Hello everyone, I am @aowilson and I am thrilled to write about double dating .
First I want to define what dating is. I personally see dating as a relationship between two matured individuals with the singular aim of getting marriage. I used the word singular aim because dating is not just some fun games as many people have turned it to be now, dating is as serious as your breathing. The end point of dating is marriage, the goal of dating is marriage. During dating period, strengths and weaknesses are assessed and addressed, insecurities are health with and emotional bonding is built up.
Double Dating now involves having two or more partners by which you are checking out compatibly for marriage.Some reasons why some people double date:
- Immaturity: Dating is for serious and matured minds who are ready to take responsibilities and not for immature minds who are still playing fun. So, an immatured individual is more likely to double date.
- Insecurity: Some people fear that their partners may leave them and so they tend to have so many other options. Sometimes from past experiences or advice from friends and parents.
- Greed: This is one major cause of double dating, most people are into relationships for the gains of it, money, gifts, and even emotional stability. Some people are not satisfied with just one person and tends to keep many others around.
4.Uncertainty: Most people do not know what they really want, you find them jumping into different relationships with different kinds of people. Whatever comes their way, they open up and receive. - Ignorance: Well, it would be hard to believe but some people actually do not know that double dating is not the right thing to do. Some people believe that the journey towards marriage is like a football league where you try different people at once and your life partner emerges as the winner of the finals. So sad 😢
I personally do not support double dating for the following reasons:
- Partners would not enjoy a "double dating" partner because their attention and energy would be divided. Maximum love will not be enjoyed for this reason.
- It causes hurts to both partners: except your conscience is dead, you will actually feel bad when you double date. Peace of mind would be far from you because you do not want to get caught.
- It shows irresponsibility: if you're not ready for a commitment, then stick to being just friends and nothing more.
- Lack of accountability: if I were a CEO and would employ someone, I would never employ someone who I know double dates, why because, they can't be accountable...
Deal with your insecurities, grow and be matured in mind. If you are not sure of what you want, then don't dive into it and toil with somebody's emotions. It will be for your own betterment because you will be at peace. Your mind will be at peace, you will be free.
Dating is a serious business that involves serious minded individuals not some boy and girl who are not ready for commitment.
I will like to conclude with this. IF YOU ARE DOUBLE DATING, GO AND CHOOSE ONE PARTNER AND STICK TO THEM. CHOOSE ONE. IT WAS ONE ADAM AND ONE EVE!!!
Peace out ✌️🫴
AO Wilson
Thank you for sharing this piece with us..I agree with you on this @aowilson
I totally understand your point here brother. It is even better to be friends with them and still be doing things like friends with benefits if you know you can't stay committed than date them and have someone else in the corner.
Your last line bro is superb.
I totally agree with the points you stated. The issue and rise of double dating can be attributed to the misconception of what dating entails. So sad the fallen society is dictating what is and is not. Like you said, it's for the matured, not a game for the immatured. One should be strong in mind and body before thinking of dating even.