need my advice, he just want to pour out his mind and I also know that it is fruitless advising someone in love so I just listen and comfort him.
He felt better after the phone call and there are others like that which made me believe pouring our hearts out is one of the best ways to get rid of depression, most people who commit suicide bottled up their feelings till they lost control of themselves.
If you are going through tough time, pour your heart out to your close friend or family, be sure those people you are telling have your best interest at heart,don't tell your story to someone who would later use it to mock you.
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One thing I love about myself is that I don't bottle things...I express myself the way it is without piling it in my heart. The only thing is that I know the kind of thing I tell people depending on our relationship. But overall, I feel better laying out my worries
We all deal with sadness and depression differently, I think healing in solitude works better.