Humans are the most dynamic of all beings. With their different faces come their different personalities. Some of these personalities align with ours, making it easy to connect, flow effortlessly, or even build friendships. On the other hand, we may encounter people as tough as anything we can think of, frustrating to deal with, and almost impossible to reason with. These are the ones we might not even want to meet again if given a second chance.
Like everyone else, I interact with different people daily, some of the sweetest souls and others who seem impossible to understand. One of my worst people to deal with are people who nag a lot and are difficult to please. Generally, it's understandable that people will always have something to say about the things you do. You can expect everyone to agree with whatever you do or say but their are levels to this nagging of a thing. It gets worse when you're rendering some sort of help to them and still, they seem not be satisfied with whatever you do and they keep nagging.
Having to deal with such a person is a very hard nut to crack as much as living with them is. I've had to live with a relative who is the biggest nag I've ever met in my life. An aged aunt, who needed someone to stay with her for a while when all her kids were away. I volunteered to stay with her, it wasn't long till I realized that was one mistake I made. Nothing I do seem to please her, not to talk her constant whining and complaining at the time. Not only does she find fault in everything, she makes she tells you in the harshest of ways, her words are not always the nicest. When I do things around her home, she tells me how she would've done it better and I'm looking at someone who looked like she would breaks when she bends. There's a difference between constructive criticism and just being annoying, for her part, she was the later.
When I started to live with her, it was like going through hell. I'm used people appreciating my efforts and being nice when you do things for them. But on the contrary, I was stuck with someone who did the opposite. During my early days with her, I was constantly feeling unhappy because, I know I am trying my best to do things the way she would want them done. To follow all her little rules about almost everything. But somehow, I was still not doing enough. It was frustrating and tiring. I made excuses for her,maybe she did that because she was quite old, old people can be annoying right?. Yet, it didn't take away how bad I used to feel.
After a while, I stopped trying so hard to please, apparently that was never going to happen, also that was the only way to keep my sanity. I only focused on doing things the right way as much as I can. The constant nags didn't get to me anymore, at least I didn't allow it. I tried to be patient with her all through my stay with her. I realized some of the things she said were only out of her frustration because she depended on other people to get things done. With that taken into consideration, I started to react less to most of the things she said.
At the end of my stay, I wouldn't say I completely understand all her emotions but I was happy I could understood her enough to stay 6 years with her. It turned a long stay eventually, one of which helped me learn a lot of important life lessons. You only know how to deal with people when you interact with them. There is no formula to human interactions and not everyone we meet are what we expect them to be. Everything just takes understanding and not losing one's self trying to do so.
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That’s an interesting one. I don’t think I would have lasted a year there but look at you! You tolerated her for years and even learned an important lesson from it. Great job.
Her name should be Patience, nickname Endurance ok bye 🙂↔️
The name of my Aunt in question is Endurance😂😂
God abeg! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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STOPOnce you realize there is a lesson to be learnt in every hard time, it becomes smooth sailing 💝
True.
Then you have a reason to smile through the pain.
Certainly 💯💝
Dealing with humans can be very difficult, we just need a lot of patience and tolerance to do that.
Or else, we'll keep having issues with almost everyone.