You know those moments when you expect things to go one way, but reality just humbles you? Yeah, that was me on this date. Looking back, I probably should have just taken the hints and saved myself the stress.
So here’s what happened.
I got this girl’s number through my roommate, who happened to be her friend. We started chatting, and honestly, the vibe was great. Conversations were flowing, jokes were landing, and it felt like we had a connection. At some point, I thought, “Okay, this girl is cool. Maybe we should meet up.”
That’s when I suggested we go on a date. Nothing fancy—just a casual meetup at the school cafeteria. But then she hit me with:
"I don’t really like going on dates with guys."
Now, I probably should have taken that as a sign to let it go, but nope. I insisted. I told her it would be worth it, that we’d have fun, and eventually, she agreed.
Fast forward to the day of the date. I showed up looking sharp, ready to have a nice time. But the moment I got to the meeting spot, I knew something was off.
She was already sitting down… with her friend.
Now, I don’t have a problem with people bringing friends, but a little heads-up would have been nice. I had expected a one-on-one date, but now, it felt more like I had walked into a mini gathering. I sat down, feeling slightly uncomfortable, but I tried to keep my cool.
After some small talk, I noticed she wasn’t eating, so I casually asked, “Why aren’t you eating?”
She replied, “I’m okay for now.”
And then, for some reason, the next thing that came out of my mouth was:
"I never said I was getting you anything."
Now, before you judge me, let me explain. I had no intention of buying anything for her friend from the start. It just wouldn’t make sense for me to get food for the girl I invited and completely ignore her friend. That would’ve been awkward. So in my head, I figured it was better to just avoid the situation entirely.
But the moment I said it, I knew I had messed up.
She looked at me like I had just insulted her ancestors, and her friend gave me this side-eye that screamed, “Are you for real right now?” I didn’t even mean it in a bad way—I was just stating the fact—but yeah, it came out all wrong.
From that point on, the date was basically over. The conversation died completely. She was just pressing her phone, barely saying anything, and the vibe was completely off. I could feel the awkwardness in the air, and trust me, I just wanted to disappear.
I tried to revive the conversation a few times, but it was like talking to a brick wall. She wasn’t interested, I was already frustrated, and the whole thing just felt like a waste of time. So, at some point, I decided, “Yeah, I’m done.”
I got up, told her it was nice seeing her (even though it really wasn’t), and left. I didn’t even look back.
Walking away, I kept replaying everything in my head. Maybe I shouldn’t have pushed for the date. Maybe I should have asked if she was bringing someone. Maybe I should have phrased my words better. Whatever the case maybe, I learned my lesson.
Moral of the story? If a girl tells you she doesn’t like going on dates, just believe her and keep it moving.
Have you ever had a date go this badly? What would you have done in my situation? Let me know in the comments!
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She should have let you know that she was coming with a friend because really,that was not cool. You were not prepared for that at all and maybe she also didn't want to press forward hence the tag along.
Anyways your last advice is on point
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She should have informed you she was coming with her friend. It's a date and not get together or meeting.
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I thought the same thing my bro. It's just so annoying but yeah I also have a blame in it. Thanks for the comment brother.
The lady would have informed you that she was coming along with a friend. Anyways, the deed has been done and good enough, you learned from the experience
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That is the major issue but then I should have just left her alone after asking her for the first time and she stylishly said no.
You have said it yourself -
However that is in hindsight. She did not want to be on a date so she unexpectedly brought a friend. The whole situation was awkward and thereafter it went downhill with your comment. This date is full of good lessons to learn - hence it was not a total disaster.
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