Marriage Requires Both Love And Money To Stand
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There is this popular saying "Marriage is for mature minds" I never understood it until I decided to start up a serious relationship. You see that thing called "understanding", that's one of the major pillars of marriage. Material things will fade, love will also fade, beauty will fade, and the vibes that you like about your man or your woman will also fade.
In the end, you would be left with nothing but your true selves, it is at that point that you will know whether you truly love the person or not. I realized recently that we easily get tired of doing one thing over and over. When we stay with something for a particular period of time, we get tired of it no matter how much we love it.
This is why apart from love, try your best to build understanding in your relationships. understanding encapsulates a lot of things, patience, tolerance, endurance, and so on. If you can be able to develop this trait with your partner, you will last long.
I am always scared of talking about marriage, there was a time in my life when I was so eager to become an adult so that I would get married but as I grew up and saw what is happening in most homes, that morale died off.
I always advise people to take their time before they go into marriage. hope you know that there are two ways of marrying, there's is jumping into marriage and going into marriage, LOL. I wish to expatiate but it will take me out of course, so I'll reserve it for another day.
The greatest mistake anyone will ever make in his or her life is to rush into marriage because people are on their necks when you give birth, none of those persons will sponsor your child in school, none of them will buy you pampers, none of them will buy you food.
There was a day one of my uncles came to our house after we finished exchanging greetings, he was like, I want to see you later. I thought I committed an offense because he was like our grandfather.
when I came he said, "What are your plans concerning marriage"? When I heard that I laughed. I told him I was not yet ready and guess what he replied? "I got married at your age, and I did not have any job then, I was only farming but look at me today".
While I was still thinking about what to tell him he added, "You are even lucky your mom is still alive and your father built a house for you, so it's not going to be a big deal we are here for you"
After the conversation, I told him thank you, sir, I'll think about it and I left. I understand the point he was trying to make, he wants me to get married at an early age so that I can have enough time to train my kids but the truth is time has changed, our era is not like theirs and you can farm anywhere and make bumper harvest. Things are difficult now, I can't take that risk
Marriage is something that needs balance, when I talk of balance I am not necessarily saying you must have a surplus of everything, no! What I mean is attaining a stature where you won't have to be running Helter skelter begging or taking loans to cater for your family.
Is balance all about Money? No! You also need to be balanced in your mind. You can't carry a baby's heart into marriage, your home will crash. You need to have a large heart that can absorb anything because marriage is fire and water.
For me, both money and love are very vital in marriage, especially at this age, there is hunger everywhere, and it won't be nice to take someone's daughter who looks very pretty at her father's house and turn her into an old rag. It doesn't sound nice.
But don't get me wrong I am not saying one must become a millionaire before he or she gets married, if that's what is on your mind, then I am so sorry to break this news to you but you may remain single for life. Once you have a reliable source of income and you are convinced you are ready, please shoot your shot.
I also need love because it is what will keep the two of us together, without love, you will not enjoy your marriage at all. You may feel as if you are in prison. Although, love is something that can happen anytime if it is given the opportunity.
For me to get married, I must be balanced financially and emotionally, we don't need to deceive ourselves, if you don't have money how can you cater to your family? What will you feed them with? Is it love? I am not saying this to discourage anyone but if you are not financially stable please don't get married unless you want to die of high blood pressure.
Most of our parents today are victims of hypertension because of this same thing, they want to care for their family but they don't have any means to do so, suddenly the children start misbehaving in order to cope with life and they can't tell them anything because they know deep within that they are not performing their duties as parents. Please don't be a victim.
When either love or money is lacking in marriage peace cannot be found in that family, there are other things but these ones are the basic ones, if you have them the other ones will follow but if you have only one of them your home may still crash.
For a marriage to work, understanding and trust are vital ingredients in addition to love and money. I agree with you that if one jumps into married, trying to yield in to pressure from some people around, those people may likely be nowhere to be found when the fellow is jumping out of the marriage. I thought I understood the workings of this institution perfectly but my experience in marriage in the last two years taught me that learning continues on how to make my union work. When there is understanding, both parties can manage resources and be contented.
Thank you for the beautiful piece.
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Wow!! Marriage needs balance on every side, this is why yielding to the pressure exerted by society to get married is deadly. If people like you with experience haven't mastered the course then one needs to take his or her time before embarking on such a journey.
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Jumping into marriage and going into marriage
Really interesting point of view.
It’s true and I don’t think anyone should jump into marriage.
Also you’re right,having only just money or only just love might in a marriage,you might end up being crashed.
LoL.. I am glad you got my point ma. Marriage is a lifetime something, it would not be nice to spend your life in pains and sorrow. This is why one needs these things before taking a step into marriage
For a marriage to work, a lot things are required; love, trust, money, understanding and many other things.
Nobody should rush into getting married especially, one that is not financially stable.
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That is true mom.. anyone who rushes into marriage will also rush out..
What does in marriages today will make you question the rationality of getting married. Both love and money are equally important in a marriage because the absence of one of them can lead to a lot of problems and even divorce in the worst case. The important thing here is just to have a stable source of income and just as you said, a person doesn't need to wait to become a multi-millionaire before getting married
Gbam, that's exactly what I am saying. The ways things are going now, it will be unwise to go into marriage without considering your stature financially.
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For any relationship to work, there must be love with a touch of money. Though these days people prefer money over love, as our world continues to evolve things continue to change.
Hehehh, you got it broh. The two must be in place inorder for things to workout else, be prepared for war😂
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I don't think there should be any pressure in these things. Marriage is such a delicate issue that needs a matured mind, a matured partner and of course a matured pocket. It's not something you jump into, especially with the rate of divorce in these times. Take your time dear. Glad you have a good understanding of how it works.
Hmm you seem to have a very broad understand on this subject, God will see us through. As for me, I am not having that in mind anytime soon.. I never chop food dey okay yet😂😂
Lol. I feel you bro.😆
😂😂😂.. happy Sunday dear